The Hot Loveseat II

[Lava Gal]

Eh ehhh....our 'hot loveseat' discussions so hot till dah CLOSE THREAD! hehe...

hehe... u are one sharp gal, lav. after all, ppl saw him at forum bash liao mah n apparently im d last to realise dat most of our batch frens as far as australia + uk + singapore knows bout it liao. cheh... no surprise element no fun! haha...
:laugh: thanx, will take tat as a compliment...though i know sometimes can be damn blurr blurr sotong oso :p

[laineyee]

wahhh .. i haven't log in for a few days, so many things hapenning..

chung ming likes adele ?
adele found someone but not yet get? (just a matter of time isn't it:p )
guen boh comes clean and mentioned james in the forum,
got new love professor
kwimango watches oprah and read relationship books. :blink: !!
then thread kena potong pulak..

[kwimango]

wahhh .. i haven't log in for a few days, so many things hapenning..

chung ming likes adele ?
adele found someone but not yet get? (just a matter of time isn't it:p )
guen boh comes clean and mentioned james in the forum,
got new love professor
kwimango watches oprah and read relationship books. :blink: !!
then thread kena potong pulak..

miss lacy black belt is back!
no i don't watch oprah, it just happens to be on tv when i leave for work every morning.. and i haven't read THAT book.. just thought that there was lots of hoohah about it during the show

kcm, if u really wanna read a good book.. i'd recommend one by Neil Strauss.. its called "The Game"

[Lava Gal]

yup...thats how happening this place is, dear! :)
wahhh .. i haven't log in for a few days, so many things hapenning..

chung ming likes adele ?
adele found someone but not yet get? (just a matter of time isn't it:p )
guen boh comes clean and mentioned james in the forum,
got new love professor
kwimango watches oprah and read relationship books.
then thread kena potong pulak..
hahaha...tatz a good summary of the end-portion of our previous thread PART1...enjoy la peeps, to cont discussing on this 'HOT LOVEY DOVEY topic' :D


kcm, if u really wanna read a good book.. i'd recommend one by Neil Strauss.. its called "The Game"
eh...mango! THE GAME...hmmm, no wonder la most guys (and some gals too) SEE r/ships as merely 'a game' and jump from one to another jus like changing underwears :p

[kwimango]

eh...mango! THE GAME...hmmm, no wonder la most guys (and some gals too) SEE r/ships as merely 'a game' and jump from one to another jus like changing underwears :p

care to elaborate on that part?

[Lava Gal]

hmmm...need to ELABORATE lagee? *bingung*

in short: i jus find the level of commitment kinda lacking in people nowdays la...

[LiLiaN]

so perhaps sometimes empowerment may not be such a great thing afterall..?
well, in this modern society though, it's hard to define one's role exactly...
and especially when it comes to relationship between any two person, romantically inclined or not...
the dynamic changes all the time, there's no one good way to go about it...

i do think it's good to really listen to your voice within (the one that we often didn't want to hear but oh so accurate)...
and don't try so much time on strategising, scheming, manipulating...
all the stuffs that so many of the so-called "self help" books try to do nowadays...

[kwimango]

cause i think its a sweeping statement lah.. especially the "most guys" part...

but then, you could be speaking from past experiences where you've been played out by players, or have friends who had such experiences,

i find that guys and gals that have multiple relationships (like changing their underwear) might most probably have jumped into a relationship before considering it fully and then end up wasting their own times and end up being heartbroken/breaking hearts in the process!

[Lava Gal]

so perhaps sometimes empowerment may not be such a great thing afterall..?
well, in this modern society though, it's hard to define one's role exactly...
and especially when it comes to relationship between any two person, romantically inclined or not...
the dynamic changes all the time, there's no one good way to go about it...
Hhmmm...needed to stop & reread the sentences there. struck a chord...oh well, life is complicated, aye?
yup...things are on a constant change, have to go wif the flow...else will be left drowning, terkapai-kapai.
sometimes we too change along with the changes around us...and so does our r/ships wif others

i do think it's good to really listen to your voice within (the one that we often didn't want to hear but oh so accurate)...
and don't try so much time on strategising, scheming, manipulating...
all the stuffs that so many of the so-called "self help" books try to do nowadays...
thanx LILIAN!! she just so nicely said it there...tatz wat i meant la mango, about dont fall into the trap set by self-help...guides! and make it all into merely A GAME!!

[kwimango]

dont fall into the trap set by self-help...guides! and make it all into merely A GAME!!

haha you're judging a book by its cover!... bleah... was just merely suggesting the book the kcm.. i find it an interesting read, and its up to you what you learn from it... i didn learn something or two from that book, and the book is definitely not about relationships.. i'm not gonna tell u what its about, its for you to find out

btw, if you're out seeking books on relationships, and i know this is has been mentioned umpteenth times.. look for john gray and allan and barbara pease.. they're quite entertaining and provide insight into certain matters too..

of course they are not bibles or something that you'll need to follow 100%.. and i bet you'd not be stupid enough to believe every single word in those books!

[Lava Gal]

is the ... and barbara book 'man from mars & women from venus'??

[LiLiaN]

no, the pearses - it's "why men don't listen and women can't read map"...
for a change, i would actually recommend this...
because it encourages understanding between the sexes...

john gray's "men are from mars and women are from venus"...
never actually really read that but i flicked through it before...
didn't quite catch on my interest...

[Lava Gal]

no, the pearses - it's "why men don't listen and women can't read map"...
for a change, i would actually recommend this...
because it encourages understanding between the sexes...

john gray's "men are from mars and women are from venus"...
never actually really read that but i flicked through it before...
didn't quite catch on my interest...

oh...i've read the first one - once in MPH, jus sat down and finished reading it :D
tot it was a good one! excellent, in fact..

the mars & venus, i read the sequelae...ok ok la...

[Ah Boh]

so perhaps sometimes empowerment may not be such a great thing afterall..?
well, in this modern society though, it's hard to define one's role exactly...
and especially when it comes to relationship between any two person, romantically inclined or not...
the dynamic changes all the time, there's no one good way to go about it...

i do think it's good to really listen to your voice within (the one that we often didn't want to hear but oh so accurate)...
and don't try so much time on strategising, scheming, manipulating...
all the stuffs that so many of the so-called "self help" books try to do nowadays...
oh yeah, this esp applies to d gals cuz we're supposed to hv subtle yet powerful feminine intuition or instincts when it comes to looking for the right 'mate' :laugh:

haha you're judging a book by its cover!... bleah... was just merely suggesting the book the kcm.. i find it an interesting read, and its up to you what you learn from it... i didn learn something or two from that book, and the book is definitely not about relationships.. i'm not gonna tell u what its about, its for you to find out

btw, if you're out seeking books on relationships, and i know this is has been mentioned umpteenth times.. look for john gray and allan and barbara pease.. they're quite entertaining and provide insight into certain matters too..

of course they are not bibles or something that you'll need to follow 100%.. and i bet you'd not be stupid enough to believe every single word in those books!
i read a couple of their books, found some interesting scientific stuff but otherwise mostly common sense lar.
wahhh .. i haven't log in for a few days, so many things hapenning..

chung ming likes adele ?
adele found someone but not yet get? (just a matter of time isn't it:p )
guen boh comes clean and mentioned james in the forum,
got new love professor
kwimango watches oprah and read relationship books. :blink: !!
then thread kena potong pulak..
wahahahaa... elaine oh elaine... u ah, disappear few days still very fast catchup! i no comment on d other points, but d last one is cuz whenever a thread reaches 400posts n above, it is closed so can start a new one like a sequel.

[LiLiaN]

Originally Posted by LiLiaN http://www.acs-sitiawan.com/forum/images/buttons/viewpost.gif (http://www.acs-sitiawan.com/forum/showthread.php?p=355284#post355284)
i do think it's good to really listen to your voice within (the one that we often didn't want to hear but oh so accurate)...oh yeah, this esp applies to d gals cuz we're supposed to hv subtle yet powerful feminine intuition or instincts when it comes to looking for the right 'mate' :laugh: well, it's less of issues of subtlety etc but more that we often choose to ignore our instincts...
especially when you know the answer could well be one that you don't want to hear...
guys have less problem with this, and tend to be quite frank in general over this...
girls on the other hand would try to rationalise the fear away, and start making excuses...
or worse, build up a totally different mental images of how things should be etc...
this is quite an exercise of self-deceit...

i do that too, and i guess that's part of the essence of being human...
i have been in situation where my gut feeling said it's time to do such and such...
but i found myself delaying the inevitable, not wanting to accept that things could go wrong...
and when it did, sometimes, there's simply no going back...
it's not a failure, it just wasn't quite the success one was looking for...
it's tough, and very very harsh in reality, but got to be done...

i'm still learning to listen to my inner voice...

[Nelson Allan]

I've read all the remarks and comments from each of you and find that you contradict yourselves regularly....which is good mind you!!!:noworry:

We learn as we go along in life. There will be challenges daily and failure is part of preparing to be successful. This is how we improve ourselves, but learning from others would also allow us the opportunity to avoid making mistakes.

Books are there for us to read, digest and understand then apply to how it would benefit us the most. It does not mean you have to follow blindly and religiously....:rolleyes:

I believe we want the best for ourselves and would strive to achieve it. So keep on trying, keep on looking but let's conclude that only you will know when it's right. Right for you doesn't necessarily mean right for others.:cool:

[laineyee]

yup...thats how happening this place is, dear! :)

hahaha...tatz a good summary of the end-portion of our previous thread PART1...enjoy la peeps, to cont discussing on this 'HOT LOVEY DOVEY topic' :D


eh...mango! THE GAME...hmmm, no wonder la most guys (and some gals too) SEE r/ships as merely 'a game' and jump from one to another jus like changing underwears :p

eiii lava, what makes you think they change their underwears regularly or even wear one in the first place ...

[kwimango]

eiii lava, what makes you think they change their underwears regularly or even wear one in the first place ...

not everyone is like you, miss lacy black belt!

[laineyee]

not everyone is like you, miss lacy black belt!

OII.. i'm not the person who has fart like a butterfly and stink like a bee as my signature .. :p

[kwimango]

OII.. i'm not the person who has fart like a butterfly and stink like a bee as my signature .. :p

that has nothing to do with changing underwear!!!! bleah.. even heard of "float like a butterfly, sting like a bee"?

[Lava Gal]

eiii lava, what makes you think they change their underwears regularly or even wear one in the first place ...

hahaha....so bad la u, elaineeeee (oopss...tatz a bit too much of an E there :p)

[ryan_khoo82]

miss lacy black belt is back!
no i don't watch oprah, it just happens to be on tv when i leave for work every morning.. and i haven't read THAT book.. just thought that there was lots of hoohah about it during the show

kcm, if u really wanna read a good book.. i'd recommend one by Neil Strauss.. its called "The Game"


I read parts of that book too. Yes, that is pretty good. Thankfully quite a number of men dont know about it and even less women :D

[ryan_khoo82]

so perhaps sometimes empowerment may not be such a great thing afterall..?
well, in this modern society though, it's hard to define one's role exactly...
and especially when it comes to relationship between any two person, romantically inclined or not...
the dynamic changes all the time, there's no one good way to go about it...

i do think it's good to really listen to your voice within (the one that we often didn't want to hear but oh so accurate)...
and don't try so much time on strategising, scheming, manipulating...
all the stuffs that so many of the so-called "self help" books try to do nowadays...

Waa... so.... deep... must...try....to... concentrate to understand :D

[kwimango]

I read parts of that book too. Yes, that is pretty good. Thankfully quite a number of men dont know about it and even less women :D

which book? the game? whahahahaha.. i underestimated you, kcm!

[laineyee]

that has nothing to do with changing underwear!!!! bleah.. even heard of "float like a butterfly, sting like a bee"?

yeahh .. i'm not that ignorant, by Muhammad Ali, but you had to go and change it to stinky farts..

hahaha....so bad la u, elaineeeee (oopss...tatz a bit too much of an E there )
hihi.. mana ada .. i'm pretty nice

[ryan_khoo82]

which book? the game? whahahahaha.. i underestimated you, kcm!

Dont play play ok! Still waters, still got buayas :D

[kwimango]

Dont play play ok! Still waters, still got buayas :D

now its time for you to shave your head and call yourself style.. and get enough money for that LASIK operation

[Ah Boh]

Dont play play ok! Still waters, still got buayas :D

buaya or biawak? :laugh:

[kwimango]

ah boh doesnt know who she's messing around with.. kcm happens to be in the possession of a very potent book

[laineyee]

ah boh doesnt know who she's messing around with.. kcm happens to be in the possession of a very potent book
just becareful that don't bcome impotent

[kwimango]

just becareful that don't bcome impotent

i am sure KCM won't have that problem with you around, my dear miss lacy black belt

[ryan_khoo82]

just becareful that don't bcome impotent

Oh yes... the key to maintaining potency is to consume moderate amounts of alcohol and don't smoke. And it's important to be physically active.

[Lava Gal]

Oh yes... the key to maintaining potency is to consume moderate amounts of alcohol and don't smoke. And it's important to be physically active.

how does THAT help? *curious*

[laineyee]

Oh yes... the key to maintaining potency is to consume moderate amounts of alcohol and don't smoke. And it's important to be physically active.
physically active as in ... :smile-2: (trying to look innocent and naive)
how does THAT help? *curious*
yeahh .. i also curious.. how does drinking help?

[Ah Boh]

physically active as in ... :smile-2: (trying to look innocent and naive)

yeahh .. i also curious.. how does drinking help?

drinking Red Bull? :blink:

[laineyee]

drinking Red Bull? :blink:

aiyahh .,. your blur face.. he wrote drink alcohol !!

[Ah Boh]

aiyahh .,. your blur face.. he wrote drink alcohol !!

Red Bull not 'alcohol' meh?

strong n fast effect + addictive taste + overdose = KO

now tell me if it aint alcohol in disguise. hahahaa... :D

[Adele]

are we still on the topic of KCM's potency or impotency?? :p

[Lava Gal]

that KCM has to confirm, adele :p

[laineyee]

that KCM has to confirm, adele :p

aiyohh ... lava, you just put KCM under the spotlight like that, with THIS questions.. difficult lar..

to get an accurate answer, (not male ego answer) must get a girl to find out!! :eek: who is volunteering? anyone?

[Ah Boh]

are we still on the topic of KCM's potency or impotency?? :p
shall we have a vote on dat?? :laugh:

[athena]

hehe...pity KCM

[siehjin]

hello everyone =)

sorry i've been absent for some time =)

concerning kcm's comment about alcohol, i think he meant that if we must drink alcohol, we're advised to do it in moderate amounts only... because excessive drinking can lead to erectile dysfunction, if i'm not mistaken.

[Lava Gal]

aiyohh ... lava, you just put KCM under the spotlight like that, with THIS questions.. difficult lar..

to get an accurate answer, (not male ego answer) must get a girl to find out!! :eek: who is volunteering? anyone?
hahaha...seems like u r very well-informed on this subject :p
:eek:

[Lava Gal]

hello everyone =)

sorry i've been absent for some time =)

concerning kcm's comment about alcohol, i think he meant that if we must drink alcohol, we're advised to do it in moderate amounts only... because excessive drinking can lead to erectile dysfunction, if i'm not mistaken.
hey welcome back, sieh jin! guess u've been bz bee lately yea. howz life?

well...kcm made it sound otherwise. tat taking alcohol would reduce ED - tatz how it sounded to me:wacko:
lets wait 4 him to confirm :p

[malcolm]

hey welcome back, sieh jin! guess u've been bz bee lately yea. howz life?

well...kcm made it sound otherwise. tat taking alcohol would reduce ED - tatz how it sounded to me:wacko:
lets wait 4 him to confirm :p

Yes. I agree with Lav. ;)
He further mentioned about "don't smoke" besides "consume moderate amount of alcohol"

[laineyee]

me agree too.. !!

[Lava Gal]

haha...KCM is def outnumbered...mana dia when ppl need him? :sus:

[ryan_khoo82]

I actually think that moderate amounts of alcohol are good for you.

Put it this way laa haa... they are useful to loosen up people/ ice-breakers especially when you meet lots of new people alot and socializing is important. And in these sort of occasions, you generally just want to enjoy yourself and relax abit and good clean fun never hurts anyone. Laughter the best medicine?

Of course, medical benefits from alcohol are probably minor if any but avoid hard liquor if you can and wines are good anytime after work.

I don't smoke and I swim a kilometer every week and go diving every now and then so I guess I'm pretty lean. Not built well enough but I'm slowly working on that.

And I'm pretty sure I dont have ED :D

Sorry you girls for not logging in too much this week. Pretty tied down and I think I'm still kinda tired from my dive trip last week.

Adele, so how was Cambodia? Bring home anything interesting?

[Adele]

And I'm pretty sure I dont have ED :D
Adele, so how was Cambodia? Bring home anything interesting?
if you do have ED, this forum has more than enough ppl in the medical line to help you with the prob. i personally know quite a few ppl in the pharmaceutical business to help you out too. so, incase you do have a prob, just holler k! ;) sorry won't be available to do a verification test for you. :p

hmm..... Cambodia was great! not my kinda holiday, you know, being the princess that i am but it was an experience and adventure i'll never forget. don't mind visiting it again though. just won't do it backpacking-style :) bring home anything interesting ah? erm, memories for sure. not a souvenir person so didn't get any souvenirs.

you have to be a great bargainer when you go to this kinda places. i think i got pretty good deals for almost everything i purchased. it's really fun bargainning for things you actually don't need but will get if the price is right because you can still use it. (typical girl here i guess.... hehe....)

i got sapphire earrings for my mum, pashminas are cheap so got some of those, i especially love my "I Survived In Cambodia" t-shirt which i wore to office ytd and everyone liked it (you won't catch me wearing it out of my house ever again though. haha!), got a silk tie for my dad and you must get the freshly grounded coffee and tea from Phnom Penh!!

[ryan_khoo82]

Not a souvenir type of person and you bought all that? :D

[Ah Boh]

i know... its not nice to say that of some1. i cant help it tho, its bugging me n my kaypoh-chi-ness simply gotta find an answer why...

u see, last week i happily check my friendster as usual then WHAM! I got a shock... my ex started an a/c n request me to add him as fren. This is d 2nd time liao, wen d 1st time happened a couple mths ago, i just ignore it n d server automatically delete his request after a month or so.

Now he's using a different nick but one glance i can see it's d same bio. Does he think im dumb?? And got obvious clue - pix of Patrick doggie cuz he know the only person who ever gave me one is himself. Grrrr... no matter. i have since treat my patrick as MY pet n not a gift from him.

After i check a few days later, aiksss... change pix pulak. No more patrick pix, now got pix of him with uni mate. Few days later... aikksss! change to pix of him n koligs at work. i so dem kaypoh check again today aikkss... now only solo pix he sitting in some restaurant with blur sotong face as usual, only difference is he lost alot of weight.

i still continue ignore like he dun exist cuz i have no intention watsoever to add him as 'fren' cuz he's no fren in my books. yeah, some say im cruel to deny a 'fren' request but after all these years, i guess im still mad at him. but the question dat bugs me is... why is he suddenly reappearing outta blue? wat the hell is he up to... if only i can read a guy's mind!

i actually nearly forgot all the past memories edi but then now its all coming back... shiiiitttt...

[siehjin]

hmm... u sound angry and afraid boh. this guy must have really hurt you badly to produce such powerful emotions in you.

i can't say much as i dunno the guy; but if u want my 2 cents', i think there are maybe 3 possibilities:
1. the guy still likes u n wants u back
2. the guy hates u and wants to somehow take revenge
3. the guy is 'over' u n just wants to be friends again

i guess to be safe, just continue to ignore him lor. that's all i can say from a guy's perspective. perhaps other guys/gals have more enlightened thoughts?

[siehjin]

on another note, alcohol does seem to give some health benefits if consumed in moderate amounts. see http://www2.potsdam.edu/hansondj/AlcoholAndHealth.html

but concerning Chung Ming's example of alcohol helping a person socialize, that may not be such a good idea in some respects. if a person has problems socializing, the true solution is for that person to take the time and trouble to learn the necessary social skills. having a couple of drinks in lieu of this, is a kind of quick-fix that can lead to addiction.

this search for a quick-fix can lead quickly to addiction because it is only a temporary solution, not a true one. when the next party comes along, our friend will not feel any better because he hasn't really learnt any social skills. so once again, he downs a couple of drinks to help himself relax. in this way, he becomes dependent on alcohol and is caught in a vicious cycle that can spiral into full-blown addiction if steps are not taken to curb it.

also in such a case, alcohol is being used as a mood-changer. mood before: nervous and shy. mood after: uninhibited and relaxed. mood-change is a classic characteristic of addiction. it can be seen in addiction to ciggaretes, drugs, etc etc.

so take a little wine for health reasons, fine. but be careful of depending on it to spice up your social life - that path may lead to addiction. =)

[LiLiaN]

ah boh, you do realise when you check his profile, he'll know about it right..?
if you intend on ignoring it, then don't even feed the curiosity...
just leave it and maybe he'll go away...?

[Ah Boh]

ah boh, you do realise when you check his profile, he'll know about it right..?
if you intend on ignoring it, then don't even feed the curiosity...
just leave it and maybe he'll go away...?
oooppssss.... secret's out.... shiiittttt...

hmm... u sound angry and afraid boh. this guy must have really hurt you badly to produce such powerful emotions in you.

i can't say much as i dunno the guy; but if u want my 2 cents', i think there are maybe 3 possibilities:
1. the guy still likes u n wants u back
2. the guy hates u and wants to somehow take revenge
3. the guy is 'over' u n just wants to be friends again

i guess to be safe, just continue to ignore him lor. that's all i can say from a guy's perspective. perhaps other guys/gals have more enlightened thoughts?
u bet im mad. i dun forgive easily, especially if it concern matters of the heart.

hmm...

i dun like option 1 cuz im sure he saw pix of me & james on my profile so why shud he bother coming back?

i dun believe option 2 simply cuz there's no reason to hate me plus i know him n its just not him.

i cannot accept option 3. Period.

haiiihhh... if only i can read guy's minds. frankly, as a guy, if u were him, how wud u expect d gal to react?

[cxtreme]

hmm thats the analysis from what the guy could possibly be thinking..

wat i'm curious is....y do u want to know what he's thinking? if he's really already a bad chapter in your life, make him a non entity...why are u bothered with what he's doing? just don care lor....

and at any rate..it's good to forgive.....it should be our nature..


hehe don kill me ar..

kelvin

[SS2006]

oooppssss.... secret's out.... shiiittttt...


u bet im mad. i dun forgive easily, especially if it concern matters of the heart.

hmm...

i dun like option 1 cuz im sure he saw pix of me & james on my profile so why shud he bother coming back?

i dun believe option 2 simply cuz there's no reason to hate me plus i know him n its just not him.

i cannot accept option 3. Period.

haiiihhh... if only i can read guy's minds. frankly, as a guy, if u were him, how wud u expect d gal to react?

Maybe he's now at the 'in-between' gfs period. Maybe he's lonely and down now and need someone to talk to and to boost his confidence.
Ah Boh, just ignore him if you dun intend to have anything to do with him. Not worth getting all worked out over him.

[ryan_khoo82]

Maybe he's now at the 'in-between' gfs period. Maybe he's lonely and down now and need someone to talk to and to boost his confidence.
Ah Boh, just ignore him if you dun intend to have anything to do with him. Not worth getting all worked out over him.

Agreed. He's probably playing some prank and trying his luck.

Just ignore him. Maybe a short and stern "Go Away" message will help.

[Adele]

IGNORE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! hmph! ;) :laugh:

[kwimango]

hmm thats the analysis from what the guy could possibly be thinking..

wat i'm curious is....y do u want to know what he's thinking? if he's really already a bad chapter in your life, make him a non entity...why are u bothered with what he's doing? just don care lor....

and at any rate..it's good to forgive.....it should be our nature..


hehe don kill me ar..

kelvin

you all think too much! i am sure that he's just not that into you!

[Ah Boh]

hmm thats the analysis from what the guy could possibly be thinking..

wat i'm curious is....y do u want to know what he's thinking? if he's really already a bad chapter in your life, make him a non entity...why are u bothered with what he's doing? just don care lor....

and at any rate..it's good to forgive.....it should be our nature..


hehe don kill me ar..

kelvin
funny u shud ask dat. i talked to my hsemate n she asked the same thing too. i was asking myself why alot too...

i think a part of me is unsatisfied by the way it ended, i never really had an honest answer from him. maybe dats why im still mad at him... i guess i want closure, just so i can lock away dat chapter of my life n throw away d key.

Maybe he's now at the 'in-between' gfs period. Maybe he's lonely and down now and need someone to talk to and to boost his confidence.
Ah Boh, just ignore him if you dun intend to have anything to do with him. Not worth getting all worked out over him.
lonely n in-between huh? dem dnagerous ground loh. dat type of guys looking for pelampung only. whooaaaa... no way no how.

yeah... i hear u + kcm + adele loud n clear (esp adele, hehe...)

i know i shud ignore, and i will, as long as he says nothing to start my firecrackers hor. then i dare not say wat will happen...

u know, maybe siehjin is right. besides anger, im abit afraid of him too. i mean, sometimes when im out paktoh-ing anywhere near bangsar (lotsa good food) i tend to look over my shoulder in case i see him, cuz he works in dat area. sometimes i ask myself, wat happens if i see him? oh no no no no...

but i cant help being so aware. like my sis says... shit happens.

[Lava Gal]

On alcohol topic first:
on another note, alcohol does seem to give some health benefits if consumed in moderate amounts. see http://www2.potsdam.edu/hansondj/AlcoholAndHealth.html

but concerning Chung Ming's example of alcohol helping a person socialize, that may not be such a good idea in some respects. if a person has problems socializing, the true solution is for that person to take the time and trouble to learn the necessary social skills. having a couple of drinks in lieu of this, is a kind of quick-fix that can lead to addiction.

this search for a quick-fix can lead quickly to addiction because it is only a temporary solution, not a true one. when the next party comes along, our friend will not feel any better because he hasn't really learnt any social skills. so once again, he downs a couple of drinks to help himself relax. in this way, he becomes dependent on alcohol and is caught in a vicious cycle that can spiral into full-blown addiction if steps are not taken to curb it.

also in such a case, alcohol is being used as a mood-changer. mood before: nervous and shy. mood after: uninhibited and relaxed. mood-change is a classic characteristic of addiction. it can be seen in addiction to ciggaretes, drugs, etc etc.

so take a little wine for health reasons, fine. but be careful of depending on it to spice up your social life - that path may lead to addiction. =)
Sieh jin answered ryan well – jus wat I wanted to tell =p
But more that addiction...erm, u aren’t being ur TRUE SELF if u need a booster dose of alcohol to ‘lose urself’ & become more social & disinhibited...natural euphoria is much better – and genuine =D
The world needs to learn to be more of themselves lo…

Mus check tat website wen me free la. sigh…FREE seems so obsolete to me nowdays…but I’m still squeezing time for certain things essential for me – like breathing & forumming ;)


I don't smoke and I swim a kilometer every week and go diving every now and then so I guess I'm pretty lean. Not built well enough but I'm slowly working on that.

And I'm pretty sure I dont have ED :D
Ehem, ryan…this sounds like ‘Why Am I Very Much Eligible & Available’ kinda post =p

And now…on to Boh’s prob discussion:
hmm... u sound angry and afraid boh. this guy must have really hurt you badly to produce such powerful emotions in you.

i can't say much as i dunno the guy; but if u want my 2 cents', i think there are maybe 3 possibilities:
1. the guy still likes u n wants u back
2. the guy hates u and wants to somehow take revenge
3. the guy is 'over' u n just wants to be friends again

i guess to be safe, just continue to ignore him lor. that's all i can say from a guy's perspective. perhaps other guys/gals have more enlightened thoughts?
*nod nod*. But best to do is TO NOT THINK ABOUT HIM, jus treat his requests as ‘trash’ & ignore! Frenster is such a commercialized site deary, don’t feel bad about rejecting or discarding friend’s request – if u don’t consider them a fren, why add?? I have had got messages from strangers, asking to be add…I don’t usually reject, but jus leave those requests unattended. Cant be bothered! Esp when some of the messages *spine chilling* - some ppl obviously use friendster as purely ‘fishing site’.

Its possible that ur ex (who deserves not even 0.001% of ur attention for all he did to the young, innocent you..leaving yrs of trauma tat kept u off r/ships as u’ve shared in other threads long long ago) who has seen all those pix wif james feels jealous lo. So, he realizes he tak syiok & wants to be frenz..wants to be part of ur life again. Maybe its sincerely wanna be frens, maybe got other intentions. Only he knows la. but if he’s a gentleman, sieh jin’s 3rd option would apply..otherwise, I’d rather not know!

ah boh, you do realise when you check his profile, he'll know about it right..?
if you intend on ignoring it, then don't even feed the curiosity...
just leave it and maybe he'll go away...?
Lil is rite, Boh! So every time u go and check, make his heart jump wif joy only knowing that somehow u still ‘care’ to check on him. If u really really wanna check kan (kaypoh), u can always reset ur option ‘to view profiles anonymously’ & go roam all u want! Nobody will know who u r ;)
But at same time, u wont know who’ve been checking urs either.

Ah boh dear…what is it that makes u still curious to wanna see his pix, & profile? I mean..seriously, he’s a nightmare from ur past, and u now have james (ur knight in shining armour) – jus IGNORE that fellow la. not worth it at all…



Hot loveseat? love is one entity/feeling that hurts like hell...:crying: jus feeling super duper rotten today, but hope wateva i said makes sense ya. trying hard to remain level headed.
hope u guys have a nice day...

[Ah Boh]

Ah boh dear…what is it that makes u still curious to wanna see his pix, & profile? I mean..seriously, he’s a nightmare from ur past, and u now have james (ur knight in shining armour) – jus IGNORE that fellow la. not worth it at all…

Hot loveseat? love is one entity/feeling that hurts like hell...:crying: jus feeling super duper rotten today, but hope wateva i said makes sense ya. trying hard to remain level headed.
hope u guys have a nice day...
whoaaa.. dun get me wrong. im not curious to see his pix or profile. i kaypoh cuz i wanna know WHY he's suddenly reappearing into my life, but unless one of sieh jin's options apply, i guess i'll never know eh?

i do check often cuz part of me just waiting for a msg or sumtin so i can use as ammunition to tembak kaokao, then again other part of me are my fingers so itcy to delete him or worse, report him to the server ppl saying he's rude or sumtin. mwuahahaaa...

im trying very hard to ignore it, tho sumtimes my fingers can get real itchy... so best thing to cure that is to forum more n more till fingers tired liao... hehehe

U bet love hurts. it it aint, it wudnt be such a challenging game rite.

hey fren, why u so sad today? sum1 bully u ah?? tell me who i kick dat fella to pluto n beyond! :laugh:

[LiLiaN]

well, this is my opinion (and it's really not worth a lot)...
if you really want to move on, then don't check anymore...
don't even try to find ammunition against him or anything...
just let it go and be no part of it at all, period...

sometimes relationship ends badly without good explanation...
just accept that it's over and there's no satisfactory answer...
and after the time passes, do you still want to know..?
if so, what purpose could the answer serves..?
we like to think that it'll bring closure, but often it won't...
instead it'll reopen a wound and anger that you've been nursing...
because you have not yet move on from that stage at all...

i hope i am making sense...

[SS2006]

well, this is my opinion (and it's really not worth a lot)...
if you really want to move on, then don't check anymore...
don't even try to find ammunition against him or anything...
just let it go and be no part of it at all, period...

sometimes relationship ends badly without good explanation...
just accept that it's over and there's no satisfactory answer...
and after the time passes, do you still want to know..?
if so, what purpose could the answer serves..?
we like to think that it'll bring closure, but often it won't...
instead it'll reopen a wound and anger that you've been nursing...
because you have not yet move on from that stage at all...

i hope i am making sense...

i totally agree with Lil. You just have to let go, no more looking over your shoulders for your ex, no more thinking of what if you're still with him, no more thinking about what he's doing now. Whether he's happy or not, successful or not is no longer your problem, if you're still bothered that means you still care about him.
Your life and your future is now with james, it's not fair to james if you're still hanging on to your past.

[laineyee]

aiyohhh boh.. kelian.. hmm .. why waste your energy and time on this jerk. might as well save it and spend it on james instead :D ..

u know, maybe siehjin is right. besides anger, im abit afraid of him too. i mean, sometimes when im out paktoh-ing anywhere near bangsar (lotsa good food) i tend to look over my shoulder in case i see him, cuz he works in dat area. sometimes i ask myself, wat happens if i see him? oh no no no no...but i cant help being so aware. like my sis says... shit happens.

by being so fired up and being afraid that he is round the corner shows that he is still a big part of your life and still has control over you.. i'm sure you rather die than let him still have control over you in my opinion, that's what happening
i think a part of me is unsatisfied by the way it ended, i never really had an honest answer from him. maybe dats why im still mad at him... i guess i want closure, just so i can lock away dat chapter of my life n throw away d key.
boh, you hold the key and you are the one who can lock it lar.. you don't need him to have closure about it, you have to make the decision that he is not even worth one second of your time/attention/thoughts/etc and prove to him that you have move on. don't give him the satisfaction that he can still affect you..
keep in mind that you have move on to greater things(james) and he doesn't deserve you then, and doesn't now and never will, period.

just my 2 cents worth.. amounts to nothing

[Ah Boh]

well, this is my opinion (and it's really not worth a lot)...
if you really want to move on, then don't check anymore...
don't even try to find ammunition against him or anything...
just let it go and be no part of it at all, period...

sometimes relationship ends badly without good explanation...
just accept that it's over and there's no satisfactory answer...
and after the time passes, do you still want to know..?
if so, what purpose could the answer serves..?
we like to think that it'll bring closure, but often it won't...
instead it'll reopen a wound and anger that you've been nursing...
because you have not yet move on from that stage at all...

i hope i am making sense...
yes, u are definitely making sense.

usually i cannot tahan if sumone treat me bad i must kenakan balik no matter wat. but if u are rite, then this is one battle i cannot win n i must forget about it n try to let go. its just so hard to let go unfinished biz on my part.

im trying to forget (but not forgive!) tho, have been trying for d last couple of yrs. i dunno wats d formula to move on, as u say, but i did wat i cud think of a long time ago - aft our r/ship ended, i burned his pix n returned his stuff like CDs etc everything dat reminds me of him.

actually, james looked abit scared wen i told him bout d burning pix part... hehehee... he must think im a witch or sumtin.

i totally agree with Lil. You just have to let go, no more looking over your shoulders for your ex, no more thinking of what if you're still with him, no more thinking about what he's doing now. Whether he's happy or not, successful or not is no longer your problem, if you're still bothered that means you still care about him.
Your life and your future is now with james, it's not fair to james if you're still hanging on to your past.
yeah... i know i shud let go. no, i've nvr tot of ex actually, the memories are all like fm a parallel dimension kinda thing dat nvr really exist. only thing dat remains is d emotions i feel, esp anger at him for such treatment n anger at myself for letting him control me.

i told james bout wats going on in frienster n mentioned dat im bothered by it but he also said the same thing - ignore n forget bout it. True, it's not fair for him, although i havent treated him any different whether ex is back or not.

aiyohhh boh.. kelian.. hmm .. why waste your energy and time on this jerk. might as well save it and spend it on james instead :D ..



by being so fired up and being afraid that he is round the corner shows that he is still a big part of your life and still has control over you.. i'm sure you rather die than let him still have control over you in my opinion, that's what happening

boh, you hold the key and you are the one who can lock it lar.. you don't need him to have closure about it, you have to make the decision that he is not even worth one second of your time/attention/thoughts/etc and prove to him that you have move on. don't give him the satisfaction that he can still affect you..
keep in mind that you have move on to greater things(james) and he doesn't deserve you then, and doesn't now and never will, period.

just my 2 cents worth.. amounts to nothing
hehe... i like ur 1st sentence. yeah, james been getting alotta attention fm me lately cuz he saved my a** wen i got into trouble at workplace once.

yes, i admit he (ex) still affects me albeit indirectly. how can i help it? it's just too much. after we ended i turned away guys rite n left for a couple of yrs. dat is, until james came along. :o

i hold the key eh? hmm... nvr tot its with me all the while. why didnt i tok to u earlier la?? dat changes alotta things then...

[Adele]

actually, james looked abit scared wen i told him bout d burning pix part... hehehee... he must think im a witch or sumtin.
that's 'coz he takut IF you both break up, you'll do this to him ma.... but tell him not to worry, at least you're not into voodoo!! :eek: :laugh:

[Lava Gal]

well, this is my opinion (and it's really not worth a lot)...
if you really want to move on, then don't check anymore...
don't even try to find ammunition against him or anything...
just let it go and be no part of it at all, period...

i hope i am making sense...

aiyohhh boh.. kelian.. hmm .. why waste your energy and time on this jerk. might as well save it and spend it on james instead :D ..

just my 2 cents worth.. amounts to nothing
both lilian & elaine have just uttered 'pearls of wisdom up there...and eh eh, so humble pulak?! u 2 make great sense there...and ur opinions worth more than u realize :D
oh yeah, lain...i lurve the part bout 'holding the key' ;)



boh...either u ignore, or just REJECT REQUEST once & for all. so wat if he knows tat u rejected...tat'd in fact get the message across faster, nope?
im trying very hard to ignore it, tho sumtimes my fingers can get real itchy... so best thing to cure that is to forum more n more till fingers tired liao... hehehe

U bet love hurts. it it aint, it wudnt be such a challenging game rite.

hey fren, why u so sad today? sum1 bully u ah?? tell me who i kick dat fella to pluto n beyond! :laugh:
someone bully me ah? hmm...maybe tat someone is me. was jus a 'real shock' which has made me wonder is there such a thing as 'karma' after all? fairness...justice?!!
ppl who go around bitching & backstabbing get the good things in life...things they dont deserve, and why are some ppl such great idiotes!!

am i over it? i dare not answer...aiyks, i oso duno la. why shud i feel so much, if i didnt care? haiyo...but feel a lil better after blogging it.

[LiLiaN]

burning stuff and returning etc is just physical "wash-my-hands-off-him" approach...
it doesn't make you truly move on from the situation...
it's about your mind accepting the situation and your determination to let go of the past...
i can't explain how to do it, but believe me, once you go it, you'll feel so free...
it's like a major burden lifted and after that, it'll never bother you again...
it won't evoke any sort of reaction and you'll just go "so what" if someone talk about him...

[cxtreme]

i suggest that u erase all trace of him, remove him from ur msn, friendster etc etc etc..







until you come to a point in time...where it really doesn't matter anymore..that no matter what transgression he's done, you'll forgive....and everyone will look back and laugh at how silly it was..

but until then if it's stil affecting your emotions, please dont bother...and severe all ties..dont even be curious




there. really. are. more. important. things. in. life

[Ah Boh]

that's 'coz he takut IF you both break up, you'll do this to him ma.... but tell him not to worry, at least you're not into voodoo!! :eek:
big IF there... *crossing my fingers + toes!!* :squeeze:

both lilian & elaine have just uttered 'pearls of wisdom up there...and eh eh, so humble pulak?! u 2 make great sense there...and ur opinions worth more than u realize :D
oh yeah, lain...i lurve the part bout 'holding the key'



boh...either u ignore, or just REJECT REQUEST once & for all. so wat if he knows tat u rejected...tat'd in fact get the message across faster, nope?

someone bully me ah? hmm...maybe tat someone is me. was jus a 'real shock' which has made me wonder is there such a thing as 'karma' after all? fairness...justice?!!
ppl who go around bitching & backstabbing get the good things in life...things they dont deserve, and why are some ppl such great idiotes!!

am i over it? i dare not answer...aiyks, i oso duno la. why shud i feel so much, if i didnt care? haiyo...but feel a lil better after blogging it.
ignore or reject? hmm... i think i'll reject n pretend he dun exist. i'll feel weird for awhile cuz i've nvr rejected a frendster request b4, but i wont make it a habit rite.

burning stuff and returning etc is just physical "wash-my-hands-off-him" approach...
it doesn't make you truly move on from the situation...
it's about your mind accepting the situation and your determination to let go of the past...
i can't explain how to do it, but believe me, once you go it, you'll feel so free...
it's like a major burden lifted and after that, it'll never bother you again...
it won't evoke any sort of reaction and you'll just go "so what" if someone talk about him...
hey thanks for ur tots, very clear bout d physical action n mind thing.

i really wish sum1 can tell me how to be free. but if not, then.. i guess time will tell. there's a saying, time heals all wounds. i wonder how long tho?

i suggest that u erase all trace of him, remove him from ur msn, friendster etc etc etc..







until you come to a point in time...where it really doesn't matter anymore..that no matter what transgression he's done, you'll forgive....and everyone will look back and laugh at how silly it was..

but until then if it's stil affecting your emotions, please dont bother...and severe all ties..dont even be curious




there. really. are. more. important. things. in. life
nope, i dun hv his msn/frendster/email. he just found me by some dumb luck or he's been doing his 'research'.

point taken. :amused:

[Lava Gal]

yup...TIME IS THE GREATEST HEALER...as a fren shared with me, it'll happen in God's time...not our time :)

[siehjin]

hey boh...

i understand that this guy has hurt u really deeply... but the truth is, if u want closure, u need to forgive him. the saying 'time heals all wounds' isn't altogether true; if the wound isn't properly treated, over time it might turn septic and lead to amputation or even death. time alone doesn't heal wounds... right treatment must be given also.

i gather that quite some time has passed since this ex of yours hurt you, but the wounds are still festering now. rather than let it continue to fester, i encourage you to take a step towards healing - forgive.

forgiving him does not mean that he was not in the wrong. it doesn't mean that he doesn't deserve to be punished. it doesn't mean that he wasn't a jerk, and it doesn't mean that you have to take any further notice of him.

forgiving him means releasing yourself actually. setting yourself free from the anger, hurt, and bitterness that you are holding on to. he isn't hurt by your unforgiveness, you know. by not forgiving him, you only hurt yourself. leave his punishment to God - he'll get it one day. ignore him, not out of hate, but simply because you could care less about him and want to protect yourself from further injury.

forgiveness is a choice, and a process. it begins with a decision: i want to forgive. there will be times when the rage and bitterness rise up again; this is because the process is not yet complete. as you countinue to choose forgiveness, over time the wound will heal until u can think of him without that knot forming in your stomach and that shooting pain going through your heart. then you'll know that you have forgiven, and in so doing, have set yourself free.

sorry for being so long-winded, i hope i haven't bored everyone. =) but i must end with one last thought: for us christians, forgiveness isn't just a good idea or a wise choice. knowing how much God has forgiven us, we must extend forgiveness to others. it is an imperative.

[Lava Gal]

forgiving him does not mean that he was not in the wrong. it doesn't mean that he doesn't deserve to be punished. it doesn't mean that he wasn't a jerk, and it doesn't mean that you have to take any further notice of him.

forgiving him means releasing yourself actually. setting yourself free from the anger, hurt, and bitterness that you are holding on to. he isn't hurt by your unforgiveness, you know. by not forgiving him, you only hurt yourself. leave his punishment to God - he'll get it one day. ignore him, not out of hate, but simply because you could care less about him and want to protect yourself from further injury.

forgiveness is a choice, and a process. it begins with a decision: i want to forgive. there will be times when the rage and bitterness rise up again; this is because the process is not yet complete. as you countinue to choose forgiveness, over time the wound will heal until u can think of him without that knot forming in your stomach and that shooting pain going through your heart. then you'll know that you have forgiven, and in so doing, have set yourself free.
wah...JIN! tatz a comprehensive reply :D

i saw a book title something like 'helping ur clients to forgive'...have u read that? i dun have the time to...but its something about how psychotherapists can use 'forgiveness' as a treatment modality for most of their pts.

true enuff...the party tat is subjected to hatred might be out there living their lives well & happily, while the party tatz unable to forgive is the one tat suffers lo..but ultimately, even u agree that TIME cures, rite ;)

[Anson F-Clef]

forgiving him does not mean that he was not in the wrong. it doesn't mean that he doesn't deserve to be punished. it doesn't mean that he wasn't a jerk, and it doesn't mean that you have to take any further notice of him.

forgiving him means releasing yourself actually. setting yourself free from the anger, hurt, and bitterness that you are holding on to. he isn't hurt by your unforgiveness, you know. by not forgiving him, you only hurt yourself. leave his punishment to God - he'll get it one day. ignore him, not out of hate, but simply because you could care less about him and want to protect yourself from further injury.

forgiveness is a choice, and a process. it begins with a decision: i want to forgive. there will be times when the rage and bitterness rise up again; this is because the process is not yet complete. as you countinue to choose forgiveness, over time the wound will heal until u can think of him without that knot forming in your stomach and that shooting pain going through your heart. then you'll know that you have forgiven, and in so doing, have set yourself free.

sorry for being so long-winded, i hope i haven't bored everyone. =) but i must end with one last thought: for us christians, forgiveness isn't just a good idea or a wise choice. knowing how much God has forgiven us, we must extend forgiveness to others. it is an imperative.

Ever heard about heaping coals of fire (Proverbs 25:22) before - and the meaning behind it?

[Ah Boh]

hey boh...

i understand that this guy has hurt u really deeply... but the truth is, if u want closure, u need to forgive him. the saying 'time heals all wounds' isn't altogether true; if the wound isn't properly treated, over time it might turn septic and lead to amputation or even death. time alone doesn't heal wounds... right treatment must be given also.

i gather that quite some time has passed since this ex of yours hurt you, but the wounds are still festering now. rather than let it continue to fester, i encourage you to take a step towards healing - forgive.

forgiving him does not mean that he was not in the wrong. it doesn't mean that he doesn't deserve to be punished. it doesn't mean that he wasn't a jerk, and it doesn't mean that you have to take any further notice of him.

forgiving him means releasing yourself actually. setting yourself free from the anger, hurt, and bitterness that you are holding on to. he isn't hurt by your unforgiveness, you know. by not forgiving him, you only hurt yourself. leave his punishment to God - he'll get it one day. ignore him, not out of hate, but simply because you could care less about him and want to protect yourself from further injury.

forgiveness is a choice, and a process. it begins with a decision: i want to forgive. there will be times when the rage and bitterness rise up again; this is because the process is not yet complete. as you countinue to choose forgiveness, over time the wound will heal until u can think of him without that knot forming in your stomach and that shooting pain going through your heart. then you'll know that you have forgiven, and in so doing, have set yourself free.

sorry for being so long-winded, i hope i haven't bored everyone. =) but i must end with one last thought: for us christians, forgiveness isn't just a good idea or a wise choice. knowing how much God has forgiven us, we must extend forgiveness to others. it is an imperative.
thank u for understanding... i appreciate it.

yet i still have hope dat time will heal all wounds. i suppose im patient enuf to let things lie till something big happen in my life, like marriage or kids, then it'll eclipse d past cuz there'll be so much more going on in my life... then i will be able to forget for real.

yes, its been more than 2 yrs. it was my 1st love n i took it very seriously cuz im not d 'playing' kind. i trusted wholly...

yes, forgiveness is a choice. im a catholic, i truly believe in forgiveness too. i have forgiven frens who backstab, relatives who forsake me, etc. but somehow i cannot find dat spot in my heart to forgive him, maybe cuz he broke dat heart. to me, dat is an unforgivable act.

i mean, look at it in terms of real world practicality, how many gals (i dunno bout guys) can honestly forgive d one they love for hurting them where they're most vulnerable? who...?

one thing i've learned fm it is to be extremely wary of guys with sweet words or money to throw around d gals cuz its not sincere n hide ulterior motives. so much for being naive n innocent...

[Lava Gal]

nobody can break something belonging to US if we do not permit them to, boh dear...and now that u have found 'true love', i think that the 'naive broken heart' had made u stronger to savour THIS LOVE...and MUCH MORE TO COME IN LIFE.
so...is that jerk worth wasting ur energy by getting angry, upset, blah bla?? i think not...DO NOT give him the power to 'control' YOU...subconsciously, though physically he aint there anymore. its self-destructive..

yes, forgiveness is a choice. im a catholic, i truly believe in forgiveness too. i have forgiven frens who backstab, relatives who forsake me, etc. but somehow i cannot find dat spot in my heart to forgive him, maybe cuz he broke dat heart. to me, dat is an unforgivable act.

i mean, look at it in terms of real world practicality, how many gals (i dunno bout guys) can honestly forgive d one they love for hurting them where they're most vulnerable? who...?

jin...the bolded part on forgiveness i agree wif, realizing THIS meaning, tat by forgiving s1 doesnt mean i am a loser, nor that i 'like' them...but its jus seting me free from the 'clutch' they have on me by making me feel -ve was wat started me on my journey towards 4giveness...till recently, been troubled by some recurring issues, and i'm begining to wonder if I REALLY DID FORGIVE THEM AT ALL the 1st TIME ROUND??:wacko: :blink:
forgiving him does not mean that he was not in the wrong. it doesn't mean that he doesn't deserve to be punished. it doesn't mean that he wasn't a jerk, and it doesn't mean that you have to take any further notice of him.

forgiving him means releasing yourself actually. setting yourself free from the anger, hurt, and bitterness that you are holding on to. he isn't hurt by your unforgiveness, you know. by not forgiving him, you only hurt yourself. leave his punishment to God - he'll get it one day. ignore him, not out of hate, but simply because you could care less about him and want to protect yourself from further injury.
my fren...i have a Q here. serious one...
referring to bolded part up there:
tatz how i tot too...i believe in karma, retribution...wateva u call it la k. so when i forgive...i pacified myself that Almighty God will give them their due punishment, who am i to seek revenge etc? so...remembering the quote 'forgiveness is the fragrance a violet sheds on the very feet that crushed it' made it feel Good to forgive...and the peace within :D Ahhh...heaven!!

prob is, sometimes i've felt like i didnt really forgive, coz i did it with strings attached...hoping/blindly believing that 'god will give them their due'...though its not like i wish/pray for anything bad to happen la.
and if something does happen to them...i jus tell myself "hope god sees them thru this...afterall, this' just their own karma in action"

till last wkn i was skimming thru this book on forgiveness i mentioned in a earlier post...well well...it said forgiveness in true-sense doesnt involve this 'they will get their pay-back' thinking...instead its unconditional.

i am far from being an angel...but hoping to really be able to forgive & move on in life...big time! or maybe that'll only happen once i get a change of environment:unsure:

[cxtreme]

nobody can break something belonging to US if we do not permit them to, boh dear...and now that u have found 'true love', i think that the 'naive broken heart' had made u stronger to savour THIS LOVE...and MUCH MORE TO COME IN LIFE.
so...is that jerk worth wasting ur energy by getting angry, upset, blah bla?? i think not...DO NOT give him the power to 'control' YOU...subconsciously, though physically he aint there anymore. its self-destructive..



jin...the bolded part on forgiveness i agree wif, realizing THIS meaning, tat by forgiving s1 doesnt mean i am a loser, nor that i 'like' them...but its jus seting me free from the 'clutch' they have on me by making me feel -ve was wat started me on my journey towards 4giveness...till recently, been troubled by some recurring issues, and i'm begining to wonder if I REALLY DID FORGIVE THEM AT ALL the 1st TIME ROUND??:wacko: :blink:

my fren...i have a Q here. serious one...
referring to bolded part up there:
tatz how i tot too...i believe in karma, retribution...wateva u call it la k. so when i forgive...i pacified myself that Almighty God will give them their due punishment, who am i to seek revenge etc? so...remembering the quote 'forgiveness is the fragrance a violet sheds on the very feet that crushed it' made it feel Good to forgive...and the peace within :D Ahhh...heaven!!

prob is, sometimes i've felt like i didnt really forgive, coz i did it with strings attached...hoping/blindly believing that 'god will give them their due'...though its not like i wish/pray for anything bad to happen la.
and if something does happen to them...i jus tell myself "hope god sees them thru this...afterall, this' just their own karma in action"

till last wkn i was skimming thru this book on forgiveness i mentioned in a earlier post...well well...it said forgiveness in true-sense doesnt involve this 'they will get their pay-back' thinking...instead its unconditional.

i am far from being an angel...but hoping to really be able to forgive & move on in life...big time! or maybe that'll only happen once i get a change of environment:unsure:



The idea of forgiveness is that there really should be no strings attached..there should be no more animosity towards that person, that you should be willing to invite the person into your home again and treat him with sincere hospitality...i think that's the idea of forgiveness...remember that forgiveness has to include acceptance as well...

about the karma/retribution thing..i guess our belief is that whatever happens, each person has to be accountable for their actions and at the end of the day, there will be a balance of accounts....but that should not be basis for your forgiveness..in fact that smacks of malice instead....we should just forgive and let things be..whatever happens or doesn't happen is not up to us...

who knows sometimes it is us that is wrong..haha really at times its all a matter of perception.

on the other hand..forgive but dont forget....forgive wholeheartedly, but come out of the experience with less naivety and more maturity. not saying that you should be more wary but instead be more observant of things so that you dont get hurt again. but also, still best not to loose the faith of a child that we once have.... hmm tricky balance

sounds like i'm rambling nonsensicals again

[Lava Gal]

on the other hand..forgive but dont forget....forgive wholeheartedly, but come out of the experience with less naivety and more maturity. not saying that you should be more wary but instead be more observant of things so that you dont get hurt again. but also, still best not to loose the faith of a child that we once have.... hmm tricky balance

sounds like i'm rambling nonsensicals again

tatz wonderful advice, cxtreme :D

love that part...forgive but dont forget ;)
maybe coz personally i have this 'weakness'....elephant memory when it concerns things like this (now...if only i had tat in studies).

i forgive...and move on...the other person buat muka & treat me shabby, except when they need me...not wanting to be a doormat (feel used by ppl when they need me)...so i become 'wary' too...and others blame me saying "yeah lo...who ask u be so nice, u think u angel ah?"....and says I, "nope...far from that, but neither a devil. but thinking of good ole times, i just want to be nice, and take their nicety at face value, thinking they too have moved on, but its jus a facade, and i get hurt again, so now i know who they really are, and have seen the 'BEWARE' sign"...

[cxtreme]

at any rate it is always good to help others...without having any strings attached..

so doesn't really matter when they're frenly only whne they need help...i mean everyone can help friends...but helping someone that youre not friends with..that's really the challenge...

as long as we have nothing to lose..and we do it with sincerity i think that's great.

[siehjin]

hey... =)

that thought about God giving them their due is not meant to be malicious. it's simply acknowledging that there are so many things we aren't in control of in this life, but God is in control. by not forgiving we hope to bring the one who hurt us to justice, but the fact is we destroy our own lives with anger and bitterness without any effect on that person. acknowledging that we can't control how or when justice will be done, and leaving it in God's hands, is part of forgiveness; part of letting go.

often we find it hard to forgive because of our sense of justice. we know that what was done to us was not right, and that something should be done about it. but keep in mind what kelvin said about perspective, that we ourselves may sometimes be in the wrong too. releasing our hurts to God acknowledges that He is the righteous and just judge, who knows all things and will judge rightly. knowing that justice will be done in the end, we no longer have a reason to cling on to the hurt we've been thru.

however, forgiveness is still unconditional in the sense that God may not judge the way we want Him to. He knows far more than we do - people's hearts, their motivations, the past experiences that have shaped them, etc - and the picture He sees is different from the one that we see. this means that He may not give them what we feel they deserve. but that's His call, not ours. forgiveness is letting go of my "right" to see that person suffer for what he did to me.

boh, i hope that you will find it in your heart to forgive him one day... cos as long as u hold on to that unforgiveness, you're building a wall around that part of your heart, keeping God from touching and healing it. His way is forgiveness. u may "forget" with time, as you said, with many other things to fill up your life; but without forgiveness, the hurt is always still there, lurking beneath the surface. it hasn't really been dealt with; it's just been swept under the carpet. so, may God help you to want to be willing to forgive.

[laineyee]

What Sieh Jin said is right.. Our sense of judgement is different from God, but we still need to lift the situation up to God, surrender it to Him and not take it back and dwell on it. Lot of times i say i give this situation to God and an hour later, i'm dwelling on it, hoping for sweet revenge which mean i haven't actually surrender the whole situation to God, just playing tug of war.

Unforgiveness is also a sin, and like sieh jin said with unforgiveness in your hear, you are actually blocking God for working in your life..his blessings, his protection... unforgiveness springs to my mind as a bitter, angry old lady still angry over something that happened 50 years ago and repulsed everyone around her with her sourpuss attitude.

unforgiveness has to be dealt with and not swept under the carpet, for me, situations that happened yonks ago, i totally forgot about it but once someone brings it up, guess what happes, the anger, the memories, the hurt all returns and gets me all fired up on an issue yonks ago.. times heals? depends if you want to be healed.

[Lava Gal]

at any rate it is always good to help others...without having any strings attached..

so doesn't really matter when they're frenly only whne they need help...i mean everyone can help friends...but helping someone that youre not friends with..that's really the challenge...

as long as we have nothing to lose..and we do it with sincerity i think that's great.
working our way coz thatz the path god has set for us...no matter wat others may think of us (some ppl forgive to be seen as 'angelic' & that they r better off than the other party).
i agree cxtreme, that its wat comes from within SINCERELY that counts...without seeking retribution

however, forgiveness is still unconditional in the sense that God may not judge the way we want Him to. He knows far more than we do - people's hearts, their motivations, the past experiences that have shaped them, etc - and the picture He sees is different from the one that we see. this means that He may not give them what we feel they deserve. but that's His call, not ours. forgiveness is letting go of my "right" to see that person suffer for what he did to me.
right? - self emplowed 'right'!!? more like we r punishing ourselves rite?by NOT forgiving...

What Sieh Jin said is right.. Our sense of judgement is different from God, but we still need to lift the situation up to God, surrender it to Him and not take it back and dwell on it. Lot of times i say i give this situation to God and an hour later, i'm dwelling on it, hoping for sweet revenge which mean i haven't actually surrender the whole situation to God, just playing tug of war.

Unforgiveness is also a sin, and like sieh jin said with unforgiveness in your hear, you are actually blocking God for working in your life..his blessings, his protection... unforgiveness springs to my mind as a bitter, angry old lady still angry over something that happened 50 years ago and repulsed everyone around her with her sourpuss attitude.
agree wif elaine & jin on the 'sense of judgement' part :)

and i've discovered that 'we CHOOSE to forgive'...it all starts with a thought, today....asap, that 'i WILL forgive...for the other person would have had a reason for behaving so, under their then given circumstances (though it doesnt mean they were right!)...and to free myself of hatred & malice by extending the gift of forgiveness'.
with that commitment, set on the path...

and elaine, even when things are rekindled & emotional outburst occur (tatz wat makes us human!), let it happen...but gain composure & remind self of the promise to forgive. and repeat 'the mantra'...over time, the hurt would have subsided...though linger abit...one day will be gone, though doesnt mean u'd be good frenz wif them - but tatz not the point, in a way...forgivng is a selfish act! coz the in FORGIVENESS process, we aim to 'free ourselves', ultimately...

[ryan_khoo82]

You guys and girls really need to lighten up :D

With all the "serious and heavy" stuff you guys talk about here, you sound really stressed :D

[Adele]

You guys and girls really need to lighten up :D

With all the "serious and heavy" stuff you guys talk about here, you sound really stressed :D
i agree!! for once, with you Ryan!! :eek: :laugh: but it's good to know that we are deep ppl with substance! hehehe...

[Lava Gal]

wah...adele agreeing wif ryan on something ;)

:cool:

:laugh:

okay....lets take a chill pill & lighten up, guys and gals...

[siehjin]

hehe, well, different ppl have different sense of what's fun... =)

i enjoy deep and meaningful discussions. not all the time, tho, of course. but once in a while... it can be very satisfying (to me anyway) to talk about things like this rather than always just skimming on the surface of things.

besides, i studied psychology. the inner workings of human hearts and minds is my playing field, muahahaha! =D

[Adele]

true SJ, about deep intellectual discussions.... it's just that if a serious discussion gets too long, it gets a little too draggy and boring. ;)

Lav, i'm agree-ing with SJ too so don't make any conclusions about me agree-ing with Ryan ya!! :p

[cxtreme]

haha adele..u sound a bit fickle now...haha just follow where the wind blows :p

to me i always enjoy a serious discourse or a debate...haha..always like to think deep deep...if the banter's too light i'll end up makin very crappy jokes

[Adele]

haha adele..u sound a bit fickle now...haha just follow where the wind blows :p

to me i always enjoy a serious discourse or a debate...haha..always like to think deep deep...if the banter's too light i'll end up makin very crappy jokes
i'm not being crappy cxtreme my boy..... i'm just being the balanced libra that i am. i know when to be serious and when not to be. when things gets too draggy, i'll drag myself out. not because i can't join the serious debate. it's not my battle/war to win so, being balanced, i back off. plain and simple. ;)

[cxtreme]

err okay...hehehe

so let's continue with the serious debate..

what were we debating about??

[ryan_khoo82]

true SJ, about deep intellectual discussions.... it's just that if a serious discussion gets too long, it gets a little too draggy and boring. ;)

Lav, i'm agree-ing with SJ too so don't make any conclusions about me agree-ing with Ryan ya!! :p

Adele's pattern is to disagree with me whenever she can you see. That's how she justifies why we are incompatible :noworry:

[cxtreme]

Adele's pattern is to disagree with me whenever she can you see. That's how she justifies why we are incompatible :noworry:

haha
well
that's also the notion that opposites attract

so going by taht argument, u 2 are perfectlycompatible...isn't taht the case :cheesy: :rolleyes:

[fatso_dude]

whoa...i was just about to ask " whadid i miss?", then after skimming through the posts,decided againts it!!!:wacko:
whats this i been reading about how drinking redbull can cause erectile dysfunction...:wacko:
ooh,hi all:D

[Adele]

err okay...hehehe

so let's continue with the serious debate..

what were we debating about??
seriously cxtreme, don't you pay attn to the topic when you're debating?? this is the hot loveseat theard. what else could we possibly be debating about??!!?? sheesh........:sus:
Adele's pattern is to disagree with me whenever she can you see. That's how she justifies why we are incompatible
have i ever said that we are incompatible??? :blink:
haha
well
that's also the notion that opposites attract

so going by taht argument, u 2 are perfectlycompatible...isn't taht the case
it certainly IS the case now huh?? thanks for pointing out the obvious cxtreme!! you're a genius!! :amazed: :laugh:

[cxtreme]

seriously cxtreme, don't you pay attn to the topic when you're debating?? this is the hot loveseat theard. what else could we possibly be debating about??!!?? sheesh........:sus:

have i ever said that we are incompatible??? :blink:

it certainly IS the case now huh?? thanks for pointing out the obvious cxtreme!! you're a genius!! :amazed: :laugh:

ryan...she sending out very strong hints of her acceptance already...better grab quick b4 she changes her mind ..AGAIN..hahahaha

[Adele]

ryan...she sending out very strong hints of her acceptance already...better grab quick b4 she changes her mind ..AGAIN..hahahaha
:laugh: by the time he reads this, the wind has changed its course a million times edi lor!! :laugh:

[Lava Gal]

hehe, well, different ppl have different sense of what's fun...

i enjoy deep and meaningful discussions. not all the time, tho, of course. but once in a while... it can be very satisfying (to me anyway) to talk about things like this rather than always just skimming on the surface of things.

besides, i studied psychology. the inner workings of human hearts and minds is my playing field, muahahaha!
jin, i agree wif u too. like drg schooldays i used to talk abt 'happenings' highlighted in nppr wif buddies sometimes...and oh, the issues tat cropped up for debates (usu wif Yin Fen) - haha, miss 'd good ole days!
i realize when in real-life u try to talk bout 'deep issues'...most ppl would back out, or hold back their arguments for not wanting to appear too serious.

of coz...there's a need for serious topics, but if gettin too serious for everyone's own good...then better pour 'cold water' to lessen the fire ;)

oh...feel like sharing something...but dowan to be off topic, will find another place to say those things. my blog jadi mangsa pula...haha
:eek:

true SJ, about deep intellectual discussions.... it's just that if a serious discussion gets too long, it gets a little too draggy and boring.

Lav, i'm agree-ing with SJ too so don't make any conclusions about me agree-ing with Ryan ya!!
=p sharp...sharp there, though i wasnt making any conclusions. haha...not yet though, coz i can 'leave that job to' so many others in here.

haha adele..u sound a bit fickle now...haha just follow where the wind blows

to me i always enjoy a serious discourse or a debate...haha..always like to think deep deep...if the banter's too light i'll end up makin very crappy jokes
sometimes...its good to be fickled. so that u can view things in lighter way & not get too emotionally affected...

actually me oso quite a deep thinker...sometimes i think i think too much:wacko:

hey cxtreme! u oso one of school debaters, kan...like SJ? no wonder u guys...hehe. fahamlah i sekarang...

Adele's pattern is to disagree with me whenever she can you see. That's how she justifies why we are incompatible
ehemm...adele, now what am i to assume?

compatibility is in the eye of the beholder ;)

[Adele]

=p sharp...sharp there, though i wasnt making any conclusions. haha...not yet though, coz i can 'leave that job to' so many others in here.
ehemm...adele, now what am i to assume?
compatibility is in the eye of the beholder ;)
:laugh: assume la all you all want..... Adele tak kisah........ :laugh:

[ryan_khoo82]

:laugh: by the time he reads this, the wind has changed its course a million times edi lor!! :laugh:

The moment I read Cxtreme's post, I knew it was over :confused:

Adele will never let that go :sus:

Guess I'll have to try again some other way...

[Adele]

The moment I read Cxtreme's post, I knew it was over :confused:

Adele will never let that go :sus:

Guess I'll have to try again some other way...
:laugh: Ryan, Ryan..... kesian..... but your some other way is through my sis right?? :laugh:

eh, ppl! share share about on your experiences in getting the girl/guy la... whether present/past r/ships. let us learn how to be the best courter in town! LOL!!!!!!!!!!!

[belle_c]

forgiving him means releasing yourself actually. setting yourself free from the anger, hurt, and bitterness that you are holding on to. he isn't hurt by your unforgiveness, you know. by not forgiving him, you only hurt yourself. leave his punishment to God - he'll get it one day. ignore him, not out of hate, but simply because you could care less about him and want to protect yourself from further injury.

forgiveness is a choice, and a process. it begins with a decision: i want to forgive. there will be times when the rage and bitterness rise up again; this is because the process is not yet complete. as you countinue to choose forgiveness, over time the wound will heal until u can think of him without that knot forming in your stomach and that shooting pain going through your heart. then you'll know that you have forgiven, and in so doing, have set yourself free..

hi..been following this interesting heartfelt thread.. can't help commenting on sieh jin's view on forgiveness..which i find so true.
i used to find it so hard to forgive certain ppl simply because i thought "they didn't deserve it". how could i "release forgiveness" upon them when they have been so cruel and callous with my feelings?
until i understood the power of setting myself free..:D i've learnt that i was the one hurting the most when i stubbornly refused to "release" the one who hurt me..when i forgave, i was the one who benefitted the most from it..healing could take place n i began to "grow" n mature as a better person...;)

[ryan_khoo82]

:laugh: Ryan, Ryan..... kesian..... but your some other way is through my sis right?? :laugh:

eh, ppl! share share about on your experiences in getting the girl/guy la... whether present/past r/ships. let us learn how to be the best courter in town! LOL!!!!!!!!!!!

Your sister seems nice. She is attractive.... from the back at least :D

I guess I don't mind dating her :D

[Adele]

Your sister seems nice. She is attractive.... from the back at least :D

I guess I don't mind dating her :D
GOOD LUCK! trust me you'll need it! :laugh:

[cxtreme]

GOOD LUCK! trust me you'll need it! :laugh:

y? ur sister a maneater?

[Adele]

y? ur sister a maneater?
not saying anything! :laugh:

[laineyee]

hahha .. have get past adele first, then her father also ler !! so Ryan will need lots of luck !!
don't even know if he can get adele's approval, she said in another thread

NO WAY

so i guess, how much luck also not lucky lar :rolleyes:

[Lava Gal]

Your sister seems nice. She is attractive.... from the back at least

I guess I don't mind dating her
wah low...so direct ah this buaya. eh isnt mei a bit too young for u?:sus:

hi..been following this interesting heartfelt thread.. can't help commenting on sieh jin's view on forgiveness..which i find so true.
i used to find it so hard to forgive certain ppl simply because i thought "they didn't deserve it". how could i "release forgiveness" upon them when they have been so cruel and callous with my feelings?
until i understood the power of setting myself free.. i've learnt that i was the one hurting the most when i stubbornly refused to "release" the one who hurt me..when i forgave, i was the one who benefitted the most from it..healing could take place n i began to "grow" n mature as a better person...;)

:D

...and, belle...feel free to come in here, and share ur views wif us ANYTIME yeah

[kwimango]

wah low...so direct ah this buaya. eh isnt mei a bit too young for u?:sus:

when i was back in sec 4 in singapore, my geography teacher told us that statistics show that men tend to marry girls approx 4 years younger than they are....

so i am sure ryan would have better chances with mei than adele.. no need to come and fight with all the 30++ yr old men for adele's attention horrrr

[Oddfather]

when i was back in sec 4 in singapore, my geography teacher told us that statistics show that men tend to marry girls approx 4 years younger than they are....

so i am sure ryan would have better chances with mei than adele.. no need to come and fight with all the 30++ yr old men for adele's attention horrrr

wah.........this one is lining up and aiming to take a cupid shot at adele....:eek:

[ryan_khoo82]

hahha .. have get past adele first, then her father also ler !! so Ryan will need lots of luck !!
don't even know if he can get adele's approval, she said in another thread

NO WAY

so i guess, how much luck also not lucky lar :rolleyes:

Adele's sister is 4 years younger ar? That makes her 20. That seems the correct age nowadays to seriously get curious about men isn't it?

Don't worry, I may talk like a buaya but actually I treat women very well one :D Right or not Adele?

[Adele]

when i was back in sec 4 in singapore, my geography teacher told us that statistics show that men tend to marry girls approx 4 years younger than they are....

so i am sure ryan would have better chances with mei than adele.. no need to come and fight with all the 30++ yr old men for adele's attention horrrr
thanks for trying to help but you're not helping at all Kwi!! :mad: i'm trying to get 'em ppl away from my sis!!
wah.........this one is lining up and aiming to take a cupid shot at adele....
aiks?? thanks for pointing out Oddpapa.... i shall go take cover now! :eek:
Adele's sister is 4 years younger ar? That makes her 20. That seems the correct age nowadays to seriously get curious about men isn't it?

Don't worry, I may talk like a buaya but actually I treat women very well oneRight or not Adele?
she's exactly 4 1/2 years younger than us but by year, it would be 5 so that makes her 20. she's never curious about men. they've been in and out of her life one time too many edi. :eek: LOL!!!!!!!! just kidding..... if you really want, you can try la... :noworry:

Ryan, right............... but still doesn't mean i'm giving my sis away to you just like that. you've gotta work for it! and in our family, to get either girls, you've to go through the other girl first..... SO, where are my presents??!! LOL!!!

[cxtreme]

hmm..i'm 2 years away..so there's a better possibility rite :p

[kwimango]

thanks for trying to help but you're not helping at all Kwi!! :mad: i'm trying to get 'em ppl away from my sis!!
ryan not good enough for your sister ah?

you've to go through the other girl first..... SO, where are my presents??!! LOL!!!
oooo.. sly!

[ryan_khoo82]

she's exactly 4 1/2 years younger than us but by year, it would be 5 so that makes her 20. she's never curious about men. they've been in and out of her life one time too many edi. :eek: LOL!!!!!!!! just kidding..... if you really want, you can try la... :noworry:

Ryan, right............... but still doesn't mean i'm giving my sis away to you just like that. you've gotta work for it! and in our family, to get either girls, you've to go through the other girl first..... SO, where are my presents??!! LOL!!!

4 1/2 years younger? What year was she born in? 1987?

[belle_c]

...and, belle...feel free to come in here, and share ur views wif us ANYTIME yeah

thanks lava gal...for ur invitation..;)

[Adele]

ryan not good enough for your sister ah?
oooo.. sly!
He not good enough for me, wanna pass to my sister meh?? :eek: :laugh: j/k
it's not sly, it's just the rule of the thumb for us Chee sisters ;)

Ryan, yes 1987.

[laineyee]

hmm ..still remember mei when she was still kecikmayung, tagging along behind u lin whenever we were over at your place :eek:
now all the guys are tagging along behind her

[Adele]

hmm ..still remember mei when she was still kecikmayung, tagging along behind u lin whenever we were over at your place :eek:
now all the guys are tagging along behind her
alamak!! :eek: hehehehe...... sigh.... aiyo.... you reminding me of the good ol' days la..... :crying: missing it...... when la our gang can gather together again la?? now, everytime sure one person missing. sigh.....

[kwimango]

it's not sly, it's just the rule of the thumb for us Chee sisters ;)

eh maybe i shd implement that too for the Lim brothers... but dun need presents.. just cook for us can liao...

[laineyee]

alamak!! :eek: hehehehe...... sigh.... aiyo.... you reminding me of the good ol' days la..... :crying: missing it...... when la our gang can gather together again la?? now, everytime sure one person missing. sigh.....
yeahh .. i know.. go to your place bake choco cake last time.. i'm sure there will be a time when we can all meet..
eh maybe i shd implement that too for the Lim brothers... but dun need presents.. just cook for us can liao...
:blink: why? but your father can cook so well.. you should train and learn from your dad, then cook for the girls !!:noworry:

[cxtreme]

yeahh .. i know.. go to your place bake choco cake last time.. i'm sure there will be a time when we can all meet..

:blink: why? but your father can cook so well.. you should train and learn from your dad, then cook for the girls !!:noworry:

haven't you heard that the way to aman's heart is through the stomach :p :eek:

[kwimango]

yeahh .. i know.. go to your place bake choco cake last time.. i'm sure there will be a time when we can all meet..

:blink: why? but your father can cook so well.. you should train and learn from your dad, then cook for the girls !!:noworry:

my father cooks really well, the only problem is that his measuring cup/scale is a little spoilt so always cook too much

thats why cxtreme is so round now... i left the house when i was 15 so i was spared the spare tyre

i expect girls to cook as well as my grandma... which is like 10 times better than my dad!

[ryan_khoo82]

He not good enough for me, wanna pass to my sister meh?? :eek: :laugh: j/k
it's not sly, it's just the rule of the thumb for us Chee sisters ;)

Ryan, yes 1987.

Chee sisters are apparently way beyond my level :( sob sob...

[malcolm]

Chee sisters are apparently way beyond my level :( sob sob...

it is okay Ryan! Improve 1% everyday and we support you! ;)

[Adele]

Chee sisters are apparently way beyond my level sob sob...
it is okay Ryan! Improve 1% everyday and we support you!
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

[laineyee]

haven't you heard that the way to aman's heart is through the stomach :p :eek:
hmm .. yes, but got the heart already then.. guys can cook for me !!
my father cooks really well, the only problem is that his measuring cup/scale is a little spoilt so always cook too much

thats why cxtreme is so round now... i left the house when i was 15 so i was spared the spare tyre

i expect girls to cook as well as my grandma... which is like 10 times better than my dad!
hi hi .. it's good that his measuring cup broke, cos i get to eat as well. come evenings, kel or kelly will drop by and give me rojak lar, this lar, that lar.. YUMMM
it is okay Ryan! Improve 1% everyday and we support you! ;)
hey hey, speak for yourself malc... i support lin :cool:

[Adele]

hmm .. yes, but got the heart already then.. guys can cook for me !!
hey hey, speak for yourself malc... i support lin :cool:
good one girl!! thanks for the support too! ;)

[ryan_khoo82]

alamak!! :eek: hehehehe...... sigh.... aiyo.... you reminding me of the good ol' days la..... :crying: missing it...... when la our gang can gather together again la?? now, everytime sure one person missing. sigh.....


Want to do Christmas eve party ar? Find a restaurant, buy some Christmas hats, sing alittle. If there is someone who can lend their home for the event even better...

Alternatively, there is a Christmas concert going on at KLPac soon. A gathering dinner in Sentul Park and concert sounds good to any of you? Later can go for drinks and nightcap. Christmas is a good theme for a gathering. Christmas songs, holiday spirit and gift sharing. I think shouldn't cost more than RM100 a head for everything.

Dates for the concert are between 14th to 17th December. Interested, please raise your hands!!! Details on the concert below.

Adele, bring your sis :D


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[Adele]

Want to do Christmas eve party ar? Find a restaurant, buy some Christmas hats, sing alittle. If there is someone who can lend their home for the event even better...

Alternatively, there is a Christmas concert going on at KLPac soon. A gathering dinner in Sentul Park and concert sounds good to any of you? Later can go for drinks and nightcap. Christmas is a good theme for a gathering. Christmas songs, holiday spirit and gift sharing. I think shouldn't cost more than RM100 a head for everything.

Dates for the concert are between 14th to 17th December. Interested, please raise your hands!!! Details on the concert below.

Adele, bring your sis :D
http://www.klpac.com/Welcome.asp?c=whatsontheatreview&theatreID=98&theatrecatID=6
Christmas party maybe can. 14-17th not free. sis won't go w/o me. sorry to burst your bubble ryan....

[Ah Boh]

hmm... i can see ryan + adele having fun here :)

but other than dat, it's too quiet in here...

[kwimango]

hmm... i can see ryan + adele having fun here :)

but other than dat, it's too quiet in here...

aiyah, thats becoz ah boh is playing 'lamppost' here

ever heard about two's company, three's a crowd?!

[Ah Boh]

aiyah, thats becoz ah boh is playing 'lamppost' here

ever heard about two's company, three's a crowd?!
dats why u're here la. u are #4!

we both hendap these two ppl... hehe...

[Lava Gal]

and me joining...makes it 5! :p now that 2 would go quiet ;)

[kwimango]

and me joining...makes it 5! :p now that 2 would go quiet ;)
eh this lavagirl kecoh la, we only need 4 people here

*brings out the violin while ah boh plays the accordion*
"Oh this is the night, it's a beautiful night
And we call it bella notte"

http://www.boxofficemojo.com/img/l/ladyandthetramp/LADY%20AND%20THE%20TRAMP%20SE%2001_Lady-1cR.jpg

[Lava Gal]

:mad: kiwi! u enter our 'house'...and u call me kecoh!

:crying:

[kwimango]

:mad: kiwi! u enter our 'house'...and u call me kecoh!

:crying:

okok, u can hold a torchlight and pretend to be a lamppost while ah boh and i serenade adele and ryan

[ryan_khoo82]

Not exactly the response I was hoping from my initial post.....

[Lava Gal]

Not exactly the response I was hoping from my initial post.....

erm...and what was that, ryan?

xmas gathering kah? me too far....wont be able to make it, plus over budget for a student la...u guys go ahead and enjoy, k! i'll be there in spirit ;)

[Ah Boh]

eh this lavagirl kecoh la, we only need 4 people here

*brings out the violin while ah boh plays the accordion*
"Oh this is the night, it's a beautiful night
And we call it bella notte"

http://www.boxofficemojo.com/img/l/ladyandthetramp/LADY%20AND%20THE%20TRAMP%20SE%2001_Lady-1cR.jpg
LOL! how romantic...

okok, u can hold a torchlight and pretend to be a lamppost while ah boh and i serenade adele and ryan
yeah yeah, i pinjam u my torchlight, very powerful wan i use for caving adventures. sure can nyalakan more passion! haha... :laugh:

:mad: kiwi! u enter our 'house'...and u call me kecoh!

:crying:
dun cry dun cry...

mango fella! better pujuk lava else i dunwan play accordian with u leh...

[Adele]

i also no comments. this thread i'm with Ryan, another thread i'm with KK. soon i'll be with all the buayas in the forum. sigh..... what is my life coming to ah?? :eek: :rolleyes: :p :laugh:

[kwimango]

i also no comments. this thread i'm with Ryan, another thread i'm with KK. soon i'll be with all the buayas in the forum. sigh..... what is my life coming to ah?? :eek: :rolleyes: :p :laugh:

doesn't that mean that you're popular?

[Adele]

doesn't that mean that you're popular?
popular for the wrong reasons, i'd rather not la.... :(

[Oddfather]

i also no comments. this thread i'm with Ryan, another thread i'm with KK. soon i'll be with all the buayas in the forum. sigh..... what is my life coming to ah?? :eek: :rolleyes:

aiyoh.....everyone except THE ONE....:unsure:

[laineyee]

aiyoh.....everyone except THE ONE....:unsure:

ahha .. oddpapa feeling left out izzit, didn't get linked to Adele.. okok..
adele-oddpapa

happy now:p

[Ah Boh]

ahha .. oddpapa feeling left out izzit, didn't get linked to Adele.. okok..
adele-oddpapa

happy now:p

haha... u memang very 'helpful' gal... :laugh:

[Oddfather]

ahha .. oddpapa feeling left out izzit, didn't get linked to Adele.. okok..
adele-oddpapa

happy now:p

aiyoh.......you missed it COMPLETELY.....not me laaaa...........way off target liao!!!!!!! hehehehe.....

[laineyee]

aiyoh.......you missed it COMPLETELY.....not me laaaa...........way off target liao!!!!!!! hehehehe.....

hahhh.. :amazed: off target ahh .. soli.. who is THE ONE then ? :huh:

[Oddfather]

hahhh.. :amazed: off target ahh .. soli.. who is THE ONE then ? :huh:

somebody with 2 eyes, 2 ears, a nose and A BIG MOUTH...........hahaha...

[laineyee]

somebody with 2 eyes, 2 ears, a nose and A BIG MOUTH...........hahaha...

ahha .. BIG MOUTH definately U :eek:

[Oddfather]

ahha .. BIG MOUTH definately U :eek:

hahaha......not as big as some others laaaaa..........:noworry:

[laineyee]

hahaha......not as big as some others laaaaa..........:noworry:

hmmm .. i'll have to look round in the forum pics to see who else have big mouth :sus: !! you mean big as in physically big or cakap banyak big ?

[Oddfather]

hmmm .. i'll have to look round in the forum pics to see who else have big mouth :sus: !! you mean big as in physically big or cakap banyak big ?

I guess in order to cakap banyak, it has to be physically big too, rite?? :laugh:

[Adele]

gossiping behind my back ah!!! :mad:

Oddpapa........ don't start spreading rumours ah..... when wind catches fire and burn down the forest, regretfully, everyone will :crying: appreciate the kind thoughts and consideration much! :noworry: :)

[Oddfather]

gossiping behind my back ah!!!

Oddpapa........ don't start spreading rumours ah..... when wind catches fire and burn down the forest, regretfully, everyone will :crying: appreciate the kind thoughts and consideration much!

huh.......what rumors?? :unsure: you meant you have some rumors going?? :blink: :blink:

[Adele]

huh.......what rumors?? you meant you have some rumors going??
well, looks like you're having some rumours going about me and the one... :blink: :blink: whoever that may be la..... considering you've gotten elaine asking for more info! :eek: :laugh: would prefer to not be the subject of discussion if i'm not around lor..... k? thankie thankie! =)

[Lava Gal]

so..adele, these ppl been toking behind ur back huh? :mad: how dare they?

psttt...now tat she's here, berani cakapla depan dia...jangan cakap di belakang :p

[Adele]

so..adele, these ppl been toking behind ur back huh? :mad: how dare they?

psttt...now tat she's here, berani cakapla depan dia...jangan cakap di belakang :p
:laugh: so cute my dear pal!! :) how are you?? i wanna go home........ still stuck in office!! sob sob sob

[Lava Gal]

someone offline dee...seems like dah 'go home' dee...me jus back from 'village' 4 comm proj meeting, now got emails to send out + go back later mus do p/folio....aiy, hosp has to wait till tom ni la...cant spend all my time in wards!

[Oddfather]

well, looks like you're having some rumours going about me and the one... whoever that may be la..... considering you've gotten elaine asking for more info! :eek:would prefer to not be the subject of discussion if i'm not around lor..... k? thankie thankie! =)

moved into outer space.

[Ah Boh]

i saw tis pix on kolig's friendster, she jt got married last yr.

ive nvr seen a wedding ring symbolising love in such a way... literally! i think its so meaningful n romantic...

http://i78.photobucket.com/albums/j106/siagb/untitled.jpg

[laineyee]

what book is that ? dictionary ? bible ?

[bizzi]

what book is that ? dictionary ? bible ?

it's a dictionary turned to the page with the definition "heart"

[SS2006]

it's a dictionary turned to the page with the definition "heart"

Wow, you got real sharp eyes, Bizzi.

[laineyee]

yeahh .. how you know ahhh.. ? :blink: ultra sharp eyes ler bizzi !!

[bizzi]

i saw tis pix on kolig's friendster, she jt got married last yr.

ive nvr seen a wedding ring symbolising love in such a way... literally! i think its so meaningful n romantic...

http://i78.photobucket.com/albums/j106/siagb/untitled.jpg

erm.. dunno if u all can see.. 2nd from bottom is Hearty, next one above is either heartwood/heartwise or heartwhole, and then Heartwarming, next Heart-to-Heart, and Heartthrob, Heartsickening.. and the rest is hard to read liao..

[laineyee]

i can't see anything :weird: !! wahh.. do you wearing specs bizzi ?

[Lava Gal]

i saw tis pix on kolig's friendster, she jt got married last yr.

ive nvr seen a wedding ring symbolising love in such a way... literally! i think its so meaningful n romantic...

http://i78.photobucket.com/albums/j106/siagb/untitled.jpg
wow! this is TOO meaningful leh. i wonder how did it reflect in such a way? some pattern carved within inner part of the ring? coz from outside nampak bulat je...

it's a dictionary turned to the page with the definition "heart"
jus now i said too meaningful...plus sweet and romantic. now i feel like :crying: d leh..

[bizzi]

wow! this is TOO meaningful leh. i wonder how did it reflect in such a way? some pattern carved within inner part of the ring? coz from outside nampak bulat je...


jus now i said too meaningful...plus sweet and romantic. now i feel like :crying: d leh..

just open a thick book in the middle, and put the ring standing on it's edge.. then shine a lamp from the top, but a little to the back of the ring.. and walah!!.. u have ur heart shaped shadow..

[Ah Boh]

wow! this is TOO meaningful leh. i wonder how did it reflect in such a way? some pattern carved within inner part of the ring? coz from outside nampak bulat je...


jus now i said too meaningful...plus sweet and romantic. now i feel like :crying: d leh..
yu p, its so sweeeett yet simple it touches my heart too...

erm.. dunno if u all can see.. 2nd from bottom is Hearty, next one above is either heartwood/heartwise or heartwhole, and then Heartwarming, next Heart-to-Heart, and Heartthrob, Heartsickening.. and the rest is hard to read liao..
wow, i didnt realise dat! i tot its just some book n didnt even bother to look at d fine print. now dat makes it even more meanignful than ever! :crying:

[laineyee]

handing tissues out to boh and lava.. who else is :crying: ?

[Ah Boh]

*accepting tissues*

thanx dear...

*blowing nose* puuubbbttthhhh...

there... all better.. :)

[Lava Gal]

handing tissues out to boh and lava.. who else is :crying: ?

i can only echo wat boh has said in previous post


;)

[siehjin]

haiya... so emo la u all... it's just a ring and its' shadow, after all... a result of the facts that "cahaya memancar dalam garisan lurus" and "cahaya tidak dapat menembusi bahan legap"... nothing sentimental about it... =P

don'tkillmedon'tkillme! =D

ok la it is nice... and meaningful... i admit it, i admit it! =)

[Ah Boh]

haiya... so emo la u all... it's just a ring and its' shadow, after all... a result of the facts that "cahaya memancar dalam garisan lurus" and "cahaya tidak dapat menembusi bahan legap"... nothing sentimental about it... =P

don'tkillmedon'tkillme! =D

ok la it is nice... and meaningful... i admit it, i admit it! =)

haha... d psychiatrist have spoken! :D

hey siehjin, how things with u & chen may? wen am i gonna receive a red wedding invite in my pathetically empty mailbox? :(

[laineyee]

why is it so quiet around here.. everybody busy ?
we've got a new member in our year KaTweiS

guess who !!

[malcolm]

why is it so quiet around here.. everybody busy ?
we've got a new member in our year KaTweiS

guess who !!

who is that?

[Anson F-Clef]

why is it so quiet around here.. everybody busy ?
we've got a new member in our year KaTweiS

guess who !!

If you are keen - could u pls help us by putting this post in the welcome thread instead?? TQVVM...........

[siehjin]

i know who it is! just read it backwards, you will read... KATAK!!! which, interestingly, is a palindrome. =)

guen boh, i'm psychologist, not a psychiatrist... i never did study medicine, u kno. =P as for the wedding card, keep your fingers crossed... if all goes well, it will be at the end of this year. =)

[Ah Boh]

i know who it is! just read it backwards, you will read... KATAK!!! which, interestingly, is a palindrome. =)

guen boh, i'm psychologist, not a psychiatrist... i never did study medicine, u kno. =P as for the wedding card, keep your fingers crossed... if all goes well, it will be at the end of this year. =)

ooppsss...sorry! actually im not too sure of differrence btw either one. hehe...

yeah yeah!

*wedding bells ringing*

our dear fren getting tied down... i mean... tied in matrimony :D

[laineyee]

Congrats Jin,

make sure you take lots n lots of pics to post on the forum so i can see !!

[Lava Gal]

hey...i dunno if its appropriate to post here, and i haven heard from parv myself. maybe she's too bz to check mails...boo hoo, how come i'm not invited :crying:
Vaguely rembr adele telling me to post 'Parvinder is getting married in NZ on 10th March'.
am i rite, adele?

[KaTweiS]

i know who it is! just read it backwards, you will read... KATAK!!! which, interestingly, is a palindrome. =)

guen boh, i'm psychologist, not a psychiatrist... i never did study medicine, u kno. =P as for the wedding card, keep your fingers crossed... if all goes well, it will be at the end of this year. =)


hi sieh jin..good to know that u havent change one bit:)

anyway, congratz to u...

[ryan_khoo82]

Siew Tak, are you back in Malaysia ar?

[KaTweiS]

i was back in msia...but currently in sg...
cming, u still go back to stwan?i tot u had moved to kl right?

[kwimango]

i was back in msia...but currently in sg...
cming, u still go back to stwan?i tot u had moved to kl right?

sg = singapore? why on earth are you logging on at 5am?

[KaTweiS]

yup...singapore...
well, just take it that i wake up at 5am for a jog in the park:)

[Ah Boh]

yup...singapore...
well, just take it that i wake up at 5am for a jog in the park:)

wahhhhh... too much lar u. now u making me feel fat & lazy... :squeeze:

[KaTweiS]

haha...
bohh....dun be stress...guys eat more than girls....tat's why guys need to exercize more...

[laineyee]

yup...singapore...
well, just take it that i wake up at 5am for a jog in the park:)

siao.. must have put on weight in Aus lar.. then s'wan ciak pa eng..

u celaka (&%*^@$) didn't bother to visit me.. i know canberra very boring lar.. but still :crying: then call me up n say u are already in m'sia.. chechh .. i bocor ur yi tian tian and taman monyet story baru u tau. !! :mad:

[malcolm]

wahhhhh... too much lar u. now u making me feel fat & lazy... :squeeze:

wah lao....5am arr.....i still sleeping ar.....i only wake up at 6 ar...

[athena]

wah lao....5am arr.....i still sleeping ar.....i only wake up at 6 ar...
dem....makes me worse!!! i wake up around 730-800 :(

[laineyee]

dem....makes me worse!!! i wake up around 730-800 :(

me too ath !! high 5 !!
but then hor, in malaysia time, it's 4.30-5am.. :p so i wake up earlier than u !

[athena]

me too ath !! high 5 !!
but then hor, in malaysia time, it's 4.30-5am.. :p so i wake up earlier than u !
:laugh: but then....i sleep so early too :(

[malcolm]

dem....makes me worse!!! i wake up around 730-800 :(

haha.... i was once like that... 8 am only wake up...

[laineyee]

:laugh: but then....i sleep so early too :(
why u sleep so early but wake up so late.. ahemmm what are u doing in .. :p
haha.... i was once like that... 8 am only wake up...
how far is work from where you live? it takes me about 10 mins to get to work so wake up 8.30 still in time for 9.00 work. :cool:

[athena]

haha...laineyee...sorry to disappoint...we don't do anything else but sleep...hahaha. ....GL goes to work early lor....;)

[malcolm]

why u sleep so early but wake up so late.. ahemmm what are u doing in .. :p

how far is work from where you live? it takes me about 10 mins to get to work so wake up 8.30 still in time for 9.00 work. :cool:

hahaa....i work from home...hahahahha

[laineyee]

haha...laineyee...sorry to disappoint...we don't do anything else but sleep...hahaha. ....GL goes to work early lor....;)
aisehhhh ..... spoil market.
hahaa....i work from home...hahahahha
why u wake up so early then? :weird:

[athena]

what ya mean spoil market? both of us off market liao le....we'll leave the energetic things for youngsters like urself!! ;)

[laineyee]

what ya mean spoil market? both of us off market liao le....we'll leave the energetic things for youngsters like urself!! ;)

:blink: lucky my mom not foruming and my sis in thailand.. they see this they will :wacko: faint ....only energetic activity for me is body attack.. (aerobics in the gym) :D

[athena]

:blink: lucky my mom not foruming and my sis in thailand.. they see this they will :wacko: faint ....only energetic activity for me is body attack.. (aerobics in the gym) :D
oh ..u do the body attack? hehehe....hvn't tried it...although my gym offers it!!

[laineyee]

yeahh .. i really enjoy it.. halfway during the class, they've got the pushup track, by then sweat will be dripping off your face..

my intructors are really fun as well, they bring their cowboy hats, wear really short skirts, and joke during the whole class..

my fav class, body attack and body pump..trying out body combat today... u should really try it !!

[Ah Boh]

wooiiii.... u guys n gals share share lar love stories...

dun lar melengkung to australia n uk n back to m'sia... keke..

[laineyee]

wooiiii.... u guys n gals share share lar love stories...

dun lar melengkung to australia n uk n back to m'sia... keke..

aikks... i was trying to dig out ath's night time love story... Used Asian style of melengkung here and there to get to my point..

talking about exercise will lead to love what, keep fit to look good and feel good, then might attract that cute guy in gym..

aihh .. there is this 1 guy in the boxercise class b4 my body attack class, so cute.. really tall and lean. not bulked up but nicely filled. He wears singlets and shorts everytime.. hihih .. see boh.. told you my rambling might lead to some story :o

[Chris C]

aikks... i was trying to dig out ath's night time love story... Used Asian style of melengkung here and there to get to my point..

talking about exercise will lead to love what, keep fit to look good and feel good, then might attract that cute guy in gym..

aihh .. there is this 1 guy in the boxercise class b4 my body attack class, so cute.. really tall and lean. not bulked up but nicely filled. He wears singlets and shorts everytime.. hihih .. see boh.. told you my rambling might lead to some story :o

.....anymore?:D

[laineyee]

.....anymore?:D

hi hi .. wait ahh.. i go for body combat class today and see if there are any more leng chais and will update tomorrow... hihi..pretty obvious what motivates me to go to the gym.. :p

[Chris C]

hi hi .. wait ahh.. i go for body combat class today and see if there are any more leng chais and will update tomorrow... hihi..pretty obvious what motivates me to go to the gym.. :p

:laugh: .....good motivation, aitelyu! ;)

[KaTweiS]

siao.. must have put on weight in Aus lar.. then s'wan ciak pa eng..

u celaka (&%*^@$) didn't bother to visit me.. i know canberra very boring lar.. but still :crying: then call me up n say u are already in m'sia.. chechh .. i bocor ur yi tian tian and taman monyet story baru u tau. !! :mad:


yalerrr...aus put on quite a lot of weight...

elaine...before i came back to msia, i got no money to go anywhere! not i duwan to visit u...i did try to call u tink...but never got thru i tink...

shhhhh....u r one of the characters at taman monyet too...u sure u want to bocor?hehehe

[Ah Boh]

yalerrr...aus put on quite a lot of weight...

elaine...before i came back to msia, i got no money to go anywhere! not i duwan to visit u...i did try to call u tink...but never got thru i tink...

shhhhh....u r one of the characters at taman monyet too...u sure u want to bocor?hehehe
katak! ur gf really pretty lar, whr u met her? how u chase her? hehe... we very kaypoh here wan.

aikks... i was trying to dig out ath's night time love story... Used Asian style of melengkung here and there to get to my point..

talking about exercise will lead to love what, keep fit to look good and feel good, then might attract that cute guy in gym..

aihh .. there is this 1 guy in the boxercise class b4 my body attack class, so cute.. really tall and lean. not bulked up but nicely filled. He wears singlets and shorts everytime.. hihih .. see boh.. told you my rambling might lead to some story :o
tell sumore! like his features? nice hair? sexy tan? :cheesy:

[laineyee]

yalerrr...aus put on quite a lot of weight...

elaine...before i came back to msia, i got no money to go anywhere! not i duwan to visit u...i did try to call u tink...but never got thru i tink...

shhhhh....u r one of the characters at taman monyet too...u sure u want to bocor?hehehe

hmm ok lar.. i accept your explanation..:squeeze:

aiyohh .. u can come stay at my place and i cook lar.. only only need to worry about airfare !!..

hihi :eek: .. i was innocent ok.. i was kidnapped and held against my will.. nothing for you to bocor about me in that incident

[KaTweiS]

oh no...girls' talk....or they are just treating the guys here invisible....
hmmmmmm......

[laineyee]

katak! ur gf really pretty lar, whr u met her? how u chase her? hehe... we very kaypoh here wan.


tell sumore! like his features? nice hair? sexy tan? :cheesy:

u didn't know our very own katak became prince aladin ? his gf's name is Jasmine.. Sorry Tak.. very pretty right. from singapore .. met in AUS !!

yeahh .. not very tanned, hair ? hmm .. everytime i see, it's wet with sweat. not long not short.. but 1 thing i noticed is his legs really skinny.. like chicken legs for someone so tall and broad.. his arms are quite muscular (when boxing) but not bulging like weight lifters, just nice i think...

[KaTweiS]

i had been a prince for a very long time! haha

omg...a guy that looks like a chicken....who noes he might had bird flu

[laineyee]

i had been a prince for a very long time! haha

omg...a guy that looks like a chicken....who noes he might had bird flu

Please .. what prince? u've been katak (froggy) until jasmine took pity on u. i said his skinny legs looks like chicken.. better than frog legs ok !!

[KaTweiS]

yikes...shudn't take part in a girls' talk...never noe when we might step on their tail....

[laineyee]

yikes...shudn't take part in a girls' talk...never noe when we might step on their tail....

ahemm.. not only step on their tail.. could potential lead to Yi Tian Tian..

:eek: it's not like u baru kenal me and boh anyway.. o thought u would be used to it by now... dunno what happen to lava and adele, MIA this month.

[Ah Boh]

Please .. what prince? u've been katak (froggy) until jasmine took pity on u. i said his skinny legs looks like chicken.. better than frog legs ok !!
hahahahaaaa.... funny u shud put it dat way, our dear old katak is a prince! AND jasmine is so gorgeous, like a real fairytale. :)

yikes...shudn't take part in a girls' talk...never noe when we might step on their tail....

no no no... dun be scared Tak, u just go with d flow, eventually d tide will turn n another topic (or victim) will crop up... like kwimango! we gals just luuurrveee to bully him. :D

[kwimango]

hahahahaaaa.... funny u shud put it dat way, our dear old katak is a prince! AND jasmine is so gorgeous, like a real fairytale. :)



no no no... dun be scared Tak, u just go with d flow, eventually d tide will turn n another topic (or victim) will crop up... like kwimango! we gals just luuurrveee to bully him. :D

i sit here quietly also kena tekan.. :mad:

[Ah Boh]

i sit here quietly also kena tekan.. :mad:
u can sit quietly ah??

i tot u sniggering n trying to light firecrackers behind our backs? i saw u! :p

[kwimango]

u can sit quietly ah??

i tot u sniggering n trying to light firecrackers behind our backs? i saw u! :p

you wait...... just wait.... :mad:

[KaTweiS]

hihi :eek: .. i was innocent ok.. i was kidnapped and held against my will.. nothing for you to bocor about me in that incident


elaine...no one grab u into the car...u walk in willingly...so that's not kidnap...

[KaTweiS]

no no no... dun be scared Tak, u just go with d flow, eventually d tide will turn n another topic (or victim) will crop up... like kwimango! we gals just luuurrveee to bully him. :D

no worries kwi...im here to help u defend men's dignity!hehe

[KaTweiS]

katak! ur gf really pretty lar, whr u met her? how u chase her? hehe... we very kaypoh here wan.



yikes....tat's a never ending fairy tale...if i start telling, everyone gonna fall asleep here...

[LiLiaN]

yikes....tat's a never ending fairy tale...if i start telling, everyone gonna fall asleep here...but the curiosity overrides everything, so start telling! :laugh:
(i was laughing so hard yesterday when read the comments following pic posting)

[kwimango]

no worries kwi...im here to help u defend men's dignity!hehe

thanks katak, dino and i will definitely call you in if we need an extra pair of hands in piak-ing these two delinquents

[laineyee]

u can sit quietly ah??
i sit here quietly also kena tekan.. :mad:


i tot u sniggering n trying to light firecrackers behind our backs? i saw u! :p
yeahh .. yeahh .. i also saw.. trying to fan api against us. !!
elaine...no one grab u into the car...u walk in willingly...so that's not kidnap...
i was tricked ok... !!
yikes....tat's a never ending fairy tale...if i start telling, everyone gonna fall asleep here...

but the curiosity overrides everything, so start telling! :laugh:
(i was laughing so hard yesterday when read the comments following pic posting)
yeahh .. katak.. spill it !! boring to you but we still want to hear the details..
thanks katak, dino and i will definitely call you in if we need an extra pair of hands in piak-ing these two delinquents

hi hi .. y? 2 grown men can't even handle us 2 girls izzit, until need to ask for reinforcement.. sighh .. sad and weak...

[Ah Boh]

hi hi .. y? 2 grown men can't even handle us 2 girls izzit, until need to ask for reinforcement.. sighh .. sad and weak...
indeed... *shaking head*

[kwimango]

indeed... *shaking head*

yeahh .. yeahh .. i also saw.. trying to fan api against us. !!

i was tricked ok... !!

yeahh .. katak.. spill it !! boring to you but we still want to hear the details..


hi hi .. y? 2 grown men can't even handle us 2 girls izzit, until need to ask for reinforcement.. sighh .. sad and weak...

oh i am sure dino alone can handle the both of you.. we just jump into the bandwagon....

if dino decides to hold a mass piak-ing event, i am sure other guys and uncles in the forum will chime in too..... they'll prob form a LONG QUEUE!

[laineyee]

oh i am sure dino alone can handle the both of you.. we just jump into the bandwagon....

if dino decides to hold a mass piak-ing event, i am sure other guys and uncles in the forum will chime in too..... they'll prob form a LONG QUEUE!

a mass piak-ing event? what? to paik all the gals? hmmm .. i wonder what Chris Jie will say about that .:p

[Chris C]

a mass piak-ing event? what? to paik all the gals? hmmm .. i wonder what Chris Jie will say about that .:p

:laugh: ......sweetie, knows what "tin kosong" means?....those guys will blush b4 they dare to lay hands on u gals....;)

[Ah Boh]

:laugh: ......sweetie, knows what "tin kosong" means?....those guys will blush b4 they dare to lay hands on u gals....;)
wahahahahaaa.... i tot wanna retort back d guys but looks like chris c beat me to it. ;)

and she's sooooooo rite!!

[laineyee]

:laugh: ......sweetie, knows what "tin kosong" means?....those guys will blush b4 they dare to lay hands on u gals....;)

:D i tot so too... can't believe they are even thinking of paik-ing us..

[Chris C]

Yup gals......and Dino is nothing but a harmless barney behind that dinosaur suit......;)

[Ah Boh]

Yup gals......and Dino is nothing but a harmless barney behind that dinosaur suit......;)

ROFLMAO!! :eek:

oh shit now dat image is stuck in my mind for d whole day!

[laineyee]

Yup gals......and Dino is nothing but a harmless barney behind that dinosaur suit......;)

ROFLMAO!! :eek:

oh shit now dat image is stuck in my mind for d whole day!

i love u, u love me, we're a happy family, :eek:

[Ah Boh]

i love u, u love me, we're a happy family, :eek:

teruk lar u!

now d image AND d song is stuck in my head!!

die die die die die... :squeeze:

[Dino]

Hahahhaa.......no need scared....no need scared......backside got lotsa fat wan....sure can take the piaking!!!

[athena]

heheh..show the purple D smacking clip la!!!!

[kwimango]

Hahahhaa.......no need scared....no need scared......backside got lotsa fat wan....sure can take the piaking!!!

i concur.. shall we finalise a time and date and venue?

someday next month at 3pm at Padang Astaka ok?

[Lava Gal]

ROFLMAO!! :eek:

oh shit now dat image is stuck in my mind for d whole day!
haha...for ur info gals...last time there was a thread showing barney dancing & all..:laugh:
and if i rem rite, our dino hates barney?

i love u, u love me, we're a happy family, :eek:
gee gal...that song's stuck in my head TOO!!

[Dino]

i concur.. shall we finalise a time and date and venue?

someday next month at 3pm at Padang Astaka ok?

Since i can't come back, so can't make it....nevermind.....we wait till more fat pile up so when we hit it, our hand won't feel so painful. Muahahahahhahaha!! :p

[kwimango]

Since i can't come back, so can't make it....nevermind.....we wait till more fat pile up so when we hit it, our hand won't feel so painful. Muahahahahhahaha!! :p

hehe, but fat means its easier for them to absorb pain leh, u know... the layer of fat would work like shock absorbers...

but don't worry, i got backup plan... if they grow too fat, the i will just pulas telinga lar

[Dino]

hehe, but fat means its easier for them to absorb pain leh, u know... the layer of fat would work like shock absorbers...

but don't worry, i got backup plan... if they grow too fat, the i will just pulas telinga lar

And i piak the backside.

[Chris C]

:laugh: ...and u 2 can hold hands and walk into the sunset......:p :p

[Dino]

:laugh: ...and u 2 can hold hands and walk into the sunset......:p :p

Leaving behind a trail of rosy cheeks!!! :p

[Anson F-Clef]

:laugh: ...and u 2 can hold hands and walk into the sunset......:p :p and do the SMOOCHIE COOCHIE?? :eek: EWWWWWWWW!!!!! Muahahahahahahahahaha!!!!!

[kwimango]

:laugh: ...and u 2 can hold hands and walk into the sunset......:p :p and do the SMOOCHIE COOCHIE?? :eek: EWWWWWWWW!!!!! Muahahahahahahahahaha!!!!!

my my mr buskra.. coming out of the closet? i volunteer to hold hands n walk with CC!