How many children would you like to have....

[song cm]

okok....i am interested to find out the views on what is the optimum family size.....

interested? give me your comments before we start a poll.....

[SS2006]

okok....i am interested to find out the views on what is the optimum family size.....

interested? give me your comments before we start a poll.....
Alamak..Song! Tak habis-habis dengan topik ni. If you want a 3rd, just go ahead...no need to justify your action.:p
In my opinion, what is my ideal optimum family size and my realistic family size is different. We do not live in an ideal word, too many factors to take into consideration.:sad-2:

[Voon Chan]

:( I want 2. But my wife only agree to one

[siewjang]

It's nice if you have mixture of both. So if 1G and 1B, normally ppl will stop liao. If 2G or 2B, possibility they will try for the 3rd one. Nowadays in the modern world, if you have 4, the question is "you accident ka":o .

[Voon Chan]

my friend one also as a result of accident:p It's nice if you have mixture of both. So if 1G and 1B, normally ppl will stop liao. If 2G or 2B, possibility they will try for the 3rd one. Nowadays in the modern world, if you have 4, the question is "you accident ka":o .

[song cm]

Alamak..Song! Tak habis-habis dengan topik ni. If you want a 3rd, just go ahead...no need to justify your action.:p
In my opinion, what is my ideal optimum family size and my realistic family size is different. We do not live in an ideal word, too many factors to take into consideration.:sad-2:

noler...just wanting to do a survey....for my MBA:p
anyway...i am waiting 4 u....


It's nice if you have mixture of both. So if 1G and 1B, normally ppl will stop liao. If 2G or 2B, possibility they will try for the 3rd one. Nowadays in the modern world, if you have 4, the question is "you accident ka":o .

but the prob is the third one cld be either 3G or 3B

[clos]

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[SS2006]

noler...just wanting to do a survey....for my MBA:p
anyway...i am waiting 4 u....




but the prob is the third one cld be either 3G or 3B
Exactly.
My ideal has always been 3. I come from a big family, 5 siblings, and when i was young, i always think its a little too many...3 would be ideal.
Now that i have 2 boys, my ideal is to have another girl...but alas due to circumstantial factor, i guess i am happy to settle for just 2. However, my wistful thinking is to have a little girl who looks just like me.:D

[alfred98]

For statistic view, 1 is deffinately not enough. To sustain a healthy population the number is at least 3 children..4 is a bonus lor...G/B doesn't matter much as U need to educate regardless G/B. But for chinese definately having a boy is an extra bonus...But nowadays couple opt for 2 only as because of financial and time strain. We are think what is our financial ability to bring up this children and education nowadays costing a bomb...Most of our class having 2 children....I'm having 3 lor 2B, 1G what to ask some more, luck on my side....

[song cm]

Exactly.
My ideal has always been 3. I come from a big family, 5 siblings, and when i was young, i always think its a little too many...3 would be ideal.
Now that i have 2 boys, my ideal is to have another girl...but alas due to circumstantial factor, i guess i am happy to settle for just 2. However, my wistful thinking is to have a little girl who looks just like me.:D

haha...dem....my thots precisely.....except for the last part....:laugh:
can i ask what is the circumstantial factor? For me....its the stress...dowan to go thru them again...

[SS2006]

haha...dem....my thots precisely.....except for the last part....:laugh:
can i ask what is the circumstantial factor? For me....its the stress...dowan to go thru them again...
Because you already have 2 boys who look like you. Bet Anne would love to have a girl who looks like her.
Factors like not enough quality time to spend with my kids, and sibling jealousy. If i were to have another baby, most of my time will be spend to attend the babies needs. Then i will miss out on a big part of my 2 son's life.

[alfred98]

Because you already have 2 boys who look like you. Bet Anne would love to have a girl who looks like her.
Factors like not enough quality time to spend with my kids, and sibling jealousy. If i were to have another baby, most of my time will be spend to attend the babies needs. Then i will miss out on a big part of my 2 son's life.
Wah like that imaging a fellow had 10 children, the rest of 9 will be neglected lor. Still can divide the time lor....:D

[TingMS]

Exactly.
My ideal has always been 3. I come from a big family, 5 siblings, and when i was young, i always think its a little too many...3 would be ideal.
Now that i have 2 boys, my ideal is to have another girl...but alas due to circumstantial factor, i guess i am happy to settle for just 2. However, my wistful thinking is to have a little girl who looks just like me.:D


My home minister is having the same thought. But again, after looking at the little rascals now, she surrenders, less grey hair, less wrinkles, less tanduk coming out from her head... :laugh: :laugh:

[song cm]

so...can I say 3 is ideal but 2 is realistic....

[SS2006]

Wah like that imaging a fellow had 10 children, the rest of 9 will be neglected lor. Still can divide the time lor....:D
I really salute that fella. Unfortunately, i am not selfless enough to do that. I still want some quality time for myself.
so...can I say 3 is ideal but 2 is realistic....
Cannot make a blanket statement like that. For my hub, ideal is 7 (he comes from a bigger family)...realistic is 2.

[siewjang]

...but the prob is the third one cld be either 3G or 3B
That is why they say 'pok' lo. Never 'pok', never know wat.

[song cm]

That is why they say 'pok' lo. Never 'pok', never know wat.

wah...this "pok"... really risky lorr......50-50 chance.....or dats wat i think....

[alfred98]

I will say lah for chinese, 2 is just enough, 3 everyone will say very clever, 4 people will congratulate U very good should be a model family and 5 people will say are U less educated or what....how to educate your children ah, you rich meh!!!

[KoChun]

That is why they say 'pok' lo. Never 'pok', never know wat.
It's like playing the game of blackjack with 4 cards at 16pts. 'Pok' one more, you may get double joy.

[alfred98]

wah...this "pok"... really risky lorr......50-50 chance.....or dats wat i think....
Aiyo yo just sign up for the sex selection lor, SELNAS lor, pay 2K+ you will get a year callender when to get pregnant for your selected one lor..If wrong full refund lor, nothing to lose mah.....:D

[Voon Chan]

Yes! Get twinsIt's like playing the game of blackjack with 4 cards at 16pts. 'Pok' one more, you may get double joy.

[song cm]

It's like playing the game of blackjack with 4 cards at 16pts. 'Pok' one more, you may get double joy.

or u die....:laugh:

[alfred98]

It's like playing the game of blackjack with 4 cards at 16pts. 'Pok' one more, you may get double joy.
That is actually not called joy leh, misery more to say...:laugh:

[Voon Chan]

my friend got 2 boys, try for a girl.
Suddenly, the loctor said you got twins.
Not very happy because the only wanted one
A few months later, loctor said both are boy.

His wife almost fainted

[song cm]

Aiyo yo just sign up for the sex selection lor, SELNAS lor, pay 2K+ you will get a year callender when to get pregnant for your selected one lor..If wrong full refund lor, nothing to lose mah.....:D

they should aso at least bear the hospital bills ..... really, they got nothing to lose one....btw, wat is their success rate?

[SS2006]

they should aso at least bear the hospital bills ..... really, they got nothing to lose one....btw, wat is their success rate?
50%:?? eek: :laugh:

[alfred98]

they should aso at least bear the hospital bills ..... really, they got nothing to lose one....btw, wat is their success rate?
They are saying 80-90%, but I'm abit optimistic lor...

[alfred98]

my friend got 2 boys, try for a girl.
Suddenly, the loctor said you got twins.
Not very happy because the only wanted one
A few months later, loctor said both are boy.

His wife almost fainted
Hahahha. My wife friend here in Sitiawan and one of my patient just had the 5th boys frus lor. But only 4 alive, the second one drown in the sea few years ago...in Kg Sitiawan.

[song cm]

50%:?? eek: :laugh:
if i dat, i aso can open an agency liao

[Alkapocino]

I always wanted to have 6. Three boys and three girls. But it seems like an elusive dream. :(

[alfred98]

I always wanted to have 6. Three boys and three girls. But it seems like an elusive dream. :(
You talk to me when U having the 3rd one ok...:laugh:

[song cm]

I always wanted to have 6. Three boys and three girls. But it seems like an elusive dream. :(
application rejected by home minister isit??

[alfred98]

application rejected by home minister isit??
Home minister where got power to reject!!! The man got power to decide lahhh...:D

[Oddfather]

I always wanted to have 6. Three boys and three girls. But it seems like an elusive dream. :(
All from the same source...???

[siewjang]

they should aso at least bear the hospital bills ..... really, they got nothing to lose one....btw, wat is their success rate?
Ask them can return stock or not?

[song cm]

Home minister where got power to reject!!! The man got power to decide lahhh...:D

hey...home minister need to approve larr....they are the one who has to go thru the process......

[Dino]

I always wanted to have 6. Three boys and three girls. But it seems like an elusive dream. :(

Slip a $20 dollar bill under the application.....hey...works in Vegas when i wanted a upgrade to a suite ok....:squeeze: :p

[siewjang]

Home minister where got power to reject!!! The man got power to decide lahhh...:D
Ya lo. some husband very bad wan. Punture the con*om.:(

[song cm]

All from the same source...???
:laugh: ...bagus....

Ask them can return stock or not?
can return aso too sayang liao....okok, i think to make it better, they shld refund double....can??

Ya lo. some husband very bad wan. Punture the con*om.:(
or pull out too late?? :laugh:

[alfred98]

Ask them can return stock or not?
Ah if U don't want can give it to me lor, I will give ang pow leh...:laugh:

[alfred98]

hey...home minister need to approve larr....they are the one who has to go thru the process......
Accident lor and cannot go for abortion lor...:laugh:
Ya lo. some husband very bad wan. Punture the con*om.:(
That's my man leh, pandai, who ask the minister to reject applications...:laugh:

[SS2006]

Ya lo. some husband very bad wan. Punture the con*om.:(
=song cm



or pull out too late?? :laugh:
Not foolproof...haven't you heard of the morning after pill?

[Hammerhead]

I always wanted to have 6. Three boys and three girls. But it seems like an elusive dream. :(
Don't give up Alka, a dream is actually reality in the making or "work-in-progress"

[Odysseus]

Ya lo. some husband very bad wan. Punture the con*om.:(
If like that ah.... I suggest u abstain lo... This I assure you 100% protection. Can follow my advice or not?

[alfred98]

If like that ah.... I suggest u abstain lo... This I assure you 100% protection. Can follow my advice or not?
Is nun doing that also, cannot right!!!:laugh:

[siewjang]

Is nun doing that also, cannot right!!!:laugh:
Alf, he's trying to sell me adult toys he just brought back from Amsterdam.;)

[alfred98]

Alf, he's trying to sell me adult toys he just brought back from Amsterdam.;)
Toys!! Got real thing use lor.....:laugh:

[Odysseus]

Alf, he's trying to sell me adult toys he just brought back from Amsterdam.;)
Oh yes, ,, forgot to tell you. I managed to get all the 10 things you asked me to get in Amsterdam for you. You will really enjoy it :p

[Odysseus]

Toys!! Got real thing use lor.....:laugh:
Real thing cannot be trusted le.....

[alfred98]

Real thing cannot be trusted le.....
I got something called contraception lehhh. Tak Boleh kena one...:laugh:

[Odysseus]

I got something called contraception lehhh. Tak Boleh kena one...:laugh:
Sure so terror wan ah?

[alfred98]

Sure so terror wan ah?
100% so far no body failed yet...:laugh:

[song cm]

okok...start voting and stop talking abt toys and contraceptive....:p
rmbr...this poll is public one....

[Oddfather]

vote liao....

[Oddfather]

okok...start voting and stop talking abt toys and contraceptive....:p
rmbr...this poll is public one....
song, what abt sex preference?

[Voon Chan]

Song, it should be "how many do you want".
Problem: Because I want 2, but my wife only want 1. How am I going to vote?

[SS2006]

okok...start voting and stop talking abt toys and contraceptive....:p
rmbr...this poll is public one....
Realistic or idealistic target one?:confused:

[song cm]

Realistic or idealistic target one?:confused:
should be realistic....

Song, it should be "how many do you want".
Problem: Because I want 2, but my wife only want 1. How am I going to vote?

like dat arh...put 2 and we will try to convince your mrs....

song, what abt sex preference?
wah...susah to please u guys one....this one...next poll horr...:)

[Voon Chan]

tried many time already. MIL also talk to her. Friend also.
I give up liaolike dat arh...put 2 and we will try to convince your mrs....

[Odysseus]

Song, it should be "how many do you want".
Problem: Because I want 2, but my wife only want 1. How am I going to vote?
It's about YOUR vote ma.... no to vote on bahalf of someone else..

[Oddfather]

should be realistic....



like dat arh...put 2 and we will try to convince your mrs....
dey, 2 and 1 is three laa....:p

[Oddfather]

wah...susah to please u guys one....this one...next poll horr...:)
sorry hor....just thinking aloud...!!!:squeeze:

[SS2006]

tried many time already. MIL also talk to her. Friend also.
I give up liao
Why she doesn't want? If my hub so good like you can take care of the children so well, i sure go for another.

[song cm]

alfred....caya larr lu....champion

ask u a Q, Dr normally like a lot of children...correct? why arhh??

[Voon Chan]

Her reasons 1) we bring a child to this world, they suffer & we suffer;2) if we can give the love attention to them, don't bring them to the world; and 3) she cannot trust anyone apart from her mother & me to take care of the child.

I can't resign & sit home to take care of my child
Why she doesn't want? If my hub so good like you can take care of the children so well, i sure go for another.

[song cm]

Her reasons 1) we bring a child to this world, they suffer & we suffer;2) if we can give the love attention to them, don't bring them to the world; and 3) she cannot trust anyone apart from her mother & me to take care of the child.

I can't resign & sit home to take care of my child

don understand this part.....

[Voon Chan]

the moment the child is born, they cry & cry. Cannot communicate & etc. Want to eat cry. Itchy , cannot not do anything. A lot more.

As parent, we have to go through so much to to bring them updon understand this part.....

[SS2006]

Her reasons 1) we bring a child to this world, they suffer & we suffer;2) if we can give the love attention to them, don't bring them to the world; and 3) she cannot trust anyone apart from her mother & me to take care of the child.

I can't resign & sit home to take care of my child
I also cannot understand this part. Both you and her mother take care of the child so well, so she no need to worry wat. Anyway, my personal view is one is too little, 3 is just nice...but i'm not sure what to vote for yet. If i strike 3 million lottery tmrw and become a stay at home mom, i'll definitely put 3 as my choice.

[siewjang]

Song, how about if they don't want any baby? Where to click?

[Oddfather]

Song, how about if they don't want any baby? Where to click?
NONE lor...

[alfred98]

alfred....caya larr lu....champion

ask u a Q, Dr normally like a lot of children...correct? why arhh??
More children more fun mah..Children got natural ability to calm down adult lor. Imagine U get scolding so much by your boss, on the road u will be very angry and vending on the others driver but once U reach home your gege will come and say how's daddy, your heart will melt and u forgot about it liao...:D

[Voon Chan]

Very good point.Song, how about if they don't want any baby? Where to click?

[SS2006]

the moment the child is born, they cry & cry. Cannot communicate & etc. Want to eat cry. Itchy , cannot not do anything. A lot more.

As parent, we have to go through so much to to bring them up
This is not suffering laa...that is just baby's natural reflex. Besides the hardship, there is so much joy seeing the baby grow up. Doesn't that matter?And breastfeeding is the best feeling in the world, when you are bonding with the baby...but you guys will never have the chance to even imagine how much you miss.

[Voon Chan]

God created us to play different functionThis is not suffering laa...that is just baby's natural reflex. Besides the hardship, there is so much joy seeing the baby grow up. Doesn't that matter?And breastfeeding is the best feeling in the world, when you are bonding with the baby...but you guys will never have the chance to even imagine how much you miss.

[siewjang]

NONE lor...
Just now don't have wat:p .

[Oddfather]

More children more fun mah..Children got natural ability to calm down adult lor. Imagine U get scolding so much by your boss, on the road u will be very angry and vending on the others driver but once U reach home your gege will come and say how's daddy, your heart will melt and u forgot about it liao...:D
I definitely agreed to that. Usually after a hard day at work, when I reached home, my son and daughter would run up to me and give me a BIG bear hug. I really treasure those few moments when you feel their hands squeezing you.
Would never trade that for anything else.:D

[monay]

i wanted a dozen but more than happy to settle with 2.... the morning sickness is terrifying.

[song cm]

Just now don't have wat:p .

haha...u sure? :p

alka...just don say say only horr....make it happen....:)

[daBoss]

i voted 3... 2 is a little too few for my liking... with 3, you got some insurance... and not as taxing as 4... :p

[Alkapocino]

alka...just don say say only horr....make it happen....:)
Gulp! :o

[SS2006]

err...siewjang...you already have 3. Why still vote for 2?

[siewjang]

Shirlene, like I say, if i had a G & B, it already fulfill my requirement. So......... the 3rd one (*wink, wink) you know la. But I think all planned by God. God really wanted me to had this one. So I have to accept. Tell you a little of my sisters here (*sorry, side track a bit ah..)

My eldest sis had 2 girls and she really want to close shop. Then she took 6 years to think of 'pok' another boy cos she really wanted a boy. But then, still a girl. My 2nd sis had 2 boys. She also wanted to close shop but dreaming for a girl. So she say, she will 'pok' again. Where else, I already had a girl and boy. REally close shop liao. Mana tau, God wanted me to had 3. So I accept with my open arms. So, all of us have 3 childrens. hehe... see! 2 is just a company. 3 is a crowd. Even God is planning for all of us. But for my situation, 2 is just nice for me interm of time and financial. But I still can squeeze a bit for the 3rd one. It's just a temporary sacrifice. They will grow up in a blink.

[alfred98]

Shirlene, like I say, if i had a G & B, it already fulfill my requirement. So......... the 3rd one (*wink, wink) you know la. But I think all planned by God. God really wanted me to had this one. So I have to accept. Tell you a little of my sisters here (*sorry, side track a bit ah..)

My eldest sis had 2 girls and she really want to close shop. Then she took 6 years to think of 'pok' another boy cos she really wanted a boy. But then, still a girl. My 2nd sis had 2 boys. She also wanted to close shop but dreaming for a girl. So she say, she will 'pok' again. Where else, I already had a girl and boy. REally close shop liao. Mana tau, God wanted me to had 3. So I accept with my open arms. So, all of us have 3 childrens. hehe... see! 2 is just a company. 3 is a crowd. Even God is planning for all of us. But for my situation, 2 is just nice for me interm of time and financial. But I still can squeeze a bit for the 3rd one. It's just a temporary sacrifice. They will grow up in a blink.

Good one Clap! Clap! Clap!:D

[siewjang]

I really respect those with 3 kids. That is why I respect myself too. hehe... i wouldn't have make it so far if God did not interfere. But very weird la. My mil advise us to stop at 3. She say, looking after kids difficult. what for want to many children. And she see the way we suffer also she scare. hehe, at least i don't have a mil to ask me to had more, more more!

[SS2006]

I really respect those with 3 kids. That is why I respect myself too. hehe... i wouldn't have make it so far if God did not interfere. But very weird la. My mil advise us to stop at 3. She say, looking after kids difficult. what for want to many children. And she see the way we suffer also she scare. hehe, at least i don't have a mil to ask me to had more, more more!
My mil wants more, more, more...at least 7 like herself.
But my mom asks me to stop....at my 2nd pregnancy, 3+ years gap she already say too fast.

[daBoss]

the only trouble with kids is the amount of time and effort you have to spend on them... :(

but they are just lovable... especially my little girl that runs to the door to greet me every time i go back to kl... :) :) :)

[LiLiaN]

daboss, you must miss daboy and dagirl a good bit while you're away...
plus at her age, dagirl must be growing up very quickly too... :)

[Sila]

i oso vote for 2. hisham and i had a really fun childhood with the 2 of us, 2 years apart. we were close then and we are close now, so why break the system that worked well for us when we were growing up?? ;)

vin is youngest of 4 boys - he says 2 (or 3 if we can afford it)... :D any more than that, and i told him these kids better be coming out of him and not me!! :laugh:

hey kochun - we are waiting for your 10 kids hor! got pressies that we're sponsoring and everything!!! :p

[song cm]

hammerhead, any reason for 1 only?
wouldn't 1 be too few?

[athena]

haha....i tot we had a discussion on this b4?? :laugh:

[song cm]

haha....i tot we had a discussion on this b4?? :laugh:

haha...dejavu indeed....
last time no poll worr....

btw...why onli satu??

[athena]

haha...dejavu indeed....
last time no poll worr....

btw...why onli satu??
enuf la...at least can take turn and take care...... but GL wants two...hha....see first la...

[song cm]

enuf la...at least can take turn and take care...... but GL wants two...hha....see first la...

honestly...one is too few....the kid will be lonely larr....but must say second one is triple the stress....

[athena]

honestly...one is too few....the kid will be lonely larr....but must say second one is triple the stress....
hahaha...one can still hv cousins to teman wert....

[song cm]

hahaha...one can still hv cousins to teman wert....
aiseh...how often can cousin come? unless cousin aso live in the same house....not the same larr....

(GL must pay me for tryin to convince u....)

[SS2006]

enuf la...at least can take turn and take care...... but GL wants two...hha....see first la...
hahaha...one can still hv cousins to teman wert....
Siblings and cousins diff, furthermore dun stay together. Actually, with 2 child, once they are bigger they can accompany each other, so GL and you can have more private time together too, without feeling guilty of the child feeling left out.
My opinion, having 2 children of the same sex are better in the longer term as when they grow up they have more common interest. Ath, for instance both your bro share common interest, you are the one left out, rite?:D
And also i am trying to console myself for not having a girl...hehe...horr Song?:p

[song cm]

Siblings and cousins diff, furthermore dun stay together. Actually, with 2 child, once they are bigger they can accompany each other, so GL and you can have more private time together too, without feeling guilty of the child feeling left out.
My opinion, having 2 children of the same sex are better in the longer term as when they grow up they have more common interest. Ath, for instance both your bro share common interest, you are the one left out, rite?:D
And also i am trying to console myself for not having a girl...hehe...horr Song?:p

i totally agree with u....:)
ok shirlene...only way out...have 2 more girls....:eek:

[athena]

where are the folks with one child?? tarak cakap kah? VC? leslie??

[athena]

haha...maybe for GL, after one, he also tarak boleh tahan!!!

[SS2006]

where are the folks with one child?? tarak cakap kah? VC? leslie??
VC jugak mahu dua anak...bini saja tak mahu:sad-2:
Ath, go for at least 2...trust us.:)

[athena]

VC jugak mahu dua anak...bini saja tak mahu:sad-2:
Ath, go for at least 2...trust us.:)
hahaha...aiseh....i dun plan to beranak yet...hahaha....must enjoy life first...


what is the ideal age to have the first one?

[monay]

yup athena at least 2...., one too lonely, i was only child for a long time, trust me on this.... one of my neighbours told me many years later she takut to come to my house cos i would not let go home....

[song cm]

leslie aso voted for 2....

[monay]

hahaha...aiseh....i dun plan to beranak yet...hahaha....must enjoy life first...


what is the ideal age to have the first one?
before 30? younger more energetic but older moms are wiser and more patient :)

[song cm]

hahaha...aiseh....i dun plan to beranak yet...hahaha....must enjoy life first...


what is the ideal age to have the first one?

the ideal age wld be ard late 20s if u don intend to have many....if u onli want 1, early to mid 30s aso can....so plenty of time for u to enjoy.....unless of course.....accident liao....:laugh:

[athena]

before 30? younger more energetic but older moms are wiser and more patient :)
according to frens and family in the medical line, they memang advice b4 30 to hv the first child...haha.....

mana loctor alf??

[athena]

yup athena at least 2...., one too lonely, i was only child for a long time, trust me on this.... one of my neighbours told me many years later she takut to come to my house cos i would not let go home....
you dem terror la..


leslie aso voted for 2....

but leslie got only one so far!!

[monay]

according to frens and family in the medical line, they memang advice b4 30 to hv the first child...haha.....

mana loctor alf??
he is well qualified to talk bout dat,,, if after 35 and hav first child they hav a special term....

[monay]

you dem terror la..




but leslie got only one so far!!
i voted for 4 but only got 2.....:D

[athena]

i voted for 4 but only got 2.....:D
how come??

anyway, Sarah also wants four......since school times.....haha....

[monay]

how come??

anyway, Sarah also wants four......since school times.....haha....
one is too few, two is nice but still few, three is nice but odd number... i think four is best, but i am too old.....:)

[athena]

one is too few, two is nice but still few, three is nice but odd number... i think four is best, but i am too old.....:)
aiseh....b4 40 still can......


hehehe....try and hope to get twins.....:laugh:


but dino voted for more than 5...i'm so dem surprised!!!

[SS2006]

i voted for 4 but only got 2.....:D
Monay, have you stopped liao? i also should have voted for 3 then, but Song said vote for realistic one? If i were younger, i may have another, maybe in 3-4 years time, but will be too old then.:sad-2:
Ath, if have baby when you are younger much easier. My first at 26yrs old...that pregnancy very easy, stil can run and jump and worked till the last day. 2nd one at 30, so heavy and so tired...at the final month aldy diff to walk and had to take ealier leave to rest at home.

[monay]

aiseh....b4 40 still can......


hehehe....try and hope to get twins.....:laugh:


but dino voted for more than 5...i'm so dem surprised!!!
wow he better start finding the mom... my number one is thinking of a third baby and throwing out possible names, casey, freddy, eran?????:confused:

[athena]

Monay, have you stopped liao? i also should have voted for 3 then, but Song said vote for realistic one? If i were younger, i may have another, maybe in 3-4 years time, but will be too old then.:sad-2:
Ath, if have baby when you are younger much easier. My first at 26yrs old...that pregnancy very easy, stil can run and jump and worked till the last day. 2nd one at 30, so heavy and so tired...at the final month aldy diff to walk and had to take ealier leave to rest at home.
wow....if follow ur timing...i need to hv a baby next year?? :confused:

haha...no honeymoon time wor...hahaha

[monay]

Monay, have you stopped liao? i also should have voted for 3 then, but Song said vote for realistic one? If i were younger, i may have another, maybe in 3-4 years time, but will be too old then.:sad-2:
Ath, if have baby when you are younger much easier. My first at 26yrs old...that pregnancy very easy, stil can run and jump and worked till the last day. 2nd one at 30, so heavy and so tired...at the final month aldy diff to walk and had to take ealier leave to rest at home.
stop liao... more than 35 now... to old and tired... u young uns carry on :D

[monay]

ook gotta go, number one has to practice piano... nice chatting all

[athena]

wow he better start finding the mom... my number one is thinking of a third baby and throwing out possible names, casey, freddy, eran?????:confused:
haha....see, even ur son is excited..hahaha


ok....questions for the experienced moms.....for delivary....what are your preferences

1. natural (w/o epidural)
2. natural (with epidural)
3. c-section

[song cm]

haha....see, even ur son is excited..hahaha


ok....questions for the experienced moms.....for delivary....what are your preferences

1. natural (w/o epidural)
2. natural (with epidural)
3. c-section

anne pref is 2 but ended up with 3.....

[athena]

anne pref is 2 but ended up with 3.....
haha..got scar ?

[SS2006]

haha....see, even ur son is excited..hahaha


ok....questions for the experienced moms.....for delivary....what are your preferences

1. natural (w/o epidural)
2. natural (with epidural)
3. c-section
Both mine 1.

[athena]

Both mine 1.
wah........old schooll.......


on a scale of one to ten....the pain level is at ???

[song cm]

haha..got scar ?
got but not obvious....somemore no 2 operate same spot.....(more reason to have more than 1)

Both mine 1.
wah...u either superwoman or sadistic.....:laugh:

[SS2006]

got but not obvious....somemore no 2 operate same spot.....(more reason to have more than 1)


wah...u either superwoman or sadistic.....:laugh:
Not superwoman, not sadistic...just never worry much about labour at that time, just took it easy throughout the pregnancy. Somemore i gave birth in Ipoh GH (got my big bro reference to the specialist maa...), not given a choice there. But labour was ok wat...not that painful.

[song cm]

Not superwoman, not sadistic...just never worry much about labour at that time, just took it easy throughout the pregnancy. Somemore i gave birth in Ipoh GH (got my big bro reference to the specialist maa...), not given a choice there. But labour was ok wat...not that painful.

wah....like dat u did save quite some $$$....
how long was your labour?

[alfred98]

wah....like dat u did save quite some $$$....
how long was your labour?
7 days, 7 nights????:laugh: :laugh:

[SS2006]

wah....like dat u did save quite some $$$....
how long was your labour?
Labour meaning in the labour room, or after contraction started?
Long story, for the 1st baby got show but no pain, admitted to hospital but no sign of labour, then i asked for discharge but doc din allow but i insisted, then went hospital again on the 2nd night, deliver the next morning. That time still young, very brave. Now dun dare take risk like that anymore.
7 days, 7 nights????:laugh: :laugh:
You got patient like that? Like that you rich lorr...7 x RM 80 ++

[alfred98]

You got patient like that? Like that you rich lorr...7 x RM 80 ++[/QUOTE]
That's onli in movie lah...12 hours max for labour to progress. Any thing more equal to CS....:)

[athena]

That's onli in movie lah...12 hours max for labour to progress. Any thing more equal to CS....:)
so far as a ObGyn, what's the record weight of a new born?

[alfred98]

so far as a ObGyn, what's the record weight of a new born?
5.5kg..:)

[athena]

5.5kg..:)
wah....more than 12 pounds.....

natural birth??

[alfred98]

wah....more than 12 pounds.....

natural birth??
Unfortunately the mum is human so, CS lah....crazy meh....:)

[SS2006]

5.5kg..:)
Wow!!!:amazed: My 1st 3kg, 2nd 3.7 kg stomach already so big!
wah........old schooll.......


on a scale of one to ten....the pain level is at ???
Dun know how to scale larr, no std to compare with. Guess it all depend on personal pain tolerance level. Mine like a bad menstrual pain which i used to experience during teenage time, still tolerable.
A friend of mine describe the pain as this...she was once admitted to hospital for dengue...she said dengue many many times worse than childbirth. I never had dengue, so i cannot comment.

[alfred98]

Wow!!!:amazed: My 1st 3kg, 2nd 3.7 kg stomach already so big!
The 3rd one 4.3kg liao....:)
Dun know how to scale larr, no std to compare with. Guess it all depend on personal pain tolerance level. Mine like a bad menstrual pain which i used to experience during teenage time, still tolerable.
A friend of mine describe the pain as this...she was once admitted to hospital for dengue...she said dengue many many times worse than childbirth. I never had dengue, so i cannot comment.
Dengue fever got pain meh...onli feels sick lah...pain in the bone that's all.. Labour pain is the most painful of all pain ever felt by a lady....I did say for man is what pain right--guessss.

[song cm]

Dengue fever got pain meh...onli feels sick lah...pain in the bone that's all.. Labour pain is the most painful of all pain ever felt by a lady....I did say for man is what pain right--guessss.

for men...pain when got kicked down there?? :laugh:
or tooth-ache....

[alfred98]

for men...pain when got kicked down there?? :laugh:
or tooth-ache....
Ahhhhh! Wrong!!!:laugh:

[SS2006]

Dengue fever got pain meh...onli feels sick lah...pain in the bone that's all.. Labour pain is the most painful of all pain ever felt by a lady....I did say for man is what pain right--guessss.
Dun scare Ath laa... i think not that painful. At least mine not induced, so its pain , subside, pain, subside...still tolerable.

[song cm]

Ahhhhh! Wrong!!!:laugh:

haha...i know....

tai tai isit?? :laugh: :amazed:

[alfred98]

Dun scare Ath laa... i think not that painful. At least mine not induced, so its pain , subside, pain, subside...still tolerable.
That's depends on pain tolerance lah. But is the the most painful expercience...:blink:

[athena]

Dun scare Ath laa... i think not that painful. At least mine not induced, so its pain , subside, pain, subside...still tolerable.
dun worry la shirlene.....ada masa lagi....plus....if really cannot tahan...still got epidural....:laugh:

[song cm]

Dun scare Ath laa... i think not that painful. At least mine not induced, so its pain , subside, pain, subside...still tolerable.
dat way...go for epidural....the onli pain wld be coming from the pocket....:laugh:

[alfred98]

haha...i know....

tai tai isit?? :laugh: :amazed:
?? but is something to do with wee wee...:D

[athena]

?? but is something to do with wee wee...:D
urinal tract infection??? like what tom hanks got in Green Mile/?

[alfred98]

dun worry la shirlene.....ada masa lagi....plus....if really cannot tahan...still got epidural....:laugh:
Then CS lor...pain for 1/52 lor....little bit onli mah...:D

[SS2006]

dun worry la shirlene.....ada masa lagi....plus....if really cannot tahan...still got epidural....:laugh:
Epidural got side-effect. My colleague use epidural, she doesn't know when to push because cannot feel the contraction, and got bad backache after childbirth...could be due to epidural:unsure: Doc, any comment?
That's why i din go for epidural, everything natural. Already walking ard a few hours after childbirth....that time still young maa,..

[alfred98]

urinal tract infection??? like what tom hanks got in Green Mile/?
Tom Hank got kidney stone lah not UTI...cleber girl....:)

[athena]

Then CS lor...pain for 1/52 lor....little bit onli mah...:D
if possible...i won't opt for CS lor.....

[SS2006]

That's depends on pain tolerance lah. But is the the most painful expercience...:blink:
My most painful experience was when i broke my arm when i was eight years old.:laugh:

[song cm]

Epidural got side-effect. My colleague use epidural, she doesn't know when to push because cannot feel the contraction, and got bad backache after childbirth...could be due to epidural:unsure: Doc, any comment?
That's why i din go for epidural, everything natural. Already walking ard a few hours after childbirth....that time still young maa,..

not proven...i think...
backache cld be due to the pregnancy itself.....

mrs had epidural...so far ok....

[athena]

Tom Hank got kidney stone lah not UTI...cleber girl....:)
ok la ....got half correct :laugh: http://community.the-underdogs.org/smiley/happy/flash.gif

[alfred98]

Epidural got side-effect. My colleague use epidural, she doesn't know when to push because cannot feel the contraction, and got bad backache after childbirth...could be due to epidural:unsure: Doc, any comment?
That's why i din go for epidural, everything natural. Already walking ard a few hours after childbirth....that time still young maa,..
Epidural do cause this prolonged second stage of labour...we did this study in UH..But back ache cause by this is a myth no prove so far...If a lady destinated for back ache, no matter how she deliver or what she will get it!!!:squeeze:

[athena]

not proven...i think...
backache cld be due to the pregnancy itself.....

mrs had epidural...so far ok....
tot anne went for CS??

[alfred98]

if possible...i won't opt for CS lor.....
Yah but my fellow frend just now mention this advantage of CS....that is maintain the instruments original...:)

[alfred98]

ok la ....got half correct :laugh: http://community.the-underdogs.org/smiley/happy/flash.gif
Yah u got ang pow lor....:laugh:

[athena]

Yah but my fellow frend just now mention this advantage of CS....that is maintain the instruments original...:)
is that true???? tot it's just a myth???

anyway, to get the 'instrument' back to shape...got cara cara tradisional wan....no ah??

[SS2006]

not proven...i think...
backache cld be due to the pregnancy itself.....

mrs had epidural...so far ok....
Anne had epidural, then CS? Poor thing, must be a long labour. I think the worst case scenario is to suffer long labour, then suffer CS again. If i wanted CS, i would go straight for it before contraction start, so that no need to suffer both.

[song cm]

tot anne went for CS??

cs and epidural....:(

[alfred98]

is that true???? tot it's just a myth???

anyway, to get the 'instrument' back to shape...got cara cara tradisional wan....no ah??
Maybe had to do study on malay lady...They are really something lah...after delivery instrument still looks original...:)

[SS2006]

Yah but my fellow frend just now mention this advantage of CS....that is maintain the instruments original...:)
Do pelvic floor exercise lorr...still can maintain a little.

[song cm]

Anne had epidural, then CS? Poor thing, must be a long labour. I think the worst case scenario is to suffer long labour, then suffer CS again. If i wanted CS, i would go straight for it before contraction start, so that no need to suffer both.

yeah....very true....
matt was c section by advise....so, for mark, she wanted to try natural....therefore had epidural....long labour...6 hrs....minimal dilation...mark's heartbeat gettin weaker...so, no choice at the end.....

[athena]

Maybe had to do study on malay lady...They are really something lah...after delivery instrument still looks original...:)
hahaha...you do that....then publish it.....i'm sure manyak hubbies would buy for their wifeys....:laugh:

[song cm]

whatever it is....i think if go for CS just to preserve instruments...abit on the extreme larr......

[alfred98]

Do pelvic floor exercise lorr...still can maintain a little.
Yes this is the only way except surgery...If wanna CS from 1st till the end must be CS...Don't try try from begining..:)

[alfred98]

hahaha...you do that....then publish it.....i'm sure manyak hubbies would buy for their wifeys....:laugh:
Don't know may be their food or the way of thier pantang and massage....
whatever it is....i think if go for CS just to preserve instruments...abit on the extreme larr......
Yah all those VIP movie stars and who's and who's all for this.. Why not others...
In USA-CS rate reaching 50%...:)

[Chris C]

Me, both CS.....no choice cos' both my gals were bridges...loctor, correct spelling or not?

[alfred98]

Me, both CS.....no choice cos' both my gals were bridges...loctor, correct spelling or not?
:laugh: :laugh: Bridge Over River Kwan!!!! Breech lahhhh...OK no laughing...slapping myself hahahahaha

[Chris C]

:laugh: :laugh: Bridge Over River Kwan!!!! Breech lahhhh...OK no laughing...slapping myself hahahahaha
.......ya, slap harder and more :p .......kenot remember mah....me no deal with medical words like u.......but i did a good thing didn't i?...made u laughed so much....:D

[athena]

so much slapping action here...

<stop thinking serong, athena, stop thinking serong.....ok...better still stop thinking>


WITCHKING...WHERE ARE YOU???

[alfred98]

so much slapping action here...

<stop thinking serong, athena, stop thinking serong.....ok...better still stop thinking>


WITCHKING...WHERE ARE YOU???
Sadist!!!:blink:

[andrewjpan]

what's breech?

:blink:

[alfred98]

what's breech?

:blink:
When your future wife get pregnant then U will understand!!!:laugh:

[andrewjpan]

that's a long time to wait!!

[alfred98]

that's a long time to wait!!
You are talking, what about accidents and emergency wedding!!!:laugh:

[athena]

hehe...is breech case...itu bayi terbalik?

[alfred98]

hehe...is breech case...itu bayi terbalik?
Yap!!!!:)

[andrewjpan]

You are talking, what about accidents and emergency wedding!!!

ummm.... what's all that?

:laugh:

[athena]

ummm.... what's all that?

:laugh:
it means..."ALAMAK"

[andrewjpan]

it means..."ALAMAK"
hehe