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Ah Boh

05-30-2006, 01:14 PM

Just to share…Some things I came across on a blog’s comments:

"I feel like I am getting close to realising that when [the
relationship is] over, life isn't over. Instead there are so many
great things that we could take from the experience. Letting go
should be less difficult if we realise that we meet people for a
reason, a season or a lifetime. Sometimes, we think a reason is the
lifetime."

"People nowadays sometimes tell me: "You never forgot [the love of
your life]" ... and sometimes I hear songs which remind me of that
time. But like I say "that time", not "that person", because what
I feel is that it was a beautiful experience that I got to live,
that relationship IS part of MY LIFE ........ LUCKY ME!"

"I know I can live life not holding on to past relationships. I
have realised that holding on to past relationships deprives
current ones of all the beautiful things to be enjoyed."

yo! i dunno wat u're up to posting such touchy stuff :p , izzit to make me cry?? nevertheless, it did touch a long forgotten chord in me...

personal xp? it's hard to forget 1st love. serious. took me 2 yrs to get over it properly n even now still feel abit angry it didnt work out cuz i had high hopes. anyway, i rejected every guy right n left during those yrs, poor fellas... but i couldnt face playing a game where i may get hurt again. :crying:

but then, lav is right. its good to forget the person but remember d sweet memories, it serves as a lesson n reminder dat time was not a waste after all. plus, i got a huge red original patrick n get to keep it, it accompanies me in bed every night. mwuahahaaaa.... :D

Adele

05-30-2006, 01:22 PM

plus, i got a huge red original patrick n get to keep it, it accompanies me in bed every night. mwuahahaaaa.... :D
me too! me too!! :D got it from my friend on my 18th b'day! first soft toy in years!! my fav too! sooooooooooooo sayang! everytime i go travelling, sure bring it. except when i went to Genting with my friend last month. :sus: no wonder i couldn't sleep!! sheesh....

Ah Boh

05-30-2006, 02:00 PM

wow, u too?? yeah gal, we are soooo lucky, aren't we? :)

Adele

05-30-2006, 06:11 PM

wow, u too?? yeah gal, we are soooo lucky, aren't we? :)
not lucky. very much LOVED!! :D

Ah Boh

05-30-2006, 06:16 PM

Hehe... I know sieh jin have a lovely fiancée n all of us kaypohchees are waiting for his marriage, although i find it kinda funny d selamba way he proposed to d lucky gal :)

Personally, I feel dat guys nowadays are not romantic la.... How boring..

ryan_khoo82

05-30-2006, 11:16 PM

Adele

05-31-2006, 08:05 AM

The women simply think I'm weird... :o
yup! ditto with them! :p
Personally, I feel dat guys nowadays are not romantic la.... How boring..
how true, how sad.... hahaha!! it's ok la.... we just remain our feminine romantic self and the guy who loves you will show his romanticism in his own romantic way la..... (when you love this same guy, then you'll be able to see la... ;) )

andrewjpan

05-31-2006, 08:13 AM

i got no more heart to love liao ...
:crying::crying::crying::crying:

Lava Gal

05-31-2006, 09:00 AM

i'm always in love. there's just too much love in me. thank God for it though sometimes i feel it's over-rated (i.e taken for granted)
Hey lin...u stole my words! :blink:

Adele

05-31-2006, 09:03 AM

Hey lin...u stole my words! :blink:
too bad! first come first seved basis! muahahahahaha..... hehehe... it's alright la Lav..... i'll share 'em words with you. you're my friends ma... :)

Ah Boh

05-31-2006, 09:14 AM

Hmm... I'm in love with women!! Thats ok right?

Frankly, I enjoy the company of women... so much so that I have lunch with the ladies every day. The men of course are jealous and think I'm casanova.

The women simply think I'm weird...

i say 'aye'... u are abit weird la chungming.

i got no more heart to love liao ...
:crying::crying::crying::crying:

whhhyyyyy????

song cm

05-31-2006, 09:36 AM

Hmm... I'm in love with women!! Thats ok right?

Frankly, I enjoy the company of women... so much so that I have lunch with the ladies every day. The men of course are jealous and think I'm casanova.

The women simply think I'm weird... :o

at least they din think you are feminine......:eek:

malcolm

05-31-2006, 10:15 AM

Ah Boh

05-31-2006, 11:42 AM

a girl and guy were speeding over 100 mph on the road on a

motorcycle...

Girl: Slow down, I'm scared.

Guy: No, this is fun.

Girl: No it's not. Please it's too scary!

Guy:Then tell me you love me.

Girl: Fine I love you. Slow down!

Guy: Now give me a BIG hug.

:Girl hugs him::

Guy: Can you take my helmet off and put it on yourself?
It's bugging me.

In the paper the next day:

A motorcycle had crashed into a building because of brake failure.

Two people were on it, but only 1 had survived.

The truth was that halfway down the road, the guy realized that

his brakes broke, but he didn't want to let the girl know.

Instead,

he had her say she loved him and felt her hug one last time,

then

he had her wear his helmet so that she would live even though it

meant that he would die.

Ah Boh

05-31-2006, 11:42 AM

i got the above story from an email by a fren.

Lesson : If u love any one this much...let them know...before its too late...

Hades

05-31-2006, 11:59 AM

nice story...way to go boh...but if it's me right, i'll be like,

Girl, can u hold the handle of the bike for me, take control of it ya...
then i jump...wahahaha

a girl and guy were speeding over 100 mph on the road on a

motorcycle...

Girl: Slow down, I'm scared.

Guy: No, this is fun.

Girl: No it's not. Please it's too scary!

Guy:Then tell me you love me.

Girl: Fine I love you. Slow down!

Guy: Now give me a BIG hug.

:Girl hugs him::

Guy: Can you take my helmet off and put it on yourself?
It's bugging me.

In the paper the next day:

A motorcycle had crashed into a building because of brake failure.

Two people were on it, but only 1 had survived.

The truth was that halfway down the road, the guy realized that

his brakes broke, but he didn't want to let the girl know.

Instead,

he had her say she loved him and felt her hug one last time,

then

he had her wear his helmet so that she would live even though it

meant that he would die.

malcolm

05-31-2006, 12:54 PM

nice story...way to go boh...but if it's me right, i'll be like,

Girl, can u hold the handle of the bike for me, take control of it ya...
then i jump...wahahaha

wah...so jahat! :eek:

Ah Boh

05-31-2006, 01:07 PM

idiot fella... dont u know d gal will come back n haunt u for d rest of ur life? scarrryyyy...

Adele

05-31-2006, 01:37 PM

i got the above story from an email by a fren.

Lesson : If u love any one this much...let them know...before its too late...
so sweet boh!!
idiot fella... dont u know d gal will come back n haunt u for d rest of ur life? scarrryyyy...
shallow-minded or narrow-sighted ppl are like that wan la... :laugh: but he say only la.... can't imagine what he'd do but surely something very romantic wan..... :)

dragoncity99

05-31-2006, 01:42 PM

nice story...way to go boh...but if it's me right, i'll be like,

Girl, can u hold the handle of the bike for me, take control of it ya...
then i jump...wahahaha
:laugh: :laugh:

Hades

05-31-2006, 01:42 PM

idiot fella... dont u know d gal will come back n haunt u for d rest of ur life? scarrryyyy...

me?? sked of ghosts??? c'mon u know me better than that...when ghost appears, take camera n shoot only...
then the picture can take n sell with high price

Ah Boh

05-31-2006, 01:48 PM

if d gal look like ju-on, u not sked meh? buat macho onli...

Hades

05-31-2006, 01:53 PM

if d gal look like ju-on, u not sked meh? buat macho onli...

aiya, ju-on crawling only ler...hahaha i walk oso faster than her la :p

Ah Boh

05-31-2006, 01:57 PM

i nearly say sumtin but better not say, after hurt sum1 feeling... so, no comment.

Hades

05-31-2006, 02:11 PM

i nearly say sumtin but better not say, after hurt sum1 feeling... so, no comment.

u wait...

Lava Gal

05-31-2006, 02:19 PM

hehe boh...so considerate =petter not start a war...'hot loveseat' thread startin to sound like a war-zone AhBoh vs Hades...u two seriously need own thread to fight lah

i got the above story from an email by a fren.

Lesson : If u love any one this much...let them know...before its too late...
agree wif u and the message...we never know when d end will strike, better seize the moment, rather than live in waiting agony...and to perish with untold love.
tat story's been posted somewhere b4...but guess nice things no harm being repeated ya

yo! i dunno wat u're up to posting such touchy stuff , izzit to make me cry?? nevertheless, it did touch a long forgotten chord in me...

personal xp? it's hard to forget 1st love. serious. took me 2 yrs to get over it properly n even now still feel abit angry it didnt work out cuz i had high hopes. anyway, i rejected every guy right n left during those yrs, poor fellas... but i couldnt face playing a game where i may get hurt again.

erm...boh ah! definitely tat's not my aim leh. when i read those stuffs...it was as if the quthor wrote it for me (deja vu...hehe, guess many ppl would feel d same) unless u've been socially isolating urself all these yrs...and not encountered anyone else. doesnt have to be only BGR...can apply to any r/ship...that one has ever considered 'dear'.

sometimes we guard ourselves a bit too tightly, no? sigh...tatz y must learn to forgive...let go...and move on. time heals...tatz the greatest medicine =)

but then, lav is right. its good to forget the person but remember d sweet memories, it serves as a lesson n reminder dat time was not a waste after all. plus, i got a huge red original patrick n get to keep it, it accompanies me in bed every night. mwuahahaaaa....
watz that? a teddy?? soft toys mus be soo chun rite...i only had tiny ones as a kid...nowdays though i love 'em...would feel guilty if i spend my $$ (erm..my parents money) on it...so have to just hug my lil pillow when i go to bed. something is better than nothing...

so nice u two lucky gals have them to hug & keep u company

Hehe... I know sieh jin have a lovely fiancée n all of us kaypohchees are waiting for his marriage, although i find it kinda funny d selamba way he proposed to d lucky gal
Personally, I feel dat guys nowadays are not romantic la.... How boring..
erm ah bo...wonder if u read his proper proposal story that was posted later on. sooo touching, what with composing songs & guitar and all...:crying:

i think hor...not that they r not romantic...but they either duno how to show it...OR they are too absorbed in themselves that they cant bother to show it. owww chad.

Hmm... I'm in love with women!! Thats ok right?
Frankly, I enjoy the company of women... so much so that I have lunch with the ladies every day. The men of course are jealous and think I'm casanova.

The women simply think I'm weird...
chung ming...i haven met u since after F6...so cant comment on that.
at least u are straight....hehe, and i dun think that is all that bad. so...no one special for now...but sounds like u r a chick magnet (no wonder the men think u r a casanova). u belanja them zit?

too bad! first come first seved basis! muahahahahaha..... hehehe... it's alright la Lav..... i'll share 'em words with you. you're my friends ma...
u have no choice but to share...coz that's how i feel oso leh :p *Hi-5*

Lava Gal

05-31-2006, 02:24 PM

It's funny. Sometimes all it takes is one relationship to make you
realize why people are in relationships in the first place. Even
though someone calls it off, even though memories of conflicts
leave a bitter taste, even though it takes months of crying and
grief before sunshine and spring flowers can feel like a cause for
joy again ... it IS worth it.

Why? Because for a short time the sun DOES shine brighter, hope and
anticipation makes the weekends fly, and there is always someone
else in the back of your mind. In my last relationship, I surprised
myself by discovering how much I looked forward to surprising him
with the little things, those things that I wished someone would do
for me. In the process I discovered the exhilarating power of
making someone's life happier, more joyful, even better? for having
shared it with me.

Why do so many people--once their relationship ends--revoke their
feelings in anger, feeling embarrassed that they could have given
their heart to someone who gave it back again?

Through my work with 000Relationships.com, my colleagues and I
constantly get emails from women angry at their partners for
leaving them, yet desperately wanting them back. These women won't
deal with their own feelings of abandonment, resentment, and fear
of being alone. They want a band-aid, as if his return will solve
their problems.

Better to accept that not fitting into someone's life simply gives
you the opportunity to fit into someone else's. These women don't
think once to say, "I'm better than this. I deserve someone who
really loves me enough to work through anything. Someone who's
willing to let me go isn't the kind of man that I deserve."

Yet simply discovering that you loved your partner, even after he
left you, is a cause for celebration. You've discovered that your
heart DOES stretch bigger. Finding the capacity to love in yourself
is an exciting thing.

Better yet, once you've loved someone, you never stop loving them.
Yes, the relationship ended. Yes, the other person didn't want it
to continue. But the feelings you had then will always flow, if not
to him in person, then to the memory of him from the time you were
together.

That's healthy: no regrets, no anger, no need to lash out and hurt.
Just recognition of the love that will always exist as a shadow
between two souls who didn't choose one another.

When my last relationship ended, I was lucky enough to have the
opportunity to write an ebook called "Your Guide to Stronger
Relationships," which I sell as a bonus with my book on how to
attract men at www.seductiongenie.com. In the process of
researching it, I realized why my last relationship wasn't as
healthy as I'd thought.

So few of us take the time to think about what would make our
relationships healthier--not by finding a new person, but by finding
better ways to relate to the person we have. It seems that the
strongest relationships are those in which both partners expect
challenges, disappointments, and difficulties, knowing that these
are part and parcel of what it means to be with someone. They look
forward to working through the challenges of life as a couple.

In real life, sadly, too many of us ignore problems hoping that
they'll go away, afraid to broach them with our partners because we
know that our partners will respond with anger and hurt rather than
understanding and patience.

Now, this is what I think all of us deserve in our relationships.
If you are single right now, close your eyes for a moment and
envision your perfect partner. Then repeat after me.

I deserve someone who will always hold my hand and never let it go,
whether walking together or sitting side by side, whether at the
grocery store or at the doctors, whether happy or sad.

I deserve someone who makes his own good spirits a priority so that
he can enjoy life ... someone who will soak up my happiness when I am
happy ... someone who will let me make him laugh when he is down ...
someone who never lets a day go by without a genuine smile gracing
his face.

I deserve someone who always seeks excellence in who he is and what
he does ... someone who is unafraid of growth and change despite the
pain ... someone who continues to stretch his own boundaries even as
he stretches mine.

I deserve someone who knows that Life obeys Murphy's Law but
doesn't mind ... someone who is committed to solving problems
rather than complaining about the unfairness of life ... someone who
doesn't see conflict as a sign that our relationship should end but
rather embraces it as an opportunity for us to grow closer.

I deserve someone who can see when I am hurting and turn towards
me, not away from me ... someone who will comfort me through my pain
rather than see it as a weakness.

I deserve someone who will come to me with his pain and accept my
comfort gladly.

I deserve someone who needs me as much as I need him and is
unafraid to admit it ... someone who allows himself be completely
vulnerable because he trusts me with his heart.

I deserve someone who believes in me ... someone who knows that "me"
is my spirit, my mind, and my heart, those things that don't age ...
I deserve someone who loves me simply for being me, not for what I
look like today or for what I'll look like tomorrow.

I deserve someone who is unafraid to love. I deserve someone who
embraces his love for me ... someone able to admit it to himself, to
me, and to the world.

Something to think about...

***************************

Now now...this blog is in NO WAY related to me...but i think the author is an experienced lady, and i can identify with her on so many issues :)
Loved her I DESERVE thingys...reminding us not to settle for less than our worth, and to treasure wateva we have now :D
downside is..might make us more choosier than ever...hehe..but seriously my dear forum buddies, would u all settle for something less just to fill in the void in u? or rather be single & happy wif urself?

song cm

05-31-2006, 02:49 PM

i got the above story from an email by a fren.

Lesson : If u love any one this much...let them know...before its too late...

i think lesson to be learn here is make sure u wear your helmets....if no helmet, go get one from WK....:)

Voon Chan

05-31-2006, 02:51 PM

Song, can also buy from 7-Eleven

dragoncity99

05-31-2006, 02:52 PM

So my dear sister cutie Lava, 2nd time peacemaker, good good good. Hey, where's my macha ah VJ? Where is he ah? Did he ask u out? :p

Juz kidding.

Lava Gal

05-31-2006, 05:36 PM

i think lesson to be learn here is make sure u wear your helmets....if no helmet, go get one from WK....
hey...i like that helmet! can i have one...so i will be protected when riding my bikey? Witch King....

So my dear sister cutie Lava, 2nd time peacemaker, good good good. Hey, where's my macha ah VJ? Where is he ah? Did he ask u out? :p

Juz kidding.
wah...u keeping count? :blink: now i feel stalked :p
hahaha...LoL

wei...mana lah aku tahu...ur partner in crime what! shud be in land of oz i guess
ask me out...who?? that little boy!? ur imagination needs to be reined in....is not for the last line...surely i flame u dee, volcanioe erupts u know :p

Ah Boh

05-31-2006, 05:50 PM

u wait...

wait 4 wat? U???? dunwan la, after sum1 jealous... :eek:

Hades

05-31-2006, 05:54 PM

wait 4 wat? U???? dunwan la, after sum1 jealous... :eek:

u think too much

Lava Gal

05-31-2006, 05:54 PM

i think hades went to find the rite weapon to fight wif u :p

Hades

05-31-2006, 05:56 PM

i think hades went to find the rite weapon to fight wif u :p

thank u thank u...hahaha

Ah Boh

05-31-2006, 05:58 PM

wat weapon?? he lord of underworld, only got dead corpses around him... keke...

i dunwan fight here la, no fun keluar topic on my own thread... cheh!!

Hades

05-31-2006, 06:00 PM

wat weapon?? he lord of underworld, only got dead corpses around him... keke...

i dunwan fight here la, no fun keluar topic on my own thread... cheh!!

so boh, u now supposed to leave work rite? wat r u still doing in office?? class not yet start?? oh ya, yip chen asked me to wish u happy bday in advance and she sends her warmest regards to u

Ah Boh

05-31-2006, 06:03 PM

gee thanx! she msg me a couple days ago but sounded depressed, poor gal.

i no more class la dei! in fact exams are over last week... u blur case. dont ask, it was not all good :(

anyway, im leaving now, got a date! :) :) :) it's nice to be in love...

cya!!

Lava Gal

05-31-2006, 06:15 PM

off topic a bit...but maybe can answer me in my thread.

Yip Chen...where is she now? working..or still a student?

Hades

05-31-2006, 06:22 PM

off topic a bit...but maybe can answer me in my thread.

Yip Chen...where is she now? working..or still a student?

she still student again...hahaha at first working then now student...she's in gold coast aussie...

dragoncity99

05-31-2006, 10:32 PM

wah...u keeping count? :blink: now i feel stalked :p
hahaha...LoL

wei...mana lah aku tahu...ur partner in crime what! shud be in land of oz i guess
ask me out...who?? that little boy!? ur imagination needs to be reined in....is not for the last line...surely i flame u dee, volcanioe erupts u know :p
Don say liddat my dear. Hehehehe, i din stalk u lah.

Me no criminal lah and so is macha VJ. We are The Good Boys.

Oooooo, ur one hot chick. Burn Baby! Burn!!!! :laugh:

ryan_khoo82

05-31-2006, 11:43 PM

i say 'aye'... u are abit weird la chungming.

whhhyyyyy????

To all the posts on me.... weird could be an understatement :D

Don't worry ladies... Im very much straight. Just not particularly interested in any of you right now, that's all. No hard feelings... my motives were very much different then.

Hades

06-01-2006, 08:21 AM

To all the posts on me.... weird could be an understatement :D

Don't worry ladies... Im very much straight. Just not particularly interested in any of you right now, that's all. No hard feelings... my motives were very much different then.

define ur motives then...

Ah Boh

06-01-2006, 09:10 AM

chungming have motives! dat doesnt sound good...

siehjin

06-01-2006, 11:32 AM

everyone has motives la... the question is, are they good or bad ones? =)

Lava Gal

06-01-2006, 12:00 PM

Don say liddat my dear. Hehehehe, i din stalk u lah.

Me no criminal lah and so is macha VJ. We are The Good Boys.

Oooooo, ur one hot chick. Burn Baby! Burn!!!! :laugh:
ok...agree to 1st sentence.
BUT - good boys ahh...let us be d judge! neway...dun u think u r going off thread, drago?

Hot chick? :blink: hahaha.... burn till can turn off people from miles away :sus: :laugh:

andrewjpan

06-01-2006, 12:59 PM

whhhyyyyy????

hurt many times... heart like rock now...

Ah Boh

06-01-2006, 01:14 PM

hurt many times... heart like rock now...

u poor thing... but then again, sumtimes heart like rock yet inside still soft with feelings for ppl :)

btw, any particular type of gal u like?

andrewjpan

06-01-2006, 01:25 PM

u poor thing... but then again, sumtimes heart like rock yet inside still soft with feelings for ppl :)

btw, any particular type of gal u like?
got...

Ah Boh

06-01-2006, 01:56 PM

tell lar

Hades

06-01-2006, 04:40 PM

tell lar
3-8:sus:

jerrychoo2004

06-01-2006, 05:04 PM

andrewjpan let me guess...i love with celeste? :p

Lava Gal

06-01-2006, 05:10 PM

hurt many times... heart like rock now...
u'll need a flowing stream to soften the rock, buddy? there's a beautiful piece i read before on locking ur heart...and over time it turns into coffin - emotionless - but i'm sure u not like that yet rite

u poor thing... but then again, sumtimes heart like rock yet inside still soft with feelings for ppl :)

btw, any particular type of gal u like?
boh is rite...outside rocklike appearance, but actually like an egg only, hard on outside, soft on inside...so the hardening part is created to protect self from being hurt gain...

yup...tell us lar, andrew - like ur dream-gal criteria
if we come across any, can promo to u mah ;)

3-8
apa tu?? :blink: :wacko:

Ah Boh

06-02-2006, 09:25 AM

3-8:sus:

berani u call me kaypoh?? i ask as a fren onli mah... if andrew dunwan tell then dunnit loh...:noworry:

Lava Gal

06-02-2006, 02:27 PM

wah liao! hades calling u kay-poh!:mad: how dare he...masuk kelas kita & hantam u eh
i know 8 (pat) is kaypoh...but mana datangnye 3-??

Ah Boh

06-02-2006, 06:17 PM

i think.. very kaypoh?

he memang thick skin wan, if he reply me sure will kena...

TK Ho

06-05-2006, 07:05 AM

Hmmm...seems like this thread is for the young and the bold. :wacko:

Ah Boh

06-05-2006, 09:15 AM

young in flesh n young at heart :)

Oddfather

06-05-2006, 10:14 PM

*tap* *tap*......anybody home??

TK Ho

06-06-2006, 08:00 AM

*tap* *tap*......anybody home??
ODF, r u young in flesh and heart?:p

andrewjpan

06-06-2006, 08:17 AM

berani u call me kaypoh?? i ask as a fren onli mah... if andrew dunwan tell then dunnit loh...:noworry:
will tell u over a cuppa java ok...

Oddfather

06-06-2006, 09:36 AM

ODF, r u young in flesh and heart?:p
I think I am. :)

TK Ho

06-06-2006, 09:39 AM

I think I am. :)

Good for you ODF. It must be all the forumming that keeps us all young:D

Oddfather

06-06-2006, 12:06 PM

Good for you ODF. It must be all the forumming that keeps us all young:D
young and siao. :eek: :)

Ah Boh

06-07-2006, 06:55 PM

will tell u over a cuppa java ok...

oky doky, u owe me a looong story :)

young and siao. :eek: :)

how true, how true... :D

TK Ho

06-10-2006, 03:57 AM

oky doky, u owe me a looong story :)

how true, how true... :D

Which part is true? young or siao? or both? :p

Ah Boh

06-12-2006, 08:58 AM

Which part is true? young or siao? or both? :p

Both !! :D

Lava Gal

06-12-2006, 01:44 PM

how come this loveseat aint hot nemore...cooling down je!

spice it up, peeps!

Ah Boh

06-13-2006, 01:20 PM

my ex was a perfect gentleman at first... he opened doors for me, fetched me everywhere, took me to nice restaurants, bought me flowers, watched where i step in my high heels, etc etc.

BUT! I realised too late he turned out to be a jerk.

Now, my bf doesnt do all dat but after knowing him, he turned out to be such a nice guy!

so ironic... wat gives?? why izzit guys so sweet n nice at first then later show belang dem scary wan!

song cm

06-13-2006, 01:26 PM

can you elaborate more on the jerk part? :confused:

Ah Boh

06-13-2006, 01:45 PM

errmm... he turned out to be a control freak. he wanna know where i go, with whom, why, how long im out, etc at all times. he dun allow me go out with guy frens for yumcha or swim alone cuz dunwan other guys look at me.

he even set me a curfew must be home by midnite like cinderella! i mean, im already in my early 20s n my parents do not set me curfew so wats d big deal?? too dahsyat i tell u...

song cm

06-13-2006, 01:48 PM

sounds like mebbe he got inferiority complex.....
but really...mebbe he did dat becoz he din want to lose u...but, unfortunately, it was a self-fulfiling prophecy

Ah Boh

06-13-2006, 02:00 PM

wah like dat oso can ah...

watever d reasons, i dun see why a guy shud go so extreme rite? just say 'i love u' in d nicest way possible then d gal sure love him forever liao mah. so mush simpler than putting up so many rules.

song cm

06-13-2006, 02:09 PM

well...not all girls are liddat mah...some still like to "shop" ard even tho oredi have bf mah.....i bet ur ex not from sitiawan...he doesn't know sitiawan girl very loyal one.....:)

Lava Gal

06-13-2006, 05:04 PM

well...not all girls are liddat mah...some still like to "shop" ard even tho oredi have bf mah.....i bet ur ex not from sitiawan...he doesn't know sitiawan girl very loyal one.....:)
maybe onli sitiawan boys know that fact hor ;)

btw song...overall, i guess (from observation) small town ppl are more loyal & committed compared to KL or bigger city gals (and guys oso for tat matter) - who are more like 'shoppers' & 'players'. i got an advice from a senior gal (from s'wan too) drg my KL days..."gal..dont trust KL guys!"
hehehe....

Ah Boh

06-13-2006, 05:27 PM

maybe onli sitiawan boys know that fact hor ;)

btw song...overall, i guess (from observation) small town ppl are more loyal & committed compared to KL or bigger city gals (and guys oso for tat matter) - who are more like 'shoppers' & 'players'. i got an advice from a senior gal (from s'wan too) drg my KL days..."gal..dont trust KL guys!"
hehehe....

song & lav = philosophers of love :)

thy words art so true... kl guys change gf like change baju leh, same goes for d gals too but b4 any1 sue me, let me clarify dat im just generalising cuz dats wat i see most of d time too.

Lava Gal

06-13-2006, 05:32 PM

dun think any1 here would sue us coz all asalnye dari CTA1 mah - the bestest of the bestest CITY ;) (perasan...but thatz being filial)
and...ehhemm...some would say "like changing underwear" - u put it in much nicer way there

wah...philosophers? leave that to dr lurve k...dowan to trepass his area. in case boh...u r wondering who that is - no other than our devil's advocate...thatz his alter personality ;)

Ah Boh

06-13-2006, 06:39 PM

malcolm

06-13-2006, 08:30 PM

hohoho
can exclude me! ;)

song cm

06-14-2006, 08:10 AM

hehe... so we do have a dr lurve in d house eh?

btw, i just remember a saying i heard sumwhr. it says when it comes to love, guys obey a certain mantra dat goes sumtin like tis :

~ date a slut but marry a saint ~

guys! really ah??

haha.....the prob is how to differentiate one another? :laugh:

hohoho
can exclude me! ;)

hmm...mebbe u r a KL guy wannabe? :p

Lava Gal

06-14-2006, 01:03 PM

hehe... so we do have a dr lurve in d house eh?

btw, i just remember a saying i heard sumwhr. it says when it comes to love, guys obey a certain mantra dat goes sumtin like tis :

~ date a slut but marry a saint ~

guys! really ah??
yup...but he's been dormant & lying low for some time...maybe shud give him a holler....VVvvvvvvvCCCCCccccccccccccc!!!

:laugh:

oh that 'saying'! have heard it...u know wat! i see or hear it from experience too...even some gals lar!
they date FUN people...who can lavish them...be cool & happening watsoeva la...then when comes to marrriage...they start thinking - and esp guys kan...they wanna 'wifey' material - who will put family & children 1st...ratehr than those 'gf material' of theirs who's main motive in life was to ENJOY...so....tatz y not surprising some guys i've heard of...can be said play-boy type....but then marry gal of parents choice in the end coz wife material:unsure: :blink:

scary o not...

Ah Boh

06-14-2006, 01:09 PM

wah guys got two minds wan ah?? scaaarrryyyy... how we know wch mind they using now la?

SS2006

06-14-2006, 01:12 PM

yup...but he's been dormant & lying low for some time...maybe shud give him a holler....VVvvvvvvvCCCCCccccccccccccc!!!

:laugh:

oh that 'saying'! have heard it...u know wat! i see or hear it from experience too...even some gals lar!
they date FUN people...who can lavish them...be cool & happening watsoeva la...then when comes to marrriage...they start thinking - and esp guys kan...they wanna 'wifey' material - who will put family & children 1st...ratehr than those 'gf material' of theirs who's main motive in life was to ENJOY...so....tatz y not surprising some guys i've heard of...can be said play-boy type....but then marry gal of parents choice in the end coz wife material:unsure: :blink:

scary o not...
I have seen that type of guy too. Really surprised me at that time ...

Lava Gal

06-14-2006, 01:15 PM

i dont know...*takut*

btw boh...the sms u sent me this morning - cool, gal! i was smiling to myself while walking into the ward ;) how very true...the last sentence (maybe thats coz guys dun even know themselves well...pooor insight!)

song cm

06-14-2006, 01:27 PM

Lava Gal

06-14-2006, 01:30 PM

would have posted up earlier :) but tot boh might have posted elsewer on forum...but on request...here u go, SongCM!

Q: what is the diffference btw a wife & a gf?
A: abt 45 pounds!

Q: wat r 3 words u nvr wanna hear whilst making love
A: Honey, Im home...!

Q: wats the thinnest book in the world?
A: Wat men know abt women...

song cm

06-14-2006, 01:35 PM

Ah Boh

06-14-2006, 01:51 PM

haha... i got dat one fm my crazy cousin.

song cm

06-15-2006, 08:26 AM

haha... i got dat one fm my crazy cousin.

haha...can't be Geun Teck rite?

Ah Boh

06-15-2006, 09:12 AM

haha...can't be Geun Teck rite?

nah, he not crazy enuf. he good boy.

song cm

06-15-2006, 09:13 AM

nah, he not crazy enuf. he good boy.

dat wat i thot 2...really gentleman one.....

Ah Boh

06-15-2006, 01:21 PM

i helped my bf move house yest it was sooo tiring cuz he hv so many books! like me, he's a great cacing buku.

but wen i ask for my 'reward' which is just to spend time together chatting about our day, he say gotta go work early today so must sleep early.

cheh... i complain he treat me like slave n guess wat he said??

"yes, of course. u are my cute slave..."

awwww... i cant be mad at him for long! :)

song cm

06-15-2006, 01:33 PM

must say u r quite easily pleased.....:laugh:

*****love is in the air*********lalalala

Ah Boh

06-15-2006, 01:47 PM

song cm

06-15-2006, 01:50 PM

oh yes, didnt i say dat its easy to please a gal? :)

sumtimes i dun understand why guys have to go so extreme or try be so macho just to attract d opposite sex when all they have to do is be themselves, u know?

well, i guess some guys are dumb....:laugh:

i guess dats becoz we don know girls dat well....and hence the extreme behaviours

Lava Gal

06-16-2006, 09:20 AM

well, i guess some guys are dumb....:laugh:

i guess dats becoz we don know girls dat well....and hence the extreme behaviours
coming from a guy...
wic just goes to prove this ;)

Q: wats the thinnest book in the world?
A: Wat men know abt women...

Ah Boh

06-19-2006, 01:18 PM

well, i guess some guys are dumb....:laugh:

i guess dats becoz we don know girls dat well....and hence the extreme behaviours

dunno means ask la! wat d gal like or not, her opinions on certain behaviour, etc etc

haiyooo so simple thing osos cannot kautim...

malcolm

06-19-2006, 01:42 PM

dunno means ask la! wat d gal like or not, her opinions on certain behaviour, etc etc

haiyooo so simple thing osos cannot kautim...

really ar? girls always talk parables one.
At times they will they don't literally mean what they say. :p
So I believe guys have to understand the language of the females vice versa.

Ah Boh

06-19-2006, 01:53 PM

really ar? girls always talk parables one.
At times they will they don't literally mean what they say. :p
So I believe guys have to understand the language of the females vice versa.

hmm... i have been guilty of dat sometimes :p but only wen im not in d mood to tok certain topics or answer certain questions. In other words, timing is key...

i think if u ask a straight question normally u will get a straight answer, rite?

funkmeister

06-19-2006, 04:04 PM

really ar? girls always talk parables one.
At times they will they don't literally mean what they say. :p
So I believe guys have to understand the language of the females vice versa.

I believe those of us who are married have learnt the secret of this kind of language... just switch off and nod our head...:eek:

malcolm

06-19-2006, 04:06 PM

hmm... i have been guilty of dat sometimes :p but only wen im not in d mood to tok certain topics or answer certain questions. In other words, timing is key...

i think if u ask a straight question normally u will get a straight answer, rite?

yeah... I agree the timing is important. When she is not moody, she should be able to communicate what she wants clearly. ;)

malcolm

06-19-2006, 04:07 PM

I believe those of us who are married have learnt the secret of this kind of language... just switch off and nod our head...:eek:

not all... many marriages are failing because of communication break down

Sarah

06-19-2006, 05:13 PM

I believe those of us who are married have learnt the secret of this kind of language... just switch off and nod our head...:eek:

pandai-nya...

not all... many marriages are failing because of communication break down
Malcolm, learn abit here.. u are not married! :)

malcolm

06-19-2006, 08:58 PM

pandai-nya...

Malcolm, learn abit here.. u are not married! :)

that is what i read from articles by experts mar... :p
Which Sarah is this?

dragoncity99

06-19-2006, 10:46 PM

Wow, so touching words....:crying:

More more more.....:cool:

How i wish i was simple as ABC last 3 years back. I will be the 1st class Honours Ais Kacang man with my gf beside..... :crying:

Now? Sigh...im selling ABL, (Ais Batu Lebur) and pirated VCD at pasar malam.

Ah Boh

06-20-2006, 08:56 AM

pandai-nya...

Malcolm, learn abit here.. u are not married! :)

mal very pandai wan, sure can pikat many gals with all those tips! :D

eh, married ppl hv more xp rite? how do u keep d flame alive with kids running abount d house, hubby working overtime, chores to do, etc etc?

song cm

06-20-2006, 12:49 PM

I believe those of us who are married have learnt the secret of this kind of language... just switch off and nod our head...:eek:

haha...funk, u so fast aso got auto pilot oredi? :laugh:

kenot simply nod one....once in a while need to shake 2...:p

song cm

06-20-2006, 12:51 PM

mal very pandai wan, sure can pikat many gals with all those tips! :D

eh, married ppl hv more xp rite? how do u keep d flame alive with kids running abount d house, hubby working overtime, chores to do, etc etc?

use torch lites.....just make sure its alkaline batteries....

funkmeister

06-20-2006, 01:09 PM

haha...funk, u so fast aso got auto pilot oredi? :laugh:

kenot simply nod one....once in a while need to shake 2...:p

yes.. and lets not forget the all important "mm-hmm" from time to time :p

song cm

06-20-2006, 01:15 PM

yes.. and lets not forget the all important "mm-hmm" from time to time :p

hmm...good....u r learning fast......:D

funkmeister

06-20-2006, 01:22 PM

hmm...good....u r learning fast......:D

funk nods and shakes head going "mm-hmm" :laugh:

Ah Boh

06-20-2006, 01:23 PM

hmmm... oh, and sprinkle some phrases like "is dat so?" or "really?" or one of my frens fav "interesting....." even if wat im saying is boring as hell.

Ah Boh

06-20-2006, 01:24 PM

http://i78.photobucket.com/albums/j106/siagb/Acctloveletter.gif

just a lil' sumting i found in my overflowing email box :)

song cm

06-20-2006, 01:26 PM

hmmm... oh, and sprinkle some phrases like "is dat so?" or "really?" or one of my frens fav "interesting....." even if wat im saying is boring as hell.

yikes....ah boh, u not married aso starting liao....where can....:laugh:

malcolm

06-20-2006, 02:02 PM

http://i78.photobucket.com/albums/j106/siagb/Acctloveletter.gif

just a lil' sumting i found in my overflowing email box :)
Ah Boh worrying about the extra luggage? hehe:p

Sarah

06-20-2006, 03:21 PM

that is what i read from articles by experts mar... :p
Which Sarah is this?

NO hard feelings Malcolm, we know you are correct. Funk is saying it in a joking manner... dun take it too seriously..

Funk is my husband and the reason he said this was becuz, sometimes whenever I get angry or upset with things, he knows he wun aggravate nor provoke me, so he will just nod his head and say hm... hm... that's one way to keep ensure peace..this is one of the ways he give in... but many men will tend to flare whenever they get annoyed with the wife.

Certain things are better off left alone. Not every communication works, depending on both parties' personalities. In our case, we argue alot, and Im very stubborn, so funk learnt that the better way is to just nod his head and say "yes, dear". Still, having said that... i know my limits and where I stand, as a wife. Once he puts his foot down, I know I have to submit and shut-up.

Im from class of 98. You prob dunno me.

eh, married ppl hv more xp rite? how do u keep d flame alive with kids running abount d house, hubby working overtime, chores to do, etc etc?

Trust me, you will never be able to keep the flame alive. You will get soooo used to your partner, that it's almost impossible to re-kindle your first love. First love/first impression/first excitement, for us now.. fairy tale ...

haha...funk, u so fast aso got auto pilot oredi? :laugh:

kenot simply nod one....once in a while need to shake 2...

keke... song, dun teach him... hahah...

use torch lites.....just make sure its alkaline batteries....

He uses rechargeable one... haha..

Ah Boh

06-21-2006, 01:10 PM

yikes....ah boh, u not married aso starting liao....where can....:laugh:

cheh! no lar, just teasing u marrried ones.. keke... :p

hey, its kinda easy to see thru a guy's pretense at listening u know?

Ah Boh worrying about the extra luggage? hehe:p

hehe... not at this point in time lah. but it scares me wen i see those lil' devils running around wild.

Ah Boh

06-21-2006, 01:54 PM

http://i78.photobucket.com/albums/j106/siagb/445.gif

http://i78.photobucket.com/albums/j106/siagb/457.gif

http://i78.photobucket.com/albums/j106/siagb/462.gif

some jokes about screwed-up r/ships :)

song cm

06-21-2006, 02:16 PM

Trust me, you will never be able to keep the flame alive. You will get soooo used to your partner, that it's almost impossible to re-kindle your first love. First love/first impression/first excitement, for us now.. fairy tale ... ..

can....get a new partner :eek:

keke... song, dun teach him... hahah...

He uses rechargeable one... haha..

haha....no need to teach one...sure he will master it eventually.....:D

Sarah

06-21-2006, 03:24 PM

can....get a new partner :eek:

i wish i can too... keke... :)

haha....no need to teach one...sure he will master it eventually.....:D

keke...

song cm

06-21-2006, 03:37 PM

i wish i can too... keke... :)

keke...

haha....u sure boh?

i guess dat wld always be our wildest fantasy....:laugh: :laugh:

funkmeister

06-21-2006, 03:52 PM

i wish i can too... keke... :) ...

:sus:

song cm

06-21-2006, 03:54 PM

:sus:

haha.....bet dat's ur wish 2....:p

athena

06-21-2006, 03:55 PM

:sus:
tat's Sarah's way of telling you...to get costumes for role-playing! :laugh:

song cm

06-21-2006, 03:56 PM

tat's Sarah's way of telling you...to get costumes for role-playing! :laugh:
hmmm...imagine funk the fireman and Sarah the sexytary.....:eek:

athena

06-21-2006, 03:58 PM

hmmm...imagine funk the fireman and Sarah the sexytary.....:eek:
oi abang....not for us to imagine.......

song cm

06-21-2006, 04:00 PM

oi abang....not for us to imagine.......

why not? :p

athena

06-21-2006, 04:01 PM

why not? :p
u dem terrible...now still working hours ok....dun let ur imagination...run TOO wild...:laugh:

song cm

06-21-2006, 04:02 PM

u dem terrible...now still working hours ok....dun let ur imagination...run TOO wild...:laugh:

haha....hopefully its only the imagination dat is working overtime....:laugh:

Odysseus

06-21-2006, 04:20 PM

u dem terrible...now still working hours ok....dun let ur imagination...run TOO wild...:laugh:
Now is the time to apply multitasking during office environment :p

funkmeister

06-21-2006, 04:42 PM

aboh those jokes really funny ;)
songcm, i only can say :huh:.. ROTFL!

song cm

06-21-2006, 04:45 PM

aboh those jokes really funny ;)
songcm, i only can say :huh:.. ROTFL!

don just say...make sure u post some pics larr....:D

Lava Gal

06-22-2006, 04:08 PM

bout keeping the flame alive...hehe, tatz y must still 'date', 'flirt', and 'romance' each other even after marriage ma :)

dunno means ask la! wat d gal like or not, her opinions on certain behaviour, etc etc
haiyooo so simple thing osos cannot kautim...
exactly wat i tot, boh! ASK...and THY SHALL RECEIVE 'd knowledge :)

not all... many marriages are failing because of communication break down
hmmm...sad - yup, communication is the essence of everything. many people dun take it so seriously nowdays though.

talking in parables...and saying one thing, and doing another --> i personally believe these r ways of the speaker themself organizing their thought process, trying to understand themselves...in the process, sometimes realize "oops...wat i tot yest & today is not the same" :p

Ah Boh

06-23-2006, 01:13 PM

hmmm...imagine funk the fireman and Sarah the sexytary.....:eek:

whoooaaa!!!!.... :p

aboh those jokes really funny ;)
songcm, i only can say :huh:.. ROTFL!

hehe... thanks n hope everyone enjoy it!

im sure i have more buried sumwhr in my ancient archives. wen i have time i become tomb raider n look for more 'treasures' in those deep dark caves. then i will share it with d world. mwuahahaa....

Lava Gal

06-23-2006, 01:48 PM

Ah Boh

06-23-2006, 02:06 PM

hahaha...tomb raider ah boh? macam-macam la u, gal.
anyway...yup, they were great. bring 'em on, Boh! too bad we cant share 'videoclips' on forum...else def would ask u to share those in ur archives here :laugh:

of course!!

i too have plenty of clips n sum are so funny i end up laughing out loud n embarrasing myself in d ofiice :o

Sarah

06-24-2006, 10:55 AM

oi abang....not for us to imagine.......

keke....

i wish i can too... keke... :)

funk saw my post... everyday kept repeating this word

"No fire, no fire" .... hm.... hahahah...

song cm

06-28-2006, 09:12 AM

keke....

funk saw my post... everyday kept repeating this word

"No fire, no fire" .... hm.... hahahah...

mebbe he sud be a policeman instead....crime is more rampant than fire....;)

ungsutiong

06-28-2006, 04:52 PM

hmmm...imagine funk the fireman and Sarah the sexytary.....:eek:
Is this an episode from "Sex & The City"? fireman, sexytary, love, lust, marriage, temptations, seduction,.......etc

song cm

06-29-2006, 01:14 PM

Is this an episode from "Sex & The City"? fireman, sexytary, love, lust, marriage, temptations, seduction,.......etc

haha......so sarah is sarah jessica parker?

Ah Boh

06-29-2006, 01:15 PM

Is this an episode from "Sex & The City"? fireman, sexytary, love, lust, marriage, temptations, seduction,.......etc

wah if u wan real life story dat follows sex & d city, u shud ask chungming! he really told us a good long one at our recent party... and he's d star in dat "episode" hehe... :p

song cm

06-29-2006, 01:17 PM

wah if u wan real life story dat follows sex & d city, u shud ask chungming! he really told us a good long one at our recent party... and he's d star in dat "episode" hehe... :p

u tell us here lorr...can arh? :)

Ah Boh

06-29-2006, 01:43 PM

u tell us here lorr...can arh? :)

cannot! its not my story to tell n not my place to do it anyway. we let d master tell it like it was. :)

song cm

06-29-2006, 04:14 PM

cannot! its not my story to tell n not my place to do it anyway. we let d master tell it like it was. :)

why not? this is not gossip mah.....u can start by saying, "As per ChungMing......." :)

Ah Boh

06-29-2006, 04:34 PM

why not? this is not gossip mah.....u can start by saying, "As per ChungMing......." :)

haha... yalah! normal way to spread gossip is to start with, 'u know ah... so & so say...' or 'i heard from so and so ah...' or 'as per so and so...'

no way my fren, im not gonna be a gossip monger la... bad for health! hehe...

besides, its best to get d news fm d horse's mouth... not dat im calling chungming a horse ok! :eek:

song cm

06-29-2006, 04:34 PM

haha... yalah! normal way to spread gossip is to start with, 'u know ah... so & so say...' or 'i heard from so and so ah...' or 'as per so and so...'

no way my fren, im not gonna be a gossip monger la... bad for health! hehe...

besides, its best to get d news fm d horse's mouth... not dat im calling chungming a horse ok! :eek:

horse = stud isit? dats a compliment larr.....:)

Ah Boh

06-29-2006, 04:37 PM

horse = stud isit? dats a compliment larr.....:)

chungming a stud?? OUR chungming?? err... maybe, maybe not.

i better not say anything else d horse may kick me. :p

btw, define 'stud'.

song cm

06-29-2006, 04:43 PM

from wikipedia

stud (plural studs)

1) A male animal, especially a horse, kept for breeding.
2) (colloquial) A sexually attractive man.

pick your choice....:)

Ah Boh

06-29-2006, 05:22 PM

from wikipedia

stud (plural studs)

1) A male animal, especially a horse, kept for breeding.
2) (colloquial) A sexually attractive man.

pick your choice....:)

LOL!! :eek:

very funny! wat if i choose #1? will dat make me a cruel & heartless gal?

no lar... im not like dat. i believe its #2 but even dat is not really true per say, cuz each man's attractiveness is in d beholder's eye right? so it depends on d woman's taste n preference?? hehe...

nah... in chungming's case, i choose neither. no offense chungming, not my type loh...

Lava Gal

06-29-2006, 08:41 PM

Ah Boh

06-30-2006, 09:21 AM

boh girl...i am so proud of u :D

for not starting 'gossip' hehe...coz ah...tatz how gossips start, rite? ppl say something based on hear-say...then org lain tambah garam, gula, and any other seasoning u can think of...and there comes a whole brand new STORY! :p

wah thank u thank u... im so proud of myself too.. nah! just kidding!

hey lav, wat do u think song meant by stud? i mean, wats d first thing sdat came to ur mind wen u hear d word 'stud'?

athena

06-30-2006, 10:01 AM

must say something about chungming here...haha....he not stud material meh? hahaha...if my memory serves me well, he is wor!! :laugh:

Ah Boh

06-30-2006, 11:42 AM

must say something about chungming here...haha....he not stud material meh? hahaha...if my memory serves me well, he is wor!! :laugh:

wat? no way no how....

first thing i tot wen i heard 'stud' = horse!

so as far as i know, chungming is no 'stud'. :p

song cm

06-30-2006, 11:44 AM

must say something about chungming here...haha....he not stud material meh? hahaha...if my memory serves me well, he is wor!! :laugh:
pls provide evidence to support this claim....:laugh:

Lava Gal

06-30-2006, 12:20 PM

when i read 'stud'...i think 'casanova':cheesy:

Lava Gal

06-30-2006, 12:24 PM

pls provide evidence to support this claim....:laugh:
hear hear....*bangs table*! ;)

song cm

06-30-2006, 01:36 PM

Ah Boh

06-30-2006, 05:37 PM

wahahaa.... this is getting interesting!

*spotlight on athena*

siehjin

06-30-2006, 05:55 PM

when i hear the word 'stud', i think of a little nubbly piece of metal. =)

back to athena! =)

Ah Boh

07-04-2006, 04:12 PM

when i hear the word 'stud', i think of a little nubbly piece of metal. =)

back to athena! =)

sob sob... athena ignoring us liao for putting too much spotlight on her. :(

nvm, stud for hebat guy, so hebat gal is wat?

athena

07-04-2006, 04:15 PM

sorry sorry....athena din see this thread......

evidence ah? aiyo...must wait for the man to reply wan mah

Ah Boh

07-04-2006, 04:28 PM

sorry sorry....athena din see this thread......

evidence ah? aiyo...must wait for the man to reply wan mah

wat man? real man or stud (horse??)

kekekeke.....

athena

07-04-2006, 04:30 PM

to be stud status, you've gotta be the real thing , my dear bobo!!! :D

ryan_khoo82

07-04-2006, 10:26 PM

wat? no way no how....

first thing i tot wen i heard 'stud' = horse!

so as far as i know, chungming is no 'stud'. :p

Apparently I've not been paying enough attention to this thread.

ChungMing is not a stud in the strictest sense of the word, but women will find him attractive on many levels.

The problem is he couldn't be bothered to find out about the woman if he wasn't attracted to her in the first place :D haha

athena

07-04-2006, 10:27 PM

ladies & gentlemen, i rest my case ;)

way to go chungming!! w00t!!! w00t!!!

ryan_khoo82

07-04-2006, 10:28 PM

to be stud status, you've gotta be the real thing , my dear bobo!!! :D

Evidence of stud status cannot only be confirmed by a woman after personal inspection of the real "thing".

At least I think that's what big sis means :D

song cm

07-05-2006, 08:37 AM

Evidence of stud status cannot only be confirmed by a woman after personal inspection of the real "thing".

At least I think that's what big sis means :D

u mean stud both at physical and emotional level?? :amazed:

Ah Boh

07-05-2006, 08:50 AM

Apparently I've not been paying enough attention to this thread.

ChungMing is not a stud in the strictest sense of the word, but women will find him attractive on many levels.

The problem is he couldn't be bothered to find out about the woman if he wasn't attracted to her in the first place :D haha
hahaha!!

the guy has finally spoken! :)

to be stud status, you've gotta be the real thing , my dear bobo!!! :D
in all honesty, i have not met a stud yet.

casanova? yes.
buayas? plenty!
weirdos? yes.
mummy's boy? God forbid!

song cm

07-05-2006, 08:59 AM

hahaha!!

the guy has finally spoken! :)

in all honesty, i have not met a stud yet.

casanova? yes.
buayas? plenty!
weirdos? yes.
mummy's boy? God forbid!

mebbe u sud go to a zoo or a horse farm....:laugh:

btw...wats a diff between cassanova n buaya??

athena

07-05-2006, 09:02 AM

casanova...think heath....

buaya...think JC

:D

song cm

07-05-2006, 09:05 AM

casanova...think heath....

buaya...think JC

:D

haha......so, its just outlook appearance isit?

athena

07-05-2006, 09:07 AM

it's never about appearence.....NEVER...it's all abt style!!

song cm

07-05-2006, 09:08 AM

so i guess casanova is a classy version of buayas isit?...but still a buaya nevertheless....

athena

07-05-2006, 09:09 AM

ahem.......buayas goes after women.......women goes for casanova...what ya think? :D

Ah Boh

07-05-2006, 09:09 AM

it's never about appearence.....NEVER...it's all abt style!!

U hit the nail on the head!! So accurate. It is all about style ;)

song cm

07-05-2006, 09:10 AM

ahem.......buayas goes after women.......women goes for casanova...what ya think? :D

haha...dem.....:laugh:
so is casonova = stud??

song cm

07-05-2006, 09:11 AM

U hit the nail on the head!! So accurate. It is all about style ;)

can explain more arh? wat style? his behaviour? wat abt looks??

athena

07-05-2006, 09:12 AM

haha...dem.....:laugh:
so is casonova = stud??
casanova is no ordinary stud...he's the creme de la creme of studs

song cm

07-05-2006, 09:14 AM

casanova is no ordinary stud...he's the creme de la creme of studs

so, have u meet one before? :D

(DGL don count...)

athena

07-05-2006, 09:14 AM

so, have u meet one before? :D
:( no more chance!

song cm

07-05-2006, 09:15 AM

:( no more chance!

haha...meet onli mah....:laugh:

athena

07-05-2006, 09:17 AM

haha...meet onli mah....:laugh:
like ryan said, to tell a real stud...u've gotta inspect!! hahaha

song cm

07-05-2006, 09:18 AM

like ryan said, to tell a real stud...u've gotta inspect!! hahaha

haha...i thot he said even inspect aso not good enaf......:laugh:

athena

07-05-2006, 09:20 AM

haha...i thot he said even inspect aso not good enaf......:laugh:
dem...that kid's got great potential man!! hahaha.....

Ah Boh

07-05-2006, 09:22 AM

can explain more arh? wat style? his behaviour? wat abt looks??

casanova vs buaya? of course cannot compare lah!

like athena said... imagine heath ledger vs JC. Heath wins hands down lah! not that i know JC very well lah, but nvm, hehe...

or orlando bloom vs an ork. whooaaa...

casanova...think heath....

buaya...think JC

:D

looks/image... classy speech.. impeccable manners... natural charm... gentle touch... body language...

these n many more lil' details differentiate the casanovas fm d buayas, in my opinion.

song cm

07-05-2006, 09:32 AM

casanova vs buaya? of course cannot compare lah!

like athena said... imagine heath ledger vs JC. Heath wins hands down lah! not that i know JC very well lah, but nvm, hehe...

or orlando bloom vs an ork. whooaaa...

looks/image... classy speech.. impeccable manners... natural charm... gentle touch... body language...

these n many more lil' details differentiate the casanovas fm d buayas, in my opinion.

u forgot $$$...surely u need this as well.....:laugh:

Ah Boh

07-05-2006, 09:34 AM

u forgot $$$...surely u need this as well.....:laugh:

oh yes, dat too! lots & lots of it will work to the casanovas' advantage.

who can resist a guy's gold visa/mastercard eh?? *deja vu* chungming?? :eek:

athena

07-05-2006, 09:35 AM

a guy wif cash is always better than a guy wif plastics:noworry:

song cm

07-05-2006, 09:36 AM

oh yes, dat too! lots & lots of it will work to the casanovas' advantage.

who can resist a guy's gold visa/mastercard eh?? *deja vu* chungming?? :eek:

haha...nowadays gold aso not good enaf...need platinum liao.....

Ah Boh

07-05-2006, 09:43 AM

haha...nowadays gold aso not good enaf...need platinum liao.....
wahlau... so high class liao! i pun tak sampai. hehe...

a guy wif cash is always better than a guy wif plastics:noworry:
yalor! we learn in accounts dat Cash is King, aint dat rite, song?

song cm

07-05-2006, 09:46 AM

wahlau... so high class liao! i pun tak sampai. hehe...

yalor! we learn in accounts dat Cash is King, aint dat rite, song?

noler...just dat nowadays gold card is easily available....I think Direct Access is giving gold cards to professional who earns ard 3k....

yeap...cash is king but plastic for me is a princess......:)

Lava Gal

07-05-2006, 05:16 PM

like ryan said, to tell a real stud...u've gotta inspect!! hahaha
inspect apa huh?:sus:
:laugh:

Ah Boh

07-06-2006, 12:57 PM

inspect apa huh?:sus:
:laugh:

oh dearie me... gone were d days when we were all innocent lil' babes... :cheesy:

ryan_khoo82

07-06-2006, 10:49 PM

dem...that kid's got great potential man!! hahaha.....

Potential is only relevant by how much of it is achieved.

Women... can't live with them (she'll bleed my account dry)... can't live without them (what will I do on a Saturday night?) :D

Ah Boh

07-07-2006, 01:18 PM

Potential is only relevant by how much of it is achieved.

Women... can't live with them (she'll bleed my account dry)... can't live without them (what will I do on a Saturday night?) :D

why izzit u think every woman will bleed u dry?

when u believe it or sumhow convince urself dat it so, then u unconsciously attract or only pay attention to dat exact type of women to prove urself rite, isn't it?

but if u think otherwise n broden ur mindset, u may meet quite a variety out thr? im not exactly sure wat im crapping bout, call it psychology or watever, just a titbit i read sumwhr...

Lava Gal

07-07-2006, 02:06 PM

oh dearie me... gone were d days when we were all innocent lil' babes... :cheesy:
muahahaha...and as much as i'd like to believe tat i'm innochent...who am i kidding?
have inspected quite a few myself...from kid's to old men's...anyone wants to know wat's the rite inspection technique? :p

why izzit u think every woman will bleed u dry?

when u believe it or sumhow convince urself dat it so, then u unconsciously attract or only pay attention to dat exact type of women to prove urself rite, isn't it?

but if u think otherwise n broden ur mindset, u may meet quite a variety out thr? im not exactly sure wat im crapping bout, call it psychology or watever, just a titbit i read sumwhr...
this is obviously NOT CRAP! i've read things along same line too..
u r rite...boh! this is nothing but the TRUTH...no rocket science involved!

lemme give eg: Gal A thinks all guy are jerks...so when she comes across someone who is caring etc...she thinks "this fellow is weird!"
so she end up falling for jerks...and only jerks!

another one:
Guy B thinks all gals are dependent, love to be pampered, and will settle for nothing but the best of the best (when it comes to dining...or anything else la)...so when he meets someone who doesnt fit that bill - she's considered WEIRD...and he'd never even give a 2nd glance. so...there goes! when he meets the 'pisau cukur' kinda gals...he feels they r normal...fitting his expectation...and there goes the cycle again!

siehjin

07-12-2006, 01:09 PM

what guen boh is talking about is called a 'self-fulfilling prophecy' by psychologists... the classic example is the person who says, "i'm gonna fail" and then they go ahead and prove their own prophecy right.

sometimes conditioning also plays a role... as the saying goes, nice guys finish last. for some reason, some women are conditioned to be attracted to 'bad boys'... unfortunately such relationships sometimes turn abusive.

as for guys being attracted to high-maintainence girls, i think that it's a package deal... such girls are often more attractive to guys because they have the money and don't mind spending it on hair, makeup, clothes, gym membership, and etc. they are used to living at a certain level of luxury... therefore they have certain expectations of the man or men in their lives.

nothing wrong with that, and i suppose they do deserve to be pampered. but no sense for a guy like me to fall for a girl like that, i'd never be able to provide for her wants. her needs yes, but her wants - impossible. chungming, however, is a different story... he has the moolah! =)

song cm

07-12-2006, 05:09 PM

SS2006

07-12-2006, 05:45 PM

haha...mebbe only urs bleed u to death :p ....some good ones even help u thru during tough times.....:)
This is one sensible statement...from an experienced married man. :)
So for you single guys there...this is the difference between wife and gf.
After married, the money belongs to both husband and wife...so if bleed, both also affected. Before married, that's a different story:D

song cm

07-12-2006, 09:29 PM

This is one sensible statement...from an experienced married man. :)
So for you single guys there...this is the difference between wife and gf.
After married, the money belongs to both husband and wife...so if bleed, both also affected. Before married, that's a different story:D

i bet b4 u got married, u din "bleed" your hub-to-be....:)

SS2006

07-13-2006, 08:25 AM

i bet b4 u got married, u din "bleed" your hub-to-be....:)
Haha...you are right. I can earn my own money, and i wanted to be financially independant. But i did get him to 'sponsor' me things volunteerily.:laugh:

song cm

07-13-2006, 08:27 AM

see...ryan....u just gotta look harder for a real gem....:)

athena

07-13-2006, 09:16 AM

ryan's got the time still mah.....so slowly ..no rush!

song cm

07-13-2006, 11:27 AM

don wait too long horr...as they say early bird catches the worm....:laugh:

Lava Gal

07-13-2006, 11:35 AM

sieh jin...good to have a psychologist on board. now boh knows wat she was talking about isnt crap...but proven theories ;)
and...hahaha balik-balik chung ming kena :p

i agree wif our abang & kakaks lar...BIG difference btw 'blade' g/fs...and wife material who will be there thru good & bad

Ah Boh

07-13-2006, 05:51 PM

sieh jin...good to have a psychologist on board. now boh knows wat she was talking about isnt crap...but proven theories ;)
fooyuh... i do know things i didnt know i knew. hehe... thanks siehjin!

Haha...you are right. I can earn my own money, and i wanted to be financially independant. But i did get him to 'sponsor' me things volunteerily.:laugh:
im exactly like u! i like to earn & spend my own money, i even find it impossible to ask parents to sponsor me even if its urgent & i koyak at dat time.

but its up to d guy if he wants to shower me with gifts or not cuz it doesnt matter to me cuz wat i want i can very well buy myself. :)

ryan_khoo82

07-14-2006, 11:35 PM

see...ryan....u just gotta look harder for a real gem....:)

Gems are real hard to find :D

Anson F-Clef

07-15-2006, 12:37 AM

HA!! U may say that Ryan has got time but not quite me.....frankly speaking, my timebomb is ticking faster and faster without even realizing that myself - LOL and LMBO....

ryan's got the time still mah.....so slowly ..no rush!

Ah Boh

07-15-2006, 11:18 AM

Gems are real hard to find :D
maybe u're not looking in d rite place? but hey, lots of gals in banks rite u shudnt have any probs.

HA!! U may say that Ryan has got time but not quite me.....frankly speaking, my timebomb is ticking faster and faster without even realizing that myself - LOL and LMBO....
wei if still ticking consider good news liao! as long as dun stop ticking enuf rite??

Anson F-Clef

07-16-2006, 04:32 AM

Nolar - ticking means that my onlife getting shorter and shorter and hope also getting dimmer and dimmer liao lah......

wei if still ticking consider good news liao! as long as dun stop ticking enuf rite??

Lava Gal

07-17-2006, 11:36 AM

many people make the mistake of settling for wateva comes their way jus coz their clock is ticking away like a time-bomb! then...its a decision to take it as it is...and maybe even get married.

but WAT IF....YOU FIND YOUR SOULMATE AFTER MARRIAGE>>> and tat person aint ur spouse!:amazed:
~tatz the dilemma tat's portrayed in the upcoming shah rukh khan movie...interesting, huh?~

i have a Q: is it possible to have romantic feelings for more than 1 person at a time? from wat i've heard so far...the decision to commit will usually make one 'tune off' to others. but of coz u cant deny tat ppl still steal a glance, and cuci mata if they see a chun chick, or a hot hunk.
as a fren of mine (who is married) says..."there's nothing wrong in admiring. creations are meant to be admired"
of coz it comes wif one knowing the limits...

athena

07-17-2006, 11:38 AM

haha..too bad..u made ur choice...so LIVE WIF IT!!:laugh:

somethings has no u-turn!

plus i think this soulmate thing is over-rated!

song cm

07-17-2006, 11:42 AM

soulmate is a transition thingy......in most situation....:laugh:

Lava Gal

07-17-2006, 11:42 AM

song cm

07-17-2006, 11:45 AM

hahaha....good one, ath! choices comes wif consequences.
have u found urs athena?

its okie if got compatibility. but those who always gaduh-gaduh etc...if the r/ship is in trouble...i think almost anyone else would see like a soulmate :p

oh...i edited the prev post juz now. see if u got any opinion on my nx Q there, ath

haha...lav, why are u putting ath in a tight spot?? :eek:

as for your Q, i think it is always possible....it is a Q on whether you allow it to progress further.....

athena

07-17-2006, 11:46 AM

haha...one person canbe your SOULMATE for 10 years...then u will find someone else who is your SOULMATe after that..haha...

r/ship are investment..u need to invest ur time & money ( yup, cash) into it....:D

song cm

07-17-2006, 11:49 AM

but some investments do turn into liabilities, on certain occasion....

athena

07-17-2006, 11:49 AM

all investments hv risks mah...hahaha...

song cm

07-17-2006, 11:51 AM

all investments hv risks mah...hahaha...

more risks, more gain?? :laugh:

athena

07-17-2006, 11:53 AM

more risks, more gain?? :laugh:
that's why lots girls like bad boys.....they are more fun!!! coz there are risks invovled!! hehee...

song cm

07-17-2006, 11:56 AM

that's why lots girls like bad boys.....they are more fun!!! coz there are risks invovled!! hehee...

haha...wat kind of "gain" are we talking abt? "adrenalin rush??" :laugh:

athena

07-17-2006, 11:58 AM

"adrenalin rush" is one of them.....:)

Lava Gal

07-17-2006, 06:16 PM

soulmate is a transition thingy......in most situation....:laugh:
too profound...:wacko:

Lava Gal

07-17-2006, 06:18 PM

haha...pulling her leg nia. since newly 'married' - must kacau sikit le ;)
haha...lav, why are u putting ath in a tight spot?? :eek:

as for your Q, i think it is always possible....it is a Q on whether you allow it to progress further.....
hmmm...ya how, not necessarily when s1 is attached, they tune off to rest of the world rite :p

song cm

07-18-2006, 08:45 AM

haha...pulling her leg nia. since newly 'married' - must kacau sikit le ;)

hmmm...ya how, not necessarily when s1 is attached, they tune off to rest of the world rite :p
the tuning off only applies in the first few months....unfortunately...:eek:

athena

07-18-2006, 08:48 AM

the tuning off only applies in the first few months....unfortunately...:eek:
not to say, but the tuning off is a bit hard when kids are screaming and killing each other , right ? :D

song cm

07-18-2006, 08:50 AM

not to say, but the tuning off is a bit hard when kids are screaming and killing each other , right ? :D
haha....spot on...once u reach the kids thingy...tuning off function is permanently disabled.....:laugh:

athena

07-18-2006, 08:52 AM

haha....spot on...once u reach the kids thingy...tuning off function is permanently disabled.....:laugh:
:) hehehe..but other buttons are activated wert...hahaha......adrenalin rush....:p scared that kids catch you!!:laugh:

Lava Gal

07-18-2006, 09:29 AM

hehehe..but other buttons are activated wert...hahaha......adrenalin rush.... scared that kids catch you!!:laugh:
:laugh: :laugh:
trust ath to come up wif these things ;)

siehjin

07-18-2006, 09:48 AM

hallo! =) sorry my reply is so late, disrupting the flow of conversation... but i'd like to respond to lavanya's questions.

firstly, the question of soulmates... i believe that there is no one single soulmate for each person. rather, there is a pool of potential soulmates, from which we can choose one.

take this example to show the impossibility of the 'one soulmate' theory: A is B's soulmate, but he marries D who is actually C's soulmate. so by no fault of C, he ends up mateless. worse still, if C goes and marries someone else, the chain of 'wrong' marriages will continue.

and consider that if E and F are soulmates and they marry and have a son, G. G's soulmate is supposed to be A and B's daughter H, but A has married D and their daughter is I, not H. how? G has no soulmate! if just one person makes a wrong choice, everyone is in a hell of mismatched marriages. and there are approximately 6 billion ppl on earth, so there's a pretty high chance that more than one will make a mistake. if this model is true, we might as well give up on ever finding the right person to marry.

therefore i believe that there is a pool of potential soulmates. what makes a 2 ppl soulmates is an interaction of genetics, environment, and choice. choice is a very important factor: if both husband and wife are truly committed to their marriage relationship, almost any hurdle can be overcome. so for the question what if i meet another potential soulmate after already having married my wife, i'd say ignore them. i've already made my choice, i'm committed, and that's that. as athena said, choices have consequences.

Lava Gal

07-18-2006, 09:58 AM

jin...oh, jin! :laugh: i was jus Laughing 2 myself when read the example abt the unborn child soulamate concept there ;)

i believe that one can have a number of soulmates too...like in diff phase of life diff ppl help u thru rough patches etc, not nec opposite sex yo. but that's wat i see as soul-mate.

but when it comes to the ultimate one...then i like to think in terms of twin-soul. where u literally find ur 'other' half ;)

siehjin

07-18-2006, 10:12 AM

ok, hope u all don't mind if i ramble along to the second question: is it possible to be romantically attracted to 2 ppl at the same time?

well, let's start by looking at attraction. i think that there are 2 kinds of attraction: physical and emotional. physical attraction can be further divided into sexual and non-sexual physical attraction, and emotional attraction can be further divided into romantic and non-romantic emotional attraction. and attractions can change kinds, too; or they can be purposely ignored and eventually die.

i think it's certainly possible to be attracted to more than one person at the same time, in the same or in different ways. if i'm not in a committed relationship and i'm looking for one, these attractions are something to explore and to see if they might develop into something more. however if i am in a committed relationship (like marriage for example) then i hv to tread very carefully.

when as a married man i feel an attraction to someone not my wife (i use when because i'm no saint and it will probably happen sooner or later), i hv to examine it to see what kind of attraction it is. if it's romantic or sexual, i must squash it like a bug. flee from temptation, so to speak. if it is non-romantic or non-sexual, it's ok. but i still must be careful not to let it change or develop into romantic and/or sexual attraction. guard my heart, so to speak.

hehe, hope these answers of mine give some food for thought. =)

siehjin

07-18-2006, 10:24 AM

well lav, it's nice to think that way, in terms of 'twin-soul'... but it might not work in real life, as my example pointed out.

some ppl are so afraid to commit precisely because of this soulmate concept. how can we ever be sure that we've found our 'twin-soul'? we can't! our feelings are deceptive (u kno they say 'love is blind'), and human relationships and personalities are so complex that even the most clear-headed thinker might be mistaken when it comes to finding that 'twin-soul'.

if we switch our way of thinking to the 'pool of soulmates' concept, we take away this fear and uncertainty of making the wrong choice (and it also makes more sense). as long as your choice is within the 'pool', by mutual commitment and effort that person can *become* your 'twin-soul' and you can become theirs!

sounds good? =)

Ah Boh

07-19-2006, 01:55 PM

TWIN SOUL sounds like a very romantic and shakespearean concept but it's far from reality, isn't it?

if fear of 'commitment' or 'wrong choice' gets in d way, then no one will actually get together or even get married.

lets be practical, there is no such love test or any heavenly answer dat will tell u 100% surety who is ur soulmate, maybe your own intuition or emotions may guide the way but even dat is subject to human fallability.

siehjin

07-28-2006, 04:41 PM

hallo! =)

i was reading a book the other day, the authors suggest that marriage is not about finding happiness or finding one's soulmate. if we think this way, then one day what if we're married but not happy? the marriage has failed and we've fallen out of love, so let's get a divorce. or what if, like lav said, we meet someone who seems more 'soulmate-ish' than our spouse? maybe we made a wrong choice, so let's get divorced and marry the next person who comes along!

with such thinking, the marriage and family can have no stability. not only that, we may stay in the marriage because we're committed or for the sake of the kids, but we'll be miserable cos we think the marriage was a mistake.

so as an alternative, they suggest that marriage is about journeying together. it's about laughing together, crying together, sharing each other's joys, bearing each other's burdens, travelling together in this journey called life. with this view, both happiness and unhappiness are acceptable in marriage because both are a part of life. and with this view, we may not start off as soulmates; but as we journey together, we become each other's soulmate.

i like this idea! what about u all? =)