Fatherhood

[Linkinfark]

As I will soon be promoted into the above, would like my fellow forumers to share their experiences from the beginning.. like when wife was pregnant, in labour, confinement period etc.. just to get some feedback in how to be a 'good' husband and father..

[daBoss]

i only have one piece of advice. you better start training for 'pretending to be deaf' when the baby cries in the middle of the night.

:)

[siewjang]

Wah, Linkinfark want to have decent talk. Turning over a new leaf now? Not bad, not bad.

[siewjang]

i only have one piece of advice. you better start training for 'pretending to be deaf' when the baby cries in the middle of the night.

:)
Hehe, that is me.

Well, I does that when baby was weaned on formula. But i have a understanding hubby. He will be the one who is making the milk.

My advice would be, from the very beggining even during confinement, don't carry your baby on his first cries. Pat him a bit, offer him water. Some baby will settled with that. you just need to try out all ways and get to know him. Never say no.

[siewjang]

One thing that you never ask your wife in the labour room, "Is it painful?"

[daBoss]

Hehe, that is me.

Well, I does that when baby was weaned on formula. But i have a understanding hubby. He will be the one who is making the milk.

My advice would be, from the very beggining even during confinement, don't carry your baby on his first cries. Pat him a bit, offer him water. Some baby will settled with that. you just need to try out all ways and get to know him. Never say no.
ah jang... i think you misunderstand me. i mean turn a deaf ear so that linkinfark's wife does ALL the work taking care of the baby at night... :D

[song cm]

ah jang... i think you misunderstand me. i mean turn a deaf ear so that linkinfark's wife does ALL the work taking care of the baby at night... :D

wah..daBoss, don be so bad n teach Linkin all the bad points...

For me, I aso help out in the nite feeding (after the breast feedin period) but the one thing dat I would never do is changing diapers when the baby jus pangsai.... :D

[siewjang]

Betul la. Same meaning as yours.

The rest is for him to learn.

[daLady]

One thing that you never ask your wife in the labour room, "Is it painful?"

Yup...agree with that. And if she doesn't want any pain killer, so be it and say no more! Don't pressure her to take any just because you feel helpless seeing her in pain.

[daLady]

wah..daBoss, don be so bad n teach Linkin all the bad points...

For me, I aso help out in the nite feeding (after the breast feedin period) but the one thing dat I would never do is changing diapers when the baby jus pangsai.... :D

daBoss not much hope already...poor me. He helped the first 6 months with the first kid - change diapers, feeding and dukung dukung. Now, he more or less washed his hands off everything. :(

[Dino]

Do the mothers expect the fathers to clean the butt?

[clos]

there are 2of my frenz, they got this depression thingy, after delivering d baby. why is that? :rolleyes:
siewjang & dalady, did u2 got any of it? :confused:
1 of my gf, her hubby until d extend got her a LV bag, to cheer her up... :eek:

[clos]

Do the mothers expect the fathers to clean the butt?

yes, DINO.....
of course, all ladies would prefer the hubby help out in EVERYTHING, right ladies?

[siewjang]

there are 2of my frenz, they got this depression thingy, after delivering d baby. why is that? :rolleyes:
siewjang & dalady, did u2 got any of it? :confused:
1 of my gf, her hubby until d extend got her a LV bag, to cheer her up... :eek:
Never happen to me. Probably I have a loving hubby and supporting family. Plus you need all the rest, rest, rest. Hubby played an important role to avoid depression. Lots of love hugs and kisses.

If he would ever spend his money buying LV bag, I would freak!!!!!!

[Dino]

Never happen to me. Probably I have a loving hubby and supporting family. Plus you need all the rest, rest, rest. Hubby played an important role to avoid depression. Lots of love hugs and kisses.

If he would ever spend his money buying LV bag, I would freak!!!!!!

Sigh....hate to ask but what is LV bag??

[siewjang]

Do the mothers expect the fathers to clean the butt?
Who would not? But hub helped out on the butt thing when baby is about 6 to 8 mths old. They are less fragile at that moment. You know, mens are very cho loh wan.

[song cm]

daBoss not much hope already...poor me. He helped the first 6 months with the first kid - change diapers, feeding and dukung dukung. Now, he more or less washed his hands off everything. :(

send him for a refresher course...

[song cm]

Sigh....hate to ask but what is LV bag??

yeah...wats dat??

[siewjang]

Sigh....hate to ask but what is LV bag??
Dino, love you for that. LV = Louis Vuitton bag. Pasar malam also can get.

[song cm]

Dino, love you for that. LV = Louis Vuitton bag. Pasar malam also can get.

ohh...and i thot it was some medical thingy.... :)

[Dino]

I thot it was Love Bag.....my imagination was getting pretty twisted with that.

[clos]

dino,
LV - louis vuitton

siewjang,
wah, very loving la tu....ada sport rims, ada lovey dovey hub....

men, all hangat hangat taik ayam, helping out in the 1st anak, after that, wash hands cuz they know what happened in the 1st experiences.

[clos]

I thot it was Love Bag.....my imagination was getting pretty twisted with that.

dino,
omg, wat on earth is a LOVE BAG? hahahah..... :p

leakingfark,
i hope ure reading this fast and clear, every1s posting and ure still lunching?

[Dino]

dino,
omg, wat on earth is a LOVE BAG? hahahah..... :p


That was what i was thinking!!!! I am glad its a handbag. Save me from my twisted mind.

[song cm]

That was what i was thinking!!!! I am glad its a handbag. Save me from my twisted mind.

Hmm... Dino's love bag is either one fill with sex toys or full of cash....rite??

[daLady]

there are 2of my frenz, they got this depression thingy, after delivering d baby. why is that? :rolleyes:
siewjang & dalady, did u2 got any of it? :confused:
1 of my gf, her hubby until d extend got her a LV bag, to cheer her up... :eek:

This condition is known as post-natal blues or the more serious one, post-natal depression. One of the reason commonly cited is the drastic drop in the hormone level (can't remember which one) after delivery...more or less like PMSlah. Serious case one can be really teruk - need to see psychiatrist. In US, one woman drowned all her 5 children during one of her depression spells. Yup...it is that serious...

For me, not depressed but more emotional than usual loh...feel like crying even over seemingly small matters like when they had to extract blood from my son to test the jaundice level (very 'sam tong'), had to admit him for light therapy, got fever because breasts too engorged with milk...

Waht siejang said is true...it makes a big difference if the husband and everyone around you is more supportive....otherwise 1 kali sudah serik :D

[Dino]

Hmm... Dino's love bag is either one fill with sex toys or full of cash....rite??

No laaaa...full of "suem boey" wan.....

[Dino]

Serious case one can be really teruk - need to see psychiatrist. In US, one woman drowned all her 5 children during one of her depression spells. Yup...it is that serious...


That lady is a psychopath. Have u heard about the lady that murdered a pregnant woman, then cut her up to steal the baby? Man.....thats unreal!!

[daLady]

That lady is a psychopath. Have u heard about the lady that murdered a pregnant woman, then cut her up to steal the baby? Man.....thats unreal!!

Yikes....I'll stay away from women who has just delivered then :D

[Linkinfark]

dino,
omg, wat on earth is a LOVE BAG? hahahah..... :p

leakingfark,
i hope ure reading this fast and clear, every1s posting and ure still lunching?

Wah, just back from lunch and so many feedback liao.. thank you thank you..
All points will be taken into account.
Luckily my mom and mom in law will be around to help out. But then again it won't last, so guess will have to learn all the necessary stuff. Daboss, you need refresher course? Can come clean my baby's ass!! :D
Definitely will give wife lots of loving hugs, kisses & encouragement.

[Linkinfark]

That lady is a psychopath. Have u heard about the lady that murdered a pregnant woman, then cut her up to steal the baby? Man.....thats unreal!!

This case was actually a lady who had a miscarriage who wanted to have a baby so much tht she steal literally from the womb of another woman. Sad case.
Read also of some mothers who murder their own babies cause of post natal depression.

[Dino]

This case was actually a lady who had a miscarriage who wanted to have a baby so much tht she steal literally from the womb of another woman. Sad case.
Read also of some mothers who murder their own babies cause of post natal depression.

You better take care of you wife then. No more playing with Fulak.

[siewjang]

...Luckily my mom and mom in law will be around to help out. But then again it won't last....
Don't think it's a good idea of both mothers to be around at the same time. They might want to do things different ways. Why don't you get your mom to help out for 2 weeks and continue with your mil for the next 2 weeks? Teruk, teruk case. later the 2 women fight over powers.

[siewjang]

You better take care of you wife then. No more playing with Fulak.
And keep those playboys magazine for the time being :D

[Linkinfark]

You better take care of you wife then. No more playing with Fulak.

Of course, me good boy, nowadays go walking with wifey.. You can usually see us at Ikano.. ha ha... Should be headed there today after work for her usual walk. By the way, Ikea sale starts this Thursday(30/12). Members get preview starting from 7am - 10am. Then from 10am open to public. :D

[daLady]

Don't think it's a good idea of both mothers to be around at the same time. They might want to do things different ways. Why don't you get your mom to help out for 2 weeks and continue with your mil for the next 2 weeks? Teruk, teruk case. later the 2 women fight over powers.

Don't think it will make any difference because you'll want to do things different from the two of them anyway... ;)

[Linkinfark]

Don't think it's a good idea of both mothers to be around at the same time. They might want to do things different ways. Why don't you get your mom to help out for 2 weeks and continue with your mil for the next 2 weeks? Teruk, teruk case. later the 2 women fight over powers.

Understand where you're coming from.. Currently I'm staying with my parents, my sis, her hubby & their two kids, 3 year old girl & 3 months old boy & my younger bro. All in the family! ha ha.. P

Anyway my mom mostly will take care of my sis's kids while my mom in law will mostly take care of my wife and baby. She's excited cause 1st grandchild mah.. Mom in law quite traditional and conservative while my mom a bit modern. So maybe clash of cultures.. Anyway my wife can 'control' her mom so hopefully will be okay..

[siewjang]

Of course, me good boy, nowadays go walking with wifey.. You can usually see us at Ikano.. ha ha... Should be headed there today after work for her usual walk. By the way, Ikea sale starts this Thursday(30/12). Members get preview starting from 7am - 10am. Then from 10am open to public. :D
Wah, this fatherhood thing really do his homework. Date of sale also know. Time also ada. Linkinfark, what's on sale huh?

[song cm]

Wah, this fatherhood thing really do his homework. Date of sale also know. Time also ada. Linkinfark, what's on sale huh?

Wow...I LOVE IKEA......................
Hey, sale until when?? :D

[siewjang]

.... So maybe clash of cultures.. Anyway my wife can 'control' her mom so hopefully will be okay..
Good luck to you then. That can be horrible. I've seen many, many cases.

mom: This can eat
m-i-l: That cannot eat.

mom: This can do
m-i-l: that cannot

mom: do it my way
m-i-l: no, my way!

should i say more...yes?

[Linkinfark]

And keep those playboys magazine for the time being :D

Don't have leh, don't even have collection of porn dvds! That's why need to borrow from Songcm

[song cm]

Don't have leh, don't even have collection of porn dvds! That's why need to borrow from Songcm

wah...now I sound like a hardcore peddler....

[siewjang]

Stop talking to Song then. He's making you horny.

[Linkinfark]

Wah, this fatherhood thing really do his homework. Date of sale also know. Time also ada. Linkinfark, what's on sale huh?

Wah! You think I work at Ikea ah??!! Lots of stuff la, I know cause they sent me a brochure mah.. Myself am a Ikea Friends member mah.. Just go and apply for Ikea Friends credit card, free for 5 years. Then everytime go get free coffee/tea and discounted price for a meal. My wife loves Ikea stuff also.. so most likely will be there around 6 something am to wait for doors to open.. kiasu..

[song cm]

Stop talking to Song then. He's making you horny.

wat abt you, my dear??

[Linkinfark]

Wow...I LOVE IKEA......................
Hey, sale until when?? :D
If not mistaken till 9th January.

[siewjang]

wat abt you, my dear??
duck from song cm

[song cm]

duck from song cm

haha... :D :D

[Linkinfark]

Good luck to you then. That can be horrible. I've seen many, many cases.

mom: This can eat
m-i-l: That cannot eat.

mom: This can do
m-i-l: that cannot

mom: do it my way
m-i-l: no, my way!

should i say more...yes?

Looks like gotta go thru and see how it goes lor.. :rolleyes:

[Linkinfark]

Stop talking to Song then. He's making you horny.

Me so horny.. so horny.. me so horny.. so horny... :D

[daLady]

Me so horny.. so horny.. me so horny.. so horny... :D

Eh...sure this one still about fatherhood ah... :rolleyes:

[song cm]

Eh...sure this one still about fatherhood ah... :rolleyes:

I guess it is becoz he is not gettin any in the final trimester plus aso on the first 6-8 weeks after birth... :D

[Linkinfark]

I guess it is becoz he is not gettin any in the final trimester plus aso on the first 6-8 weeks after birth... :D

Speaking from experience?! Did you know that sex is a great way to kickstart labour and my wife is real close to the delivering anytime now??! :p So doing a lot of 'kickstarting' lately.. :D
By the way, after the birth, how do you eh..handle the problem?

[song cm]

Speaking from experience?! Did you know that sex is a great way to kickstart labour and my wife is real close to the delivering anytime now??! :p So doing a lot of 'kickstarting' lately.. :D
By the way, after the birth, how do you eh..handle the problem?

Honestly...cannot recall how ler... I guess I was pretty busy n excited with the newborn to feel horny.... :D

Oh yes, and Mrs had ceasarian...so, I guess no need to wait for dat long......

[daLady]

Speaking from experience?! Did you know that sex is a great way to kickstart labour and my wife is real close to the delivering anytime now??! :p So doing a lot of 'kickstarting' lately.. :D
By the way, after the birth, how do you eh..handle the problem?

Walaueh...don't ge ge don't know...how did you handle it when you were young and got no partner in crime?

[Linkinfark]

Walaueh...don't ge ge don't know...how did you handle it when you were young and got no partner in crime?

Introduce to Mrs Palmer loh.. :D
Dunno whether Daboss knows them or not?!

[daLady]

Introduce to Mrs Palmer loh.. :D
Dunno whether Daboss knows them or not?!

Hmm...dunno whether he still knows her. Never caught them together though :D

[Linkinfark]

Hmm...dunno whether he still knows her. Never caught them together though :D

It's not easy to catch Mrs. Palmer in action.. :D

[daLady]

It's not easy to catch Mrs. Palmer in action.. :D

You know so well...tell me where to look for evidence lah:p

[Linkinfark]

You know so well...tell me where to look for evidence lah:p

This one is men's secret! How to disclose one?!! Afterwards all the 'heng tai' come after me!

[Linkinfark]

http://www.santorine.org/adolph/Movies/Fire.mpg

[daLady]

This one is men's secret! How to disclose one?!! Afterwards all the 'heng tai' come after me!

Alas...my colleagues hubby gave it away thru sheer carelessness. She found some sticky stuff on the toilet seat... :eek:

Hmm..now I know why guys spend such a long time in the toilet sometimes. The newspaper is just a cover-up, right... :p

[Linkinfark]

Alas...my colleagues hubby gave it away thru sheer carelessness. She found some sticky stuff on the toilet seat... :eek:

Hmm..now I know why guys spend such a long time in the toilet sometimes. The newspaper is just a cover-up, right... :p

Are you sure it's not shit?! :p

[kamkuey]

Are you sure it's not shit?! :p
or phelgm?

[Linkinfark]

Any other tips from Alka, Ausman or Ball Ung??! :D

[daLady]

Are you sure it's not shit?! :p

Ooh..you have clear shit??? :p

[daLady]

or phelgm?

Eh...we are married people lah...we know the difference when we see phlegm and... :rolleyes:

[Dino]

I have one advice for you LinkinFark....please don't bring your baby to the movie theater to watch movie unless you give the baby cough syrup!!! :D

[suliet]

Congratulations, Linkinfark on your promotion on 2nd January 2005 - to a Father. So you are very, very grown up with lots of responsiblities. Who does your baby boy looked like? Please send my regards to your wife.

[KoChun]

Congrats, Linkinfark. Promoted liao!!!

[Dino]

Cool!!! Congrats!!!

[song cm]

Congrats to you Mr Linkin...
Wish both the mummy n baby to be in the pink of health....and wish the daddy all the best..... :D

[siewjang]

Congratulations to you, Mr Linkin. Wah 2nd Jan. Same date as KoChun. Next year can celebrate b'day together.

[Voon Chan]

This condition is known as post-natal blues or the more serious one, post-natal depression. One of the reason commonly cited is the drastic drop in the hormone level (can't remember which one) after delivery...more or less like PMSlah. Serious case one can be really teruk - need to see psychiatrist. I consulted a nutritionist from US, I was told that if a person consume enough omega-3 fatty acids, she will not developed post natal blues.

[daLady]

Congrats to you Linkinfark...but guess you won't be logging in anytime soon to read all these posts... :D

[KoChun]

...but guess you won't be logging in anytime soon to read all these posts... :D

You'll never know, daLady. Life is full of surprises... :)

[LiLiaN]

here comes the music... congratulations... and celebrations....(*stop*! bad singing, go home!)....

anyway, congrats on your new addition to the family...!!!!!!

[KoChun]

Linkinfark is in the forum. :eek:

Congrats, brother!!!

[LiLiaN]

post some baby pics here leh... then i can prove to ang moh that babies are not born with blue eyes.. for some strange reason, there is old kwai loh saying that all babies have blue eyes... shesh... really....

(plus, real motive just want to see baby...lol....)

[Linkinfark]

Hi guys,
Thanks for all the wishes! Happy New Year! Logging in from home on dial up as on leave. It's been a hectic New Year's Eve as my wifey started to have some 'show' i.e. slight spotting of blood at around 6 something in the evening on 31/12/2004. So we called the hospital and they ask us to go in later. So we went makan with my family first, then came back and wifey took shower.
Went to the hospital around 10pm and was admitted. Then the wait started! Was kinda hoping for a New Year baby and the signs were there. Wife had contractions every 15 minutes. Spent the night there till morning. Still baby haven't arrive..
To cut a long story short, baby boy arrive only on 2nd at 1241am. Wife had drips to accelerate the contractions and when she couldn't stand the pain, had epidural. Finally baby was delivered with help from the doctor using forceps after almost an hour of pushing. I'm sure for those husbands who were in the labour room, it's an emotional rollercoaster!
Looking at wifey push till face red, really 'sum thung'.. But when baby's finally born, you feel it's really worth it.
Anyway my wife's already discharged today but baby had to stay back at the hospital's NICU(Neonatal Intensive Care Unit) for observation and treatment as he had slight infection in his lungs and slight jaundice. His breathing was also slightly fast so they had to supply him with oxygen to help him. He is also treated with antibiotics for the infection. Baby be able to come home by this week. Will keep you guys posted!
I'll post some pics when i'm back at the office. At home no broadband.

While I was at the NICU after my baby was taken there that night, was there around 2 something in the morning. There was another baby there who was born premature around 28 weeks. The poor thing was on life support and the doctor pronounced it dead. So it was real sad to see the parents crying.

Life's too short, enjoy life to the fullest!

[KoChun]

Thanks for the long story. Glad to know both mother and baby are in good shape :) .

[LiLiaN]

gosh, two days... that is a lot of work! but i'm sure it's all worth it and you now have a happy little bundle... were you at delivery room too..? one of my cousins was at his baby birth delivery room, and he fainted...

[piglet]

Congratulation :) !.... Remember to stick "Baby on Board" @ ur car ;)

[Linkinfark]

gosh, two days... that is a lot of work! but i'm sure it's all worth it and you now have a happy little bundle... were you at delivery room too..? one of my cousins was at his baby birth delivery room, and he fainted...

All the while i was in the delivery suite. It's actually a nice room with built in toilet. The moment we were admitted we were put in the delivery suite. Didn't faint. But for those fellow male ACSians who will faint if see blood, my advice is don't go in. There WILL definitely be lots of blood! :D

[piglet]

All the while i was in the delivery suite. It's actually a nice room with built in toilet. The moment we were admitted we were put in the delivery suite. Didn't faint. But for those fellow male ACSians who will faint if see blood, my advice is don't go in. There WILL definitely be lots of blood! :D

I'm going to faint soon

[Linkinfark]

Congratulation :) !.... Remember to stick "Baby on Board" @ ur car ;)

Do you have a 'Mother in Law in Boot' sticker?! :D

[LiLiaN]

All the while i was in the delivery suite. It's actually a nice room with built in toilet. The moment we were admitted we were put in the delivery suite. Didn't faint. But for those fellow male ACSians who will faint if see blood, my advice is don't go in. There WILL definitely be lots of blood! :D
yeah, i know, i've heard, it's a messy business... but beautiful messy, you know..

[piglet]

Do you have a 'Mother in Law in Boot' sticker?! :D

No.. but I've seen it on the road.. ;)

[Linkinfark]

I'm going to faint soon

Eh! Piggy faint?! You're suppose to give birth to babies mana boleh faint?! Anyway piggy always give birth to lots of piglets! :D

[Linkinfark]

yeah, i know, i've heard, it's a messy business... but beautiful messy, you know..

Agree agree.. but still messy..

[suliet]

KoChun, Linkinfark's baby has the same birthdate as yours. So, are you going to be the Godfather of Linkinfark's son?

[KoChun]

KoChun, Linkinfark's baby has the same birthdate as yours. So, are you going to be the Godfather of Linkinfark's son?

Well, maybe. Got to ask the father first.

Eh, I thought we got Godfather here already?

[Hisham]

Congrats Linkinfark.

I was in there in the labour room as well with my wife. It only took about 30 minutes, then plop! out came the baby, no problems. Very easy for the missus... at that time.

Then came the nightmare for my wife. It all got very painful for her after that. It turned out that there was a "blood clot the size of a small egg" down the birthing canal. They found this out after she was in the recovery room in pain for an hour. Then they shipped her out to surgery that night and my son had to spend his first night alone at the hospital's nursery. They both only returned home late the next day.

I was at the KL GH non-stop from 5.00 am to 10.00 pm. (Baby came at around 5.00 pm). It was one of the most unforgettable days of my life.

[siewjang]

Mr Linkin, how does your baby contract the lung infection? Can share a bit or not?

[suliet]

Jang, I do not how Linkinfark's baby got contracted with the lung infection but one thing I know for sure is do not consume a lot of oranges and cold drinks during pregnancy. This will cause the baby's lungs to contain phlegms and cause asthma. For the baby's complexion to look nice like Ang Mohs, you should consume cherry tomatoes. I know it really helps because I've consumed a lot of those during my pregnancy and my son really came out like Ang Moh.

[LiLiaN]

Jang, I do not how Linkinfark's baby got contracted with the lung infection but one thing I know for sure is do not consume a lot of oranges and cold drinks during pregnancy. This will cause the baby's lungs to contain phlegms and cause asthma. For the baby's complexion to look nice like Ang Mohs, you should consume cherry tomatoes. I know it really helps because I've consumed a lot of those during my pregnancy and my son really came out like Ang Moh.
wah, like this also can...? :p
(macam my aunt, don't drink coffee, must drink more soya milk!)

[daLady]

wah, like this also can...? :p
(macam my aunt, don't drink coffee, must drink more soya milk!)
Hmmm....have always wondered if there's any truth to all this. I have a colleague who die die also says it's true that if you drink loads of soya milk and milk, he/she will have super smooth skin.

She swears by it coz she is convinced that was the reason her son is fair...me a bit doubtful ler coz both husband and wife also very fair.

[daLady]

All the while i was in the delivery suite. It's actually a nice room with built in toilet. The moment we were admitted we were put in the delivery suite. Didn't faint. But for those fellow male ACSians who will faint if see blood, my advice is don't go in. There WILL definitely be lots of blood! :D
Can still go in lah...just stand kuai kuai beside the wife and don't go peeping :D

[daLady]

I'm going to faint soon
Don't worry, Piglet. You'll be the one lying down and with that big pouch...doubt you'll be able to see the blood even if you are an acrobat or contortionist... :D

[daLady]

Jang, I do not how Linkinfark's baby got contracted with the lung infection but one thing I know for sure is do not consume a lot of oranges and cold drinks during pregnancy. This will cause the baby's lungs to contain phlegms and cause asthma. For the baby's complexion to look nice like Ang Mohs, you should consume cherry tomatoes. I know it really helps because I've consumed a lot of those during my pregnancy and my son really came out like Ang Moh.
Err...can post a pic of your kid plus you and hubby? Just wanna be sure fair ang moh skin is not in either of your genes.

Maybe need to ask Ausman's mom if she consumed a lot of cherry tomatoes (or normal tomatoes)... :D

[LiLiaN]

Err...can post a pic of your kid plus you and hubby? Just wanna be sure fair ang moh skin is not in either of your genes.
i second the photo request - i love looking at pics... :D
ps: can maybe change thread name to parenthood liao...

[siewjang]

Suliet, I remembered your daughter also very fair and the lips is so red like after applying lipstick... wah.. beautiful... okok. need to consumed a lot 'tomato and cherry' now.

[Dino]

Suliet, I remembered your daughter also very fair and the lips is so red like after applying lipstick... wah.. beautiful... okok. need to consumed a lot 'tomato and cherry' now.

Psst....its cherry tomatoes. Not tomatoes and cherry.

[siewjang]

psst... very observant but did you see the "little mark there?"""""""""""""

[Dino]

psst... very observant but did you see the "little mark there?"""""""""""""

Psstt...yeah, saw that....but still...its cherry tomato.

[siewjang]

ok ok then I'll consumed more "cherry and tomatoes"..*sigh*

[Roland_Tang]

Congrats Linkinfark.

I was in there in the labour room as well with my wife. It only took about 30 minutes, then plop! out came the baby, no problems. Very easy for the missus... at that time.

Then came the nightmare for my wife. It all got very painful for her after that. It turned out that there was a "blood clot the size of a small egg" down the birthing canal. They found this out after she was in the recovery room in pain for an hour. Then they shipped her out to surgery that night and my son had to spend his first night alone at the hospital's nursery. They both only returned home late the next day.

I was at the KL GH non-stop from 5.00 am to 10.00 pm. (Baby came at around 5.00 pm). It was one of the most unforgettable days of my life.

Hey Hisham,
When did it happen? How's your missus now? Is she alright? Must have been a moment full of anguish. I hope you and your family are fine. Take care.

[suliet]

Okay, no problem. I can show you the photo of my son. The drinking coffee fact, it is not true. I do take coffee during my pregnancy. If drinking coffee will make your baby dark then don't consume anything in black like coke or soy sauce. And Siew Jang, remember it is cherry tomatoes - the small mini tomatoes. Why I suggested that is because it tastes better than the normal ones and you can consume more of those rather the big ones.

[suliet]

Linkin's baby is home liao. Can ask him to post photos like Lilian said we can start a parenthood thread. I think its gonna be fun.

[suliet]

Dalady, it is notlah fair like the blondes. Fair like ang moh means pinky cheeks with smooth and fair complexion.

[LiLiaN]

Linkin's baby is home liao. Can ask him to post photos like Lilian said we can start a parenthood thread. I think its gonna be fun.
can non-parents join in the talk too..???
(i only managed to maintain custody and ownership of pooh bear after "divorce" with my ex)..

[suliet]

Sure you can. I am also divorced and my ex have the custody of my kids. What to do life goes on....

[daLady]

Suliet...how many kids do you have?

[suliet]

I have 2. The eldest son is in Std 4 this year and my second is daughter in Std 2. Sorry-lah, having problem posting my kids' pictures. I think you'd better PM me your email address so that I can send to you by email.

[KoChun]

Suliet, can post pics now? I guess it should be quite easy, after you upload those pics.

[LiLiaN]

actually, how to upload pics leh..?
(can put this in the member's exchange section..?)

[KoChun]

Lilian, I pm you later. Okay?

[suliet]

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v222/suliet/My%20Beloved%20Kids/MyKids1.jpg
I hope this is it...

[KoChun]

Cute kids. Congrats, successfully posted. :)

[suliet]

Finally I've got it. Yeah Kochun you are right it is damn easy. Thank you so much for your "technical support". :D

[KoChun]

Finally I've got it. Yeah Kochun you are right it is damn easy. Thank you so much for your "technical support". :D

My pleasure. 'Knowledge' is meant to be shared. :)

[suliet]

Here is another one..... This is my son when he was about 6 -7 months.
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v222/suliet/My%20Beloved%20Kids/babyglester.jpg

[KoChun]

Same one? How come? Technical error, is it?

[KoChun]

Okay, editted liao.

[suliet]

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v222/suliet/My%20Beloved%20Kids/babyglestine.jpg
This is my daughter when she was 4 months old....

[daBoss]

My pleasure. 'Knowledge' is meant to be shared. :)
kochun, maybe you can create a sticky for this in the suggestions/feedback forum?

[suliet]

Okay I've started posting baby photos liao. Who's going to be next??

[KoChun]

kochun, maybe you can create a sticky for this in the suggestions/feedback forum?

Okay, will do it for the rest having problems to post pics.

[daBoss]

Okay I've started posting baby photos liao. Who's going to be next??
suliet, your kids are very good-looking (and fair :D, i bet dalady will start eating all that stuff you suggested... )

[suliet]

What stuff? Cherry tomatoes you mean. It is easy to grow also. And another stuff to take for good complexion is bird's nest.

Dalady, you can see the difference between my son and daughter. I did not take cherry tomatoes when I was conceiving my daughter but I took bird's nest. The results, I think cherry tomatoes are more effective.

[daBoss]

What stuff? Cherry tomatoes you mean. It is easy to grow also. And another stuff to take for good complexion is bird's nest.
yup, cherry tomatoes... wah, but bird's nest very expensive lah...

[suliet]

Surelah. What to do want to have good complexion.

[LiLiaN]

suliet, your kids are cute! guess this is one thread i'll be looking at a lot.. (but got no pics to post) :)

[LiLiaN]

kochun, thanks a mill for the tech support...
will go back and root for old pics from school.. then scan and post..

[KoChun]

kochun, thanks a mill for the tech support...
will go back and root for old pics from school.. then scan and post..

I've posted a sticky thread in the suggestion/feedback forum. Do refer there, should be as easy as ABC now. :)

[piglet]

yup, cherry tomatoes... wah, but bird's nest very expensive lah...

Daboss.. ur v lucky.. I know Dalady dun like birdnest :D

[daLady]

What stuff? Cherry tomatoes you mean. It is easy to grow also. And another stuff to take for good complexion is bird's nest.

Dalady, you can see the difference between my son and daughter. I did not take cherry tomatoes when I was conceiving my daughter but I took bird's nest. The results, I think cherry tomatoes are more effective.Wah...sulliet...your kids are so cute and yes, I have to agree that they bith have realy nice complexion, especially your son.

But still, I think there's not enough stats to support the cherry tomatoes claim. Nevertheless, I'll take your advice (since I quite like tomatoes) if boss and I decided to have no.3.:) I didn't take much soya or milk when I was pregnant...but luckily my kids turned out ok...their complexion, I mean. If you wanna have a look, their pics are in Anak Siaper thread in class 1986.

[daLady]

Jang, care to try out the cerry tomatoes and let me know the result?;)

[suliet]

Your kids look great too. They are also fair. Handsome and pretty. I think your boy looks more like boss. Don't know about your daughter, still very young. How old are they now anyway?

[daLady]

Your kids look great too. They are also fair. Handsome and pretty. I think your boy looks more like boss. Don't know about your daughter, still very young. How old are they now anyway?
Older one gonna be 4 this year and the younger is almost 6 months old now. hope they both look more like boss (he looks better obviously). But I would have eaten the cherry tomatoes if I knew about it earlier. You normally eat them raw?

[suliet]

Yes. It contains more vitamins and minerals that way. I would strongly suggest that you grow them in your garden or backyard. If you buy them, they will contain pesticide. It will grow in bundles from one plant. Just take about a handful of it each day.

[siewjang]

Jang, care to try out the cerry tomatoes and let me know the result?;)
Hmm... I'm in my 3rd trimestar now. Don't know if it help. Anyway, I'll try them out. But I've taken Spirulina during my 2nd pregnancy and my son turns out to be so fair. Anything that is high in protein will make the complexion of the baby fair. Tell me if I'm wrong.

FYI, men should consume more tomatoes to lower prostate cancer. And anyone with dark complexion would like to be fair quicker after a swimming session should consume more tomatoes before and after the event.

[Linkinfark]

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v627/linkinfark/IMG_0989.jpg

Damien See - DOB 2nd January 2005 Weight:2.95kg(6lbs 8oz)

[KoChun]

Cute little baby, same birth date as mine. :)

[daLady]

Cute little baby, same birth date as mine. :)But cuter than you....wow, so much hair and his features are sharp.
Linkinfark, make sure you post more of his pictures as he grows...

[KoChun]

But cuter than you....

:mad: I never said I am cute, right? :mad:

[Linkinfark]

But cuter than you....wow, so much hair and his features are sharp.
Linkinfark, make sure you post more of his pictures as he grows...

Like father like son mah... :)
Sure, will post more later. Gotta rush some stuff and then take him for checkup later.

[daLady]

Yes. It contains more vitamins and minerals that way. I would strongly suggest that you grow them in your garden or backyard. If you buy them, they will contain pesticide. It will grow in bundles from one plant. Just take about a handful of it each day.How do you grow them? Where do you get the seeds? Sorry to ask such a simple question...but I'm really 'cha' when it comes to gardening.

[Roland_Tang]

Damien See - DOB 2nd January 2005 Weight:2.95kg(6lbs 8oz)

Lovely name. I like the name; Damien.
And ya, nice baby, cute.

[siewjang]

The seed don't drop from the sky hor. Buy them at the shop la... duhh

[Linkinfark]

Lovely name. I like the name; Damien.
And ya, nice baby, cute.

Thanks.

[siewjang]

Mr Linkin, how did your son's lung get infected? must learn and take precaution too.

[clos]

dunno if damien looks more than father/mother but his hair does look look like d father! :D

[daBoss]

Like father like son mah... :)
Sure, will post more later. Gotta rush some stuff and then take him for checkup later.
thick skin :D you son 10 x cuter than you...

[daLady]

The seed don't drop from the sky hor. Buy them at the shop la... duhhThought maybe I can just bury the cherry tomatoes under a handful of dirt and it will start blooming:D

[siewjang]

What you can try out is, dry the seed under the sun first. Not sure if it works.

[suliet]

Yes this will also work. Just minta from anybody who has this plant, take the one that is very well ripen.

1) Tear it apart and just let it dry in the sun but you have to be careful, birds will come and attack if they find out.

2) When they are dry, put them (do not have to separate) in a container and cover them with a layer of soil about 1/2 inch thick. Water them with water sprayer once a day until the shoots appeared.

3) When it is about 4 - 5 inches tall, transfer it into a big pot or soil bed and wait for it to bear fruit.

[suliet]

Ya-lah. Linkin, See Beh Ai Been. Good Looking baby. Make sure you take care of his ears during sleeping time. Always check that the ears are nice and flat or else they are going to turn out to be Jumbo ears.

[Alkapocino]

Don't think it's a good idea of both mothers to be around at the same time. They might want to do things different ways. Why don't you get your mom to help out for 2 weeks and continue with your mil for the next 2 weeks? Teruk, teruk case. later the 2 women fight over powers.
Linkinfart, this is a good tips. Respect the elders but your wife and you should be firm in all decisions. :)

Hope all things go well with you.

[LiLiaN]

linkin, just saw the baby pic... so cute!!! :)

jang, third trimester already?? wow, not very obvious looking at your pic during the gathering leh... but good glow on you... ;)

[Linkinfark]

Mr Linkin, how did your son's lung get infected? must learn and take precaution too.

According to doctor it could be from my wife's fluids which he might have swallowed a bit when he was coming out. Treatment of anti bio for few days will do the trick. Baby have recovered from that now but still a bit of jaundice. Have to sun him for few days more but generally he's doing fine.
I suppose if your two labours went well, you shouldn't worry too much. ;)

[Linkinfark]

Linkinfart, this is a good tips. Respect the elders but your wife and you should be firm in all decisions. :)

Hope all things go well with you.

At this point my mom is calling the shots compared to my mom in law cause she has experience before with my sister's children. Whereas my son is my mom in law's first grandchild so she has no experience. Also she's a bit blur and kan cheong. :D
Even my wife trusts our baby with my mom than hers.. :p

[Alkapocino]

At this point my mom is calling the shots compared to my mom in law cause she has experience before with my sister's children. Whereas my son is my mom in law's first grandchild so she has no experience. Also she's a bit blur and kan cheong. :D
Even my wife trusts our baby with my mom than hers.. :p
Hey Linkinfart, congratulations! Remember to take good care of yourself too. Minum lah Essence Pati Ayam. :)

[Linkinfark]

Hey Linkinfart, congratulations! Remember to take good care of yourself too. Minum lah Essence Pati Ayam. :)

Thanks alka. Not drink Carlsberg ah?!

[Alkapocino]

Thanks alka. Not drink Carlsberg ah?!
Hahaha...you are a daddy now. Some red wine will do lah. HockChew red wine chicken mee suah. Um...yummy yummy.

[Linkinfark]

Hahaha...you are a daddy now. Some red wine will do lah. HockChew red wine chicken mee suah. Um...yummy yummy.

Had mee suah on Saturday. Imported the red wine from Changkat Kruing. yum yum..

[LiLiaN]

Had mee suah on Saturday. Imported the red wine from Changkat Kruing. yum yum..
go easy on the mee suah hor... for some reason, i haven't known any husband who can eat that everyday like their wives... too "hot", if you know what i mean...

[clos]

my mother baru cook angjiu mee suah last thurs. still got left overs...the meesuah (not cooked 1s)...hahah *slurp slurp* :D

[Linkinfark]

go easy on the mee suah hor... for some reason, i haven't known any husband who can eat that everyday like their wives... too "hot", if you know what i mean...

Of course not taken everyday one mah.. :p

[Alkapocino]

Of course not taken everyday one mah.. :p
Ask your mom to cook seperately for you. It's not the mee suah that is heaty, it's the ginger and the red wine. You can do without all the condiments. Just plain mee suah will do. Hahahaha.

[LiLiaN]

Ask your mom to cook seperately for you. It's not the mee suah that is heaty, it's the ginger and the red wine. You can do without all the condiments. Just plain mee suah will do. Hahahaha.
plain mee suah not nice leh... must have it with the red wine... just the best...!
(gosh, make me hungry and it's only 10am - 3 more hours before lunch!!)

[Alkapocino]

plain mee suah not nice leh... must have it with the red wine... just the best...!
(gosh, make me hungry and it's only 10am - 3 more hours before lunch!!)
Mee Suah + Spring Onions + Eggs + Soup makes and ideal lunch! So quick to serve. :)

[LiLiaN]

Mee Suah + Spring Onions + Eggs + Soup makes and ideal lunch! So quick to serve. :)
sounds better than my cousin's mee suah + bovril... yuk yuk yuk...!!

[Fulat]

If he would ever spend his money buying LV bag, I would freak!!!!!!

So kiam siap ah your hubby?

[Fulat]

As I will soon be promoted into the above, would like my fellow forumers to share their experiences from the beginning.. like when wife was pregnant, in labour, confinement period etc.. just to get some feedback in how to be a 'good' husband and father..

Let her wound heal before you become an active jack rabbit again..........

[daLady]

Mee Suah + Spring Onions + Eggs + Soup makes and ideal lunch! So quick to serve. :)Aiyoh... not sien meh eat everyday? Jelak!!!

[LiLiaN]

Aiyoh... not sien meh eat everyday? Jelak!!!
mee suah with red wine everyday for a month - i can lor... my favourite! ;)
(have tried that when my aunts were having babies... hehehe...)

[siewjang]

[QUOTE=Fulat]So kiam siap ah your hubby?
Fulat, if hub buy the bag then i will freak la. RM600 for that square thing? :eek: Better give me the cash. :D

[Alkapocino]

Aiyoh... not sien meh eat everyday? Jelak!!!
Everyday also we drink water. How come not sien one! :D :o

mee suah with red wine everyday for a month - i can lor... my favourite!
(have tried that when my aunts were having babies... hehehe...)
Any type of noodles (esp. Hockien Mee Style in S'wan) banyak banyak mari I pun boleh makan.

LiLiaN, like that you won't have any problem during your maternity next time. :)

[LiLiaN]

Any type of noodles (esp. Hockien Mee Style in S'wan) banyak banyak mari I pun boleh makan.

LiLiaN, like that you won't have any problem during your maternity next time. :)
hmm... i miss hokkien mee also... my friend's parents run it (friend now in UK)...

err... god knows when i'll ever go on maternity...
grandma gives warning, girl study high high level scare guy away... :(

so mean time, tumpang relatives who are on maternity... lol... :D

[Fulat]

Fulat, if hub buy the bag then i will freak la. RM600 for that square thing? :eek: Better give me the cash. :D

You sure or not? If you hubby bought you that square thing, you face will light up like a christmas tree and your smile will be so wide that titanic can also sail thru'.

But if you hubby read your your comments, than his face will light up like in Bintang Walk and his smile so wide that Queen Mary 2 can sail thru it. :D