Fences Makes Good Neighbours!

[athena]

Do you think that we need to draw a boundary? Or without fences relationships would flourish better??

[SS2006]

Do you think that we need to draw a boundary? Or without fences relationships would flourish better??
Ath, please elaborate. Physical fence or emotional fence?

[siewjang]

I think Athena is talking about the real fence. Rumah punya fence.

[athena]

physical as well as emotional lor...

[athena]

I think Athena is talking about the real fence. Rumah punya fence.
real fence as well as emotional la jang.

it's about u setting a boundary. which you should not cross!!

[SS2006]

Rumah punya fence - bungalow, terrace house got fence, but condo, apartment no fence.
Emotional fence, I think everyone (except young children, maybe) has it.
Even now we are putting on our cyber fence :p

[song cm]

physical....definitely yes.....emotionally, don understand, dunno how to quantify....

[WitchKing]

real fence as well as emotional la jang.

it's about u setting a boundary. which you should not cross!!


My fence one jump you can be in my compound oledi! My fence is purely aesthetic in nature.

I dont have an emotional fence since having concrete and cement in my bloodstream i have been told is not good for my health.

[Voon Chan]

I personally prefer fence.

Take for example, a gated community in M'sia, neigbour are always inconsiderate & busy body. We will have no privacy & peace.

[SS2006]

My fence one jump you can be in my compound oledi! My fence is purely aesthetic in nature.

I dont have an emotional fence since having concrete and cement in my bloodstream i have been told is not good for my health.
Definitely got emotional fence. Do you want everybody to know what you're thinking? Luckily got cyber fence now, otherwise you won't like wat i'm thinking about you right now! :p

[Voon Chan]

My fence one jump you can be in my compound oledi! My fence is purely aesthetic in nature.

I dont have an emotional fence since having concrete and cement in my bloodstream i have been told is not good for my health.:laugh: , you joker!

[Oddfather]

Physical fences are good. But not the ones that are really high. I like to have the feeling of space, since I am so enclosed in the office the whole day, so naturally, when I am home, I like to be in the garden with open space.

[SS2006]

Physical fences are good. But not the ones that are really high. I like to have the feeling of space, since I am so enclosed in the office the whole day, so naturally, when I am home, I like to be in the garden with open space.
Fences that are too high and too enclosed do encourage burglars. When I was in Ipoh, there were many break-ins in the neighbourhood but neighbours dun realise because cannot see.

[athena]

you ppl ah..dunno purposely or not :sus:

what i mean, physically is that you segregate a physical space between you and your friend.. not fence design, high or low, white or brown...those la

[Oddfather]

Fences that are too high and too enclosed do encourage burglars. When I was in Ipoh, there were many break-ins in the neighbourhood but neighbours dun realise because cannot see.

Got this tip from Bukit Aman. Place a "Beware of Dogs" sign on the gate/fences regardless whether you have a dog. Burglars are very afraid of dogs, not only they bark, they bite too. They do not want to take any chances.

[WitchKing]

Got this tip from Bukit Aman. Place a "Beware of Dogs" sign on the gate/fences regardless whether you have a dog. Burglars are very afraid of dogs, not only they bark, they bite too. They do not want to take any chances.

...i dun think that will work for me........so I installed alarm system and make sure the siren is prominently seen.

[SS2006]

you ppl ah..dunno purposely or not :sus:

what i mean, physically is that you segregate a physical space between you and your friend.. not fence design, high or low, white or brown...those la
They claim that dun understand wat is emotional fence, worr...
We put on diff fence for diff people.

[athena]

ok la my bad...

do you think, physically drawing up a personal space..between you and your fren, will help make the relationship better or will it stop it from growing more intimate?

[SS2006]

...i dun think that will work for me........so I installed alarm system and make sure the siren is prominently seen.
False alarm always go off until people immune liao. I put alarm only when sleeping, not when we are not at home. It's to protect lives not properties.

[Oddfather]

...i dun think that will work for me........so I installed alarm system and make sure the siren is prominently seen.

I also have alarm in my house and with the dog sign, double enfornment, ma!!

I am sorry this idea doesn't work for you bcoz, I think Muslims are not allowed to have dogs at home, rite? I stand to be corrected.

[SS2006]

ok la my bad...

do you think, physically drawing up a personal space..between you and your fren, will help make the relationship better or will it stop it from growing more intimate?
Depends on how close a relationship is. But with colleagues, I definitely put some personal space. If they know too much about you, might cause some back-stabbing.

[WitchKing]

I also have alarm in my house and with the dog sign, double enfornment, ma!!

I am sorry this idea doesn't work for you bcoz, I think Muslims are not allowed to have dogs at home, rite? I stand to be corrected.

..Please please dont stand and sit down and make yourself comfytushieable....on the fence if you'd like...as for the statement, i know of one muslim friend whose 'mazhab' (islamic thinking denomination) allows him to keep dogs in the house. Unfortunately this country does not follow that mazhab prominently.

[daBoss]

physical fences are definitely needed... in malaysia you get all sorts of people for neighbours...

[SS2006]

physical fences are definitely needed... in malaysia you get all sorts of people for neighbours...
Boss, Ath not talking about physical fences,laa....

[daBoss]

alamak... sure or not...

in the first couple of posts, she said both... :)

[SS2006]

alamak... sure or not...

in the first couple of posts, she said both... :)
See post #14

[suliet]

ok la my bad...

do you think, physically drawing up a personal space..between you and your fren, will help make the relationship better or will it stop it from growing more intimate?
It depends on a lot of factors, Athena. What sort of friend, what kind of treatment, what kind of response from the other person and so on, then only you know what type of 'fence' you want to build between you and your friend lor.

[PreciousPearl]

maybe to clarify (imho):

personal space = how physically near to you someone can stand or sit without making you feel uncomfortable. this distance could be related to how well you know them or whether you are intimate with them.

comfort zone = the extent of ease which you feel in discussing certain topics or making certain decisions. this varies with the person with whom you are conversing and the subject matter. could also vary with time (as anyone is entitled to change their minds)

wot u think, dear folks?

[amelia7]

on the first count....yep! There may some people whom we may not be able to stand for various reasons....so the space is needed. Kudos to those who can stand everyone for theirs is really a humble heart.

comfort zone....you're right again. can't deny that most of us need that too. Not everyone is able to accept what we say. I am sure we also find it difficult to accept everything hurled, pushed, nudged (whatever way you want to put it) to us. And also, too many variables involved here..so i'll agree with you that this is also a need.
maybe to clarify (imho):

personal space = how physically near to you someone can stand or sit without making you feel uncomfortable. this distance could be related to how well you know them or whether you are intimate with them.

comfort zone = the extent of ease which you feel in discussing certain topics or making certain decisions. this varies with the person with whom you are conversing and the subject matter. could also vary with time (as anyone is entitled to change their minds)

wot u think, dear folks?

[athena]

maybe to clarify (imho):

personal space = how physically near to you someone can stand or sit without making you feel uncomfortable. this distance could be related to how well you know them or whether you are intimate with them.

comfort zone = the extent of ease which you feel in discussing certain topics or making certain decisions. this varies with the person with whom you are conversing and the subject matter. could also vary with time (as anyone is entitled to change their minds)

wot u think, dear folks?
thanks PP, this is what i wanna say....:)