[closed]What's the greatest regret in your life??

[Sarah]

I'm sure we all have... things that we've always wanted to do, or pursue, but because of circumstances, we are deprived from the chance of doing it... or maybe we just weren't meant for it anyway... just share...

[Sarah]

I’ll share mine first…

Lately, I was seriously questioning if the field that I am in now (both study and work), is the field that I really want to do…considering the amount of stress I have (and will have) should I make a mistake, I can kill lives.. :(

As I was thinking what are the things that I’m truly comfortable in doing, and the things that I’m gifted with…what are my talents???

It dawned upon me that, I’m not an intellectual person, rather I’m a more artistic person with lots of emotions…

My secret dream was to be either a gymnast, dancer, ballet dancer, figure-skating and synchronized swimmer.. :)

But I will never ever get to be any of these… :sad-2:

[buff]

I’ll share mine first…

Lately, I was seriously questioning if the field that I am in now (both study and work), is the field that I really want to do…considering the amount of stress I have (and will have) should I make a mistake, I can kill lives.. :(

As I was thinking what are the things that I’m truly comfortable in doing, and the things that I’m gifted with…what are my talents???

It dawned upon me that, I’m not an intellectual person, rather I’m a more artistic person with lots of emotions…

My secret dream was to be either a gymnast, dancer, ballet dancer, figure-skating and synchronized swimmer.. :)

But I will never ever get to be any of these…

why not? it's never too late. :)

but the prob u r facing now is a result of our lack of career counselling, especially in a small town like s'wan. the teacher in charge of counselling was more interested to get people to join his tuition class! :wacko:

i remember that since young, i was told that i should aim to be a doctor, as doctors are well respected in s'wan. then when i found out that i can't stand the sight of blood and that my mom can't afford to send me to study medicine privately should i not get into local uni, i switched subject.

2nd choice was to be a lawyer - as, again, lawyers in s'wan make tonnes of money. 3rd was to be engineer. and finally, if can't make the above 3, still ok to be accountant. i ended up with the last option.

having come to kl, gone abroad and seen the world, i realised that career choices are not limited to the 'professional' class... i first heard of 'actuarial science' during a-levels in kl. only after i joined a professional firm, did i realise that investment banking is very lucrative. also, no one advised me to start working overseas first before coming back. therefore i had to 'suffer' here working as a slave, when i could have enjoyed myself overseas and get paid a lot more.

regrets? yes, maybe a few. but, for me, personally, everything happened for a reason. anyway, can't change the past, so just have to make the best of what i'm doing now.

but if someone were to come to me for advice on career, i'll tell him/her exactly what not to do!

[Sarah]

yeah.. u r rite..everything happens for a reason... maybe if I had the chance, i'll not think likewise...

but i really think those are my talents... which I was never given a chance to explore!

[buff]

yeah.. u r rite..everything happens for a reason... maybe if I had the chance, i'll not think likewise...

but i really think those are my talents... which I was never given a chance to explore!

but u can still take them up as hobbies/leisure activities. maybe u'll enjoy them more as u dun make a career out of them. e.g. i enjoy playing the piano in my free time, but i may not enjoy practising 8 hours a day on it to prepare for the next performance. :wacko:

[LiLiaN]

living abroad taught me not to measure career success by just the salary package (although it does help to earn well)... try to follow as closely to your desire...

everyone has regrets, but none that i think hold much significance in my life... i can't always look back to wonder what is going right or going wrong... just got to make the most out of what i have at present...

[buff]

living abroad taught me not to measure career success by just the salary package (although it does help to earn well)... try to follow as closely to your desire...

it's definitely easier to do so overseas. i used to think like that (which is why i only started working when i was 25) until i came back to work here. it's very difficult to do that in a materialistic society like m'sia. :(

[Sarah]

exactly... we cant... we just have to make the best out of what we have for now...

but hey... i don't want the advises... hehe...rather.. i just want u guys to share what are your regrets ler.. :)

[LiLiaN]

it's definitely easier to do so overseas. i used to think like that (which is why i only started working when i was 25) until i came back to work here. it's very difficult to do that in a materialistic society like m'sia. :(sadly, yeah, that's what i've been told by many of my friends... hey, i'm 25 this year and still studying! i count myself extremely lucky that i get to choose my path the way i want it... not sure if i go back to malaysia, can i survive under those materialistic conditions... :unsure:

[buff]

sadly, yeah, that's what i've been told by many of my friends... hey, i'm 25 this year and still studying! i count myself extremely lucky that i get to choose my path the way i want it... not sure if i go back to malaysia, can i survive under those materialistic conditions... :unsure:

i have a fren (dabass and crieria know him also) in the uk working as a researcher post his phd and earning very decent money but moans every time we meet up that he's no where compared to the rest of his frens in m'sia. i always tell him to stay there for as long as he can...

[LiLiaN]

i have a fren (dabass and crieria know him also) in the uk working as a researcher post his phd and earning very decent money but moans every time we meet up that he's no where compared to the rest of his frens in m'sia. i always tell him to stay there for as long as he can...everyone is as successful as he/she thinks he/she is (imho)... there's always others who are seemingly more successful than us all the time, so why compare? be content and all is good... life is good... :D

[Sarah]

yeah, there's really nothing to compare... all u ever want is to be contented with what u have and what u r doing now.

[Sarah]

haha... a thought just came through my mind when I was firguring out what some men would answer if they were being asked this question...

im sure some will say.. the greatest regret i have is not being able to have more than 1 wife and have kids from different wives..... haha...

[LiLiaN]

i somehow don't think guys would say that... who wants more headache with more wives and kids that they can handle..?

[Sarah]

haha... u may never know.. ur perception is that wives bring troubles.. but in a way u r right of course.. when women and women get together..they can really be nasty to one another...

but there are guys whose fantasies are to have more than 1 woman.. hehe.. :h:

[LiLiaN]

no, not that, my concern is more on the poor guy having to earn a whole lot more to be able to keep the "families"...!

[Sarah]

During my engagement party during CNY... my uncle has a friend in JB (if im not mistaken)... he came for my engagement party (well, the sub-purpose of the party is also like a gathering for my family members laa)..
so this friend.. brought 2 ladies..and I could not believe my ears when I was told that the 2 ladies, are the man's wives!! and both of them are like best friends..and they are really good to each other!!

man... how things evolve!!

[LiLiaN]

that's a rarity i believe... by the way, if they're both his wives, isn't that illegal in malaysia...?

[Sarah]

no, not that, my concern is more on the poor guy having to earn a whole lot more to be able to keep the "families"...!

hehe.. what if they can afford it?

[Sarah]

that's a rarity i believe...

i really dun understand... are they normal or what??

[LiLiaN]

hehe.. what if they can afford it?all i can say is best of luck to them!

[Sarah]

that's a rarity i believe... by the way, if they're both his wives, isn't that illegal in malaysia...?

I don't think its illegal... just that, for non-malays, only one will be a registered wife lor... or perhaps.. both of them are not legally married to this man... just to be fair..

[LiLiaN]

i really dun understand... are they normal or what??i mean it's rare to have a man with his wives being happy with each other's presence and be good friends...

[LiLiaN]

I don't think its illegal... just that, for non-malays, only one will be a registered wife lor... or perhaps.. both of them are not legally married to this man... just to be fair..ah, i thought they're both legally married, assuming the guy is non-malay...

[Sarah]

ah, i thought they're both legally married, assuming the guy is non-malay...

yeap... the 2 cannot be legally married.. ;)

[Sarah]

so, lilian.. is there anything u want to do, but never had a chance to do it? :)

[Lava Gal]

Wow! Juz 1 hour plus...and so many pages ready ;)

[Sarah]

Hey Lavanya, you are here.. good..we can chat.. :)

[LiLiaN]

so, lilian.. is there anything u want to do, but never had a chance to do it? :)there are plenty, but i'm working my way in getting some of them achieved so there's no regrets there for sure...

the only possible remote regret is not taking up my offer for medicine, but the fees was just too prohibitive... never mind though, as i'm still in the relevant field so should i finish my PhD and decide to go for it, i still can...

as for everything else, should i ever feel like i lose out for not doing them, i'll just find a way to get them done...

[Sarah]

that's a great spirit u have there... :)

[Sarah]

As i've mentioned.. im not someone who's intelligent and smart and fast.. etc... at work.. sometimes, I really feel I'm darn slow and foolish...

last Thurs, my supervisor gave me a piece of his mind ( i guess due to his mood), and after that... as emotional as I am.. i couldnt contain myself,hid myself in the toilet for a while just to let it out.. so, i cried and cried.. thinking why am I not smarter???

[LiLiaN]

i try... obviously there are times when i did feel very defeated, when things went awry, as if there was no ending to these run of unlucky streaks... that's when i have to remind myself, i have to be strong because i'm doing it for me... sounds a tad selfish perhaps, but we have to love ourselves first before we can extend the same consideration to others... :)

[Sarah]

ooh... in a way, i am quite amazed at myself nowadays.. i used to be worse!!... but yeah, try as I may to be strong.. yet, its hard for me NOT to be emotional... i'm a cry-baby.. that's what I dislike abt myself... i just cant contain myself..

[LiLiaN]

As i've mentioned.. im not someone who's intelligent and smart and fast.. etc... at work.. sometimes, I really feel I'm darn slow and foolish...

last Thurs, my supervisor gave me a piece of his mind ( i guess due to his mood), and after that... as emotional as I am.. i couldnt contain myself,hid myself in the toilet for a while just to let it out.. so, i cried and cried.. thinking why am I not smarter???hey, don't feel like that... we all work hard for what we have... i'm not exactly a genius either and there are times it took me a long while to get the hang of something... we all do...

just do your best, and you'll see the fruit of success soon... :)

[Sarah]

its just not easy... truly.. doing a further degree... all the way up to PhD is really not an easy task.. we really reap what we sow..

its not the education that's hard... its the people that we meet with.. people who are bound to bring out the worst in you if you don't stand up for yourself..ppl who can be so nasty to u.. ppl's who'se not easy to get along with..

if only we can always have nice ppl around us, encouraging and supporting us.. unfortunately.. life is bound to be hard... we just need to learn to press on...

[Lava Gal]

artie & lilz....interesting conversation going on here...wud luv 2 join...sigh...its thundreing & lightnining here...have 2 disconnect my modem, 2 prevent any mishaps...will come bek later..if u gals still here...iv got lots 2 say too :p hehe

[LiLiaN]

ah... office politics... definitely not easy... i'm lucky that my working environment is always pleasant and not stressful... probably because everyone works on very different projects...

there are labs where everyone's project very similar to one another, so there's a fierce sense of competition going at all time...

look on the bright side... you have a beautiful family, very good and loyal friends (like ath), a supportive fiance... now who's the lucky one? ;)

[LiLiaN]

artie & lilz....interesting conversation going on here...wud luv 2 join...sigh...its thundreing & lightnining here...have 2 disconnect my modem, 2 prevent any mishaps...will come bek later..if u gals still here...iv got lots 2 say too :p heheoh... sounds like a really bad weather there... i'll be here, since i'm stuck at work...

[Sarah]

artie & lilz....interesting conversation going on here...wud luv 2 join...sigh...its thundreing & lightnining here...have 2 disconnect my modem, 2 prevent any mishaps...will come bek later..if u gals still here...iv got lots 2 say too :p hehe

ggosh.. u better come back later... lots of hassle if the lighting ever strikes and destroy your modem... cya later!

[Sarah]

ah... office politics... definitely not easy... i'm lucky that my working environment is always pleasant and not stressful... probably because everyone works on very different projects...

there are labs where everyone's project very similar to one another, so there's a fierce sense of competition going at all time...

look on the bright side... you have a beautiful family, very good and loyal friends (like ath), a supportive fiance... now who's the lucky one? ;)

well... yeah... i should always look at the brighter side... that's a real sense of happiness knowing that i have so much that's even more valuable...

Im just quite stressed out.. and affected as my wedding is getting nearer and nearer, yet I can't do anything unless I finish my masters..

[LiLiaN]

well... yeah... i should always look at the brighter side... that's a real sense of happiness knowing that i have so much that's even more valuable...

Im just quite stressed out.. and affected as my wedding is getting nearer and nearer, yet I can't do anything unless I finish my masters..when is the big day planned for..? maybe try not to get too stressed out (i know it's easy for me to say but tough for you) as worrying too much will only sap the energy out of you and not helping in accomplishing anything...

try to channel these energy more positively into doing something more productive... as for wedding planning, i'm sure your family and your friends are more than happy to lend a helping hand... that way, you can for now concentrate in completing your masters, even if that means working a little overtime at weekend or something... it'll be all worth it...

[Sarah]

when is the big day planned for..? maybe try not to get too stressed out (i know it's easy for me to say but tough for you) as worrying too much will only sap the energy out of you and not helping in accomplishing anything...

try to channel these energy more positively into doing something more productive... as for wedding planning, i'm sure your family and your friends are more than happy to lend a helping hand... that way, you can for now concentrate in completing your masters, even if that means working a little overtime at weekend or something... it'll be all worth it...

its on the 18th of Feb next year.. :) thanks alot for all these... it is really encouraging... :)

[Dino]

Greatest regret in life....hmmmm.....being the number one sperm to fertilize the egg!!!! :eek: :laugh:

[Lava Gal]

As i've mentioned.. im not someone who's intelligent and smart and fast.. etc... at work.. sometimes, I really feel I'm darn slow and foolish...

last Thurs, my supervisor gave me a piece of his mind ( i guess due to his mood), and after that... as emotional as I am.. i couldnt contain myself,hid myself in the toilet for a while just to let it out.. so, i cried and cried.. thinking why am I not smarter???
Well, have to learn to have faith in ourselves (as ur old signature said, Artie). build up d faith...though the nagging doubt will still persist, and rear its head 4m time to time. Because the more self-doubt we have, the further our self-esteem will be eroded.

I completely understand what u mean, especially when there r alwiyz people who are smarter, better, more efficient than u...or when too much is expected...and u feel drained...but nahhhh we dun have to compare ourselves with others! knowing we r doing our best, and giving it our all...tatz what matters to me nowdays.

artie..i used to think so too...i knew very well my weakest point was i was a crybaby...up till 1 year ago. imagine, during the first 2.5yrs in IMU, each time i go home i'd end up shedding tears :cheesy: does seem a tad ridiculous now, but there were many issues, and feeling that ur family didnt understand was hard. it was like i was cursed with problems getting along wif people..my esteem was crushed...and i engrossed myself in studies and kept busy. but each time i was home, relaxed...mind start to assimilate & analyze things...and :crying: coz when tries sharing, ended up i was blamed, and told to be more easygoing & not paranoid.

[Sarah]

hahaha... ohh u poor Dino... u r sad for being a winner!! :)

[Lava Gal]

Greatest regret in life....hmmmm.....being the number one sperm to fertilize the egg!!!! :eek: :laugh:
haha...have to agree with this one lar:p
if that didnt occur...they'd be no room for any other regrets;)

[Sarah]

artie..i used to think so too...i knew very well my weakest point was i was a crybaby...up till 1 year ago. imagine, during the first 2.5yrs in IMU, each time i go home i'd end up shedding tears :cheesy: does seem a tad ridiculous now, but there were many issues, and feeling that ur family didnt understand was hard. it was like i was cursed with problems getting along wif people..my esteem was crushed...and i engrossed myself in studies and kept busy. but each time i was home, relaxed...mind start to assimilate & analyze things...and :crying: coz when tries sharing, ended up i was blamed, and told to be more easygoing & not paranoid.

ohh..there there lavanya... at least know that, there are ppl who can really be a good friend to you, and that should you need them... you can find them.. but I'm glad you are better now..

im just researching for books to read on emotional intelligence and emotional maturity... any books to recommend?

[Dino]

hahaha... ohh u poor Dino... u r sad for being a winner!! :)

Yah loor....hehheehe....ok jokes aside....biggest regret in life....hmmm...lets see....that i did not go to the States right after i finish my SPM. I know i did end up here anyhow, but if i could change it, i would do it straight after SPM when i had the chance. My parents had it all planned but somehow i feel i will miss home too much and acted stupidly....but i did finally make right on that decision!!! ;)

[Sarah]

Yah loor....hehheehe....ok jokes aside....biggest regret in life....hmmm...lets see....that i did not go to the States right after i finish my SPM. I know i did end up here anyhow, but if i could change it, i would do it straight after SPM when i had the chance. My parents had it all planned but somehow i feel i will miss home too much and acted stupidly....but i did finally make right on that decision!!! ;)

hm.. yeah.. at least you finally did... :) and are enjoying every single bit of your life over there that you dun even want to come back!! hehe..

[Lava Gal]

ohh..there there lavanya... at least know that, there are ppl who can really be a good friend to you, and that should you need them... you can find them.. but I'm glad you are better now..

im just researching for books to read on emotional intelligence and emotional maturity... any books to recommend?
do go check out the thread Literary Genius...i was mentioning some good books ter yest

YUP...good frenz come...when u least expect them;)

we all get better thru our experience;)

[LiLiaN]

Yah loor....hehheehe....ok jokes aside....biggest regret in life....hmmm...lets see....that i did not go to the States right after i finish my SPM. but if you did that, you'd missed out on the fun time you had with jc peeling potatoes? :p

[Lava Gal]

its just not easy... truly.. doing a further degree... all the way up to PhD is really not an easy task.. we really reap what we sow..

its not the education that's hard... its the people that we meet with.. people who are bound to bring out the worst in you if you don't stand up for yourself..ppl who can be so nasty to u.. ppl's who'se not easy to get along with..

if only we can always have nice ppl around us, encouraging and supporting us.. unfortunately.. life is bound to be hard... we just need to learn to press on...
Artie...i notice that we have similar kindof experience..and me too turned to books for consolation, coz though there r good frenz, they arent alwiyz available...books/quotes can be referred to when needed.

exactly! as i mentioned b4...when i feel down, i tend to complain that studies' stressful etc...while real reason is PEOPLE...and must constantly remind ourselves not to fall prey to being one of them, coz if we do, they'd be no difference btw us and those nasty people...as long as we have a clear conscience...and a good heart...as what Lilz mentioned to me yest, just be urself:D

but sumtimes d problem in life is whom to believe...its a man-eat-man world! not onli in offices, even while studying oso so much of politics...sigh...just play my role lo.

life is indeed a challenge, a kind teacher...though its hard to believe, because we r given the same lessons over & over again, till we learn it well.
the one thing that i dun understand is when similar things happen again & again..well, true enuff i handle/cope better based on previous experience...but over time fear i will loose faith in ppl, after being backstabbed by people i trust, over the yrs...over & over again...so far still surviving....but fear some day might isolate myself 4m whole world, coz lost trust in mankind dee:p

[Dino]

artie..i used to think so too...i knew very well my weakest point was i was a crybaby...up till 1 year ago. imagine, during the first 2.5yrs in IMU, each time i go home i'd end up shedding tears :cheesy: does seem a tad ridiculous now, but there were many issues, and feeling that ur family didnt understand was hard. it was like i was cursed with problems getting along wif people..my esteem was crushed...and i engrossed myself in studies and kept busy. but each time i was home, relaxed...mind start to assimilate & analyze things...and :crying: coz when tries sharing, ended up i was blamed, and told to be more easygoing & not paranoid.

Lav, if i am wrong on this i apologize but i would say this to you.
The reason this is happening is because of 2 things.
1) You take to heart people's opinion about you.
2) You sorta in a way pratice self-pity(i've been there myself)....

I can tell you that i was theading along these lines when i was in my 20's and that 2 things can break you to the core. Since i came to the US, i learn that you need tell people to F*** Off if they intrude on your life. If you are not doing anything wrong(eg. you gave advise and people say you show off), people have got no right to judge you. If they judge you, well, tell them to FO....

Secondly, self pity....a horrible,horrible thing to have. I use to do that a lot. Self pity is like a chain of pitifuless of youself, once you get a hold of this chain, you keep pulling the chin till no end, and the next thing you know, you are in such a dire state of emotional shit that you feel yourself worthless.
Nowadays, when i think of something that make me depress, i straight away think of other things, it comes with pratice. Trust me, its worth it to master the art of letting go of your self-pity subjects. My life has been great once i master this.

So learn to say FO and let go of your self pity attitude. :)

[Lava Gal]

hm.. yeah.. at least you finally did... :) and are enjoying every single bit of your life over there that you dun even want to come back!! hehe..
exactly my thoughts ;)

dino...what were u doing before that actually? peeling potatoes ;)...was it some kindof food related course??

[Dino]

but if you did that, you'd missed out on the fun time you had with jc peeling potatoes? :p

You know whats funny, it wasn't even a practical class of peeling potatoes, it was just a theory class of peeling potatoes :eek:. JCWong freaked out on the first day of class!!! :laugh:

[Dino]

exactly my thoughts ;)

dino...what were u doing before that actually? peeling potatoes ;)...was it some kindof food related course??

I was in Hotel School..... :o

[LiLiaN]

You know whats funny, it wasn't even a practical class of peeling potatoes, it was just a theory class of peeling potatoes :eek:. JCWong freaked out on the first day of class!!! :laugh:really? and here i am, thinking you guys must have been given tons to peel! but hey, you had some good sauce recipe back in the recipe thread, so there must have been some advantage, right..? ;)

[buff]

Yah loor....hehheehe....ok jokes aside....biggest regret in life....hmmm...lets see....that i did not go to the States right after i finish my SPM. I know i did end up here anyhow, but if i could change it, i would do it straight after SPM when i had the chance. My parents had it all planned but somehow i feel i will miss home too much and acted stupidly....but i did finally make right on that decision!!! ;)

but, but, if u had gone, u wouldn't have been able to hang out with us at HoG, etc etc... and u wouldn't be known as 'dino'...

of course, all these may mean absolutely nothing to u.... :crying: (heartbroken)... sob... sob..

[buff]

Lav, if i am wrong on this i apologize but i would say this to you.
The reason this is happening is because of 2 things.
1) You take to heart people's opinion about you.
2) You sorta in a way pratice self-pity(i've been there myself)....

I can tell you that i was theading along these lines when i was in my 20's and that 2 things can break you to the core. Since i came to the US, i learn that you need tell people to F*** Off if they intrude on your life. If you are not doing anything wrong(eg. you gave advise and people say you show off), people have got no right to judge you. If they judge you, well, tell them to FO....

Secondly, self pity....a horrible,horrible thing to have. I use to do that a lot. Self pity is like a chain of pitifuless of youself, once you get a hold of this chain, you keep pulling the chin till no end, and the next thing you know, you are in such a dire state of emotional shit that you feel yourself worthless.
Nowadays, when i think of something that make me depress, i straight away think of other things, it comes with pratice. Trust me, its worth it to master the art of letting go of your self-pity subjects. My life has been great once i master this.

So learn to say FO and let go of your self pity attitude. :)

yep, this boy has grown up :laugh:

[Dino]

but, but, if u had gone, u wouldn't have been able to hang out with us at HoG, etc etc... and u wouldn't be known as 'dino'...

of course, all these may mean absolutely nothing to u.... :crying: (heartbroken)... sob... sob..

True also....but as the story goes, things happen for a reason....trust me, one of my happy times was with you guys in KL.....tar kei and buffets....sigh!! life was good!!

[LiLiaN]

but, but, if u had gone, u wouldn't have been able to hang out with us at HoG, etc etc... and u wouldn't be known as 'dino'...

of course, all these may mean absolutely nothing to u.... :crying: (heartbroken)... sob... sob..there there... don't cry... *pass tissue along*

[Dino]

really? and here i am, thinking you guys must have been given tons to peel! but hey, you had some good sauce recipe back in the recipe thread, so there must have been some advantage, right..? ;)

Well....i actually made some good friends back then. Could you believe that Nazlan's brother was my classmate in Hotel School. Small world i tell you!!

[LiLiaN]

Well....i actually made some good friends back then. Could you believe that Nazlan's brother was my classmate in Hotel School. Small world i tell you!!wow, small world indeed... see, the alternative route to what-that-could-have-been is not a bad one to walk on, isn't it..? :)

[buff]

there there... don't cry... *pass tissue along*

thanks *wipes tears with tissue*.... :o

[LiLiaN]

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

[Lava Gal]

Lav, if i am wrong on this i apologize but i would say this to you.
The reason this is happening is because of 2 things.
1) You take to heart people's opinion about you.
2) You sorta in a way pratice self-pity(i've been there myself)....

oh yea..i agree with u dino...used to be in the rot, coz of wanting to be accepted...hated loneliness...now, things are pretty much similar (though not the same)...have embraced it instead, and using it to my advantage!

recently, lotsa things were going on around me...kindof surprised myself coz
1/ I was pretty indifferent, since its people's attitude...nothing i can do if tatz wat they wanna do, backstab!
2/ Take lesser time to forgive ppl who do that, and easier to let go...and life in present.
3/ didnt BLAME MYSELF (wic is wat i usually do, rather than pity!) or pity myself...was able to see things clearly...
....and moving on dee!

this might sound arrogant, but then...i just tell myself, by not reacting to the external stimulus created by people...i am a better individual than those people :amused: better to be proactive instead...live, & let live

[Dino]

thanks *wipes tears with tissue*.... :o

Awwww...poor buff....don't cry hoorr....i'll ask your mommy to get the milk with milo ready for you to drink hoorr.....pat,pat,pat!!!

[Dino]

oh yea..i agree with u dino...used to be in the rot, coz of wanting to be accepted...hated loneliness...now, things are pretty much similar (though not the same)...have embraced it instead, and using it to my advantage!

recently, lotsa things were going on around me...kindof surprised myself coz
1/ I was pretty indifferent, since its people's attitude...nothing i can do if tatz wat they wanna do, backstab!
2/ Take lesser time to forgive ppl who do that, and easier to let go...and life in present.
3/ didnt BLAME MYSELF (wic is wat i usually do, rather than pity!) or pity myself...was able to see things clearly...
....and moving on dee!

this might sound arrogant, but then...i just tell myself, by not reacting to the external stimulus created by people...i am a better individual than those people :amused: better to be proactive instead...live, & let live


As long as it works for you, keep it up!! You are who you are and that is what makes us all unique!!! :)

[Lava Gal]

I was in Hotel School..... :o
eh eh....why shy???
its good what;) since u know how to cook & all now...and dino, girls like guys who know cooking! :cheesy:

[Dino]

eh eh....why shy???
its good what;) since u know how to cook & all now...and dino, girls like guys who know cooking! :cheesy:

I like it better if the girls can cook for me!!! :laugh:

[Lava Gal]

the way to a man's heart is indeed thru his stomach, eh dino?

[Dino]

the way to a man's heart is indeed thru his stomach, eh dino?

True to the core!!!!

[Lava Gal]

wat core....apple core??

[Dino]

wat core....apple core??

Means, its genuinely true....

[Lava Gal]

Yup, simply kacau again...dun whack me ah:p

yeah...good tat lilz created that thread...nother round of interesting discussions to look out for

btw just found this a pretty awesome thread...and it deserved 5 star ranking:D

[Sarah]

5 star rankingg??? ooh...thanks lavanya...

Dino is really right.. I may not be bold enough to tell ppl off, i may still hv to swallow the bitter pill sometimes... buutt... one thing he sure is right...

SELF-PITY!! that's a deadly weapon against yourself... it can really bring the worst out of a person and its really devastating...

I'm practicing this to.. that whenever the bad thoughts come to me.. i will ignore it and say to myself "No!That is not true"..

[Chris C]

Cry my eye-balls out? Done that tons of times during younger days.......have to 'grow up', when I was only 6 1/2 yrs old when my mum passed away and helped take care of my baby sis who was only 1 1/2 yrs old then, had a step-mum who made life hell for us, friends, plenty, but I was many people's best friend, but they were never mine, envied others and was envied back,married and had to deal with in-laws, gone thru' miscarriages and tears would just fall from my eyes when I see advertisements of babies on t.v., and many more..........

But all these had made me stronger and I'm blessed that everything has turn out well now. I learn to appreaciate what I have, and by doing this, u learn to be contended with what u have and who u are. Never compare yourself with the few people who are better than u are but compare yourself with the millions that are in worst of situation than u are........so doesn't that makes u feel fortunate? This is something we cannot deny, we could be any of them.....in war torn countries, in poverty, living in abuse, hunger and so many other sad situation.But we're not, so we should be really thankfull.

Whenever I used to feel unhappy, I would think of this, and it helps me to feel much better and instead of feeling self-pity, I feel I'm so blessed. Life is full of ups and downs, learn to flow with it with a smile, even when u're crying.

[darthvader]

greatest regret in my life ? hmmm....come to think of it, none. of course there was a particular incident where a good friend passed away. ask for help. none came. started blaming the only "one" who cares. took me a few years before patching up with "him". a test, nevertheless....but it wasn't easy. glad that it is over. and yes, a new beginning ! yahoo !!!!!!!!! :D

[athena]

this is a very interesting thread.

I was once told by a friend, "I always regret about the things that I did not do!" ..i answered my friend " I always regret about the things I DID!" ..

Most of the time, I would just go ahead and do things rather than consider too long. I feel, the longer you consider, the bigger the task seems to be.

Maybe age is catching up with me, I am not so daring anymore, so dare not do more things already :laugh:

[KoChun]

this is a very interesting thread.

I was once told by a friend, "I always regret about the things that I did not do!" ..i answered my friend " I always regret about the things I DID!" ..

Most of the time, I would just go ahead and do things rather than consider too long. I feel, the longer you consider, the bigger the task seems to be.

Maybe age is catching up with me, I am not so daring anymore, so dare not do more things already :laugh:
This is the joke of the day!!!

Age is catching up with you, Athena? :laugh:

[Voon Chan]

Joke of the day
If age it catching up with Ath
I am damn old!

[athena]

This is the joke of the day!!!

Age is catching up with you, Athena? :laugh:
hahaha...no longer sap-pat ya-yee(18-22) ahha...


but reallly, when I was studying, i was more daring.......more like nike's Just Do It! slogan. haha..now no more....

[KoChun]

hahaha...no longer sap-pat ya-yee(18-22) ahha...


but reallly, when I was studying, i was more daring.......more like nike's Just Do It! slogan. haha..now no more....
That I cannot deny, kids have more courage (or maybe they don't know what is danger).

Ever see lots of adults playing in Genting Theme Park? No, right? Mostly kids. The older we get, the more kiasi we become.

[Dino]

That I cannot deny, kids have more courage (or maybe they don't know what is danger).

Ever see lots of adults playing in Genting Theme Park? No, right? Mostly kids. The older we get, the more kiasi we become.

Ahem..ahem....Wanna bet.....

[KoChun]

Ahem..ahem....Wanna bet.....
Re-quote, mostly Malaysians. :p

[Dino]

Re-quote, mostly Malaysians. :p

I think i still get scared getting whacked by Kg. Cina gangsters!!!

[KoChun]

I think i still get scared getting whacked by Kg. Cina gangsters!!!
Me from Kg Cina, me no scared. However, me scared of the Spg Tiga gangsters. :laugh:

[Dino]

Me from Kg Cina, me no scared. However, me scared of the Spg Tiga gangsters. :laugh:

Ditto!!

[LiLiaN]

That I cannot deny, kids have more courage (or maybe they don't know what is danger).

Ever see lots of adults playing in Genting Theme Park? No, right? Mostly kids. The older we get, the more kiasi we become.in that case i'm still a kid at heart... love those adventurous rides with thrills!!!

[Lava Gal]

Whenever I used to feel unhappy, I would think of this, and it helps me to feel much better and instead of feeling self-pity, I feel I'm so blessed. Life is full of ups and downs, learn to flow with it with a smile, even when u're crying.
well chris...i love this last para very much :)

hmmm...u went thru tough times indeed...but now blessed wif 2 pretty girls...and emerging stronger:D way to go, che-che! ---<@ for u...

life is indeed a blessing in disguise; i believe tat though others dun see u as their fren...never stop being one to others...a good one too :D
coz ultimately, wat goes round comes round...

[Lava Gal]

5 star rankingg??? ooh...thanks lavanya...

Dino is really right.. I may not be bold enough to tell ppl off, i may still hv to swallow the bitter pill sometimes... buutt... one thing he sure is right...

SELF-PITY!! that's a deadly weapon against yourself... it can really bring the worst out of a person and its really devastating...

I'm practicing this to.. that whenever the bad thoughts come to me.. i will ignore it and say to myself "No!That is not true"..
welcome Artie :)

to tell people off...hmmm...generally people tell me i have quite high tolerance level (not bragging...eventually still grow "horns" or near eruption) coz there's a limit to everything la, right. rather than going into self-pity, more imp to consider if there is a prob...and work it out with involved parties.
and back to bout TELLING OFF...i believe it can be done tactfully ;) so tat dun ruin d r/whip...yet get d message across...

[Voon Chan]

Live life
Don't have regret as we cannot turn back the clock
Look forward not back
Appreciate what you have
Live the moment
Cease the day

Happiness is within onself

[Lava Gal]

in that case i'm still a kid at heart... love those adventurous rides with thrills!!!
tatz good :)
though the body's aging cant be stopped; the mind's can;)

[Lava Gal]

Live life
Don't have regret as we cannot turn back the clock
Look forward not back
Appreciate what you have
Live the moment
Cease the day

Happiness is within onself
Vey well said, indeed! beginning 4m 1st line --> laast line...sometimes i believe many of us forget to LIVE life....instead see it as a routine/burden.

btw VC, did u mean Seize?

[Voon Chan]

Vey well said, indeed! beginning 4m 1st line --> laast line...sometimes i believe many of us forget to LIVE life....instead see it as a routine/burden.is a burden we all accumulate & carry until we die
We never learn to let go

[Lava Gal]

Letting Go....uhm....tough...but can be gradually achieved, practise needed;)

[Voon Chan]

Letting Go....uhm....tough...but can be gradually achieved, practise needed;)more training required

[dontbullshit]

Can we turn back the clock and redo what was not perfect?? :sad-2:

[Lava Gal]

as the answer is a definite no....it all boils down to this:) (http://www.acs-sitiawan.com/forum/showthread.php?t=2160&highlight=blessings)

[Sarah]

Cry my eye-balls out? Done that tons of times during younger days.......have to 'grow up', when I was only 6 1/2 yrs old when my mum passed away and helped take care of my baby sis who was only 1 1/2 yrs old then, had a step-mum who made life hell for us, friends, plenty, but I was many people's best friend, but they were never mine, envied others and was envied back,married and had to deal with in-laws, gone thru' miscarriages and tears would just fall from my eyes when I see advertisements of babies on t.v., and many more..........

But all these had made me stronger and I'm blessed that everything has turn out well now. I learn to appreaciate what I have, and by doing this, u learn to be contended with what u have and who u are. Never compare yourself with the few people who are better than u are but compare yourself with the millions that are in worst of situation than u are........so doesn't that makes u feel fortunate? This is something we cannot deny, we could be any of them.....in war torn countries, in poverty, living in abuse, hunger and so many other sad situation.But we're not, so we should be really thankfull.

Whenever I used to feel unhappy, I would think of this, and it helps me to feel much better and instead of feeling self-pity, I feel I'm so blessed. Life is full of ups and downs, learn to flow with it with a smile, even when u're crying.

Dear Chris, you have no idea how encouraging that was... How every true! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!

[Lava Gal]

My turn to share view...i'v been commenting on others' & not realli shared my own so far.

well, Not realli a regret...i still believe it is a blessing in disguise...though havent been able to see through the disguise yet.

sometimes i really wish i can run away 4m here & start afresh elsewhere....coz i feel i am a misfit in this uni...this environment...wish at times tat i never came in here...dun get me wrong, i LOVE medicine...but it feels as if im in the wrong place...given the situations surrounding me since i entered...there've been periods of bliss :); short, treasured moments & ppl...and these kindof frenz do slip in & out of my life...am glad that i do have good frens, close at heart, though far in distance.

+ i think me being here is all part of a plan...which shall reveal itself over time...its juz the WHY?? but trying to look at things objectively..lol....i am growing up!
otherwise...i believe like VC said, LIVE LIFE...and it shud be done without regrets or grudges...so CHEERS!!!

Come 2 think of it, this Q is soooo like one of the Miss Wolrd/Universe finalists Qs ;)

[Chris C]

Dear Chris, you have no idea how encouraging that was... How every true! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
You're welcome dear........always remember to lift up your head and smile, the road ahead for u is still long, and i wish u all the best in life. :)

[Chris C]

well chris...i love this last para very much :)

hmmm...u went thru tough times indeed...but now blessed wif 2 pretty girls...and emerging stronger:D way to go, che-che! ---<@ for u...

life is indeed a blessing in disguise; i believe tat though others dun see u as their fren...never stop being one to others...a good one too :D
coz ultimately, wat goes round comes round...

And for u dear, be happy with true friends that u still have. U can't expect the whole world to love u, and I'm sure u can't love everyone back as well,whatever -ve remarks that comes your way, except it with an open mind, those things will eventually help u to become a better and stronger person. All the best in your life.

[Lava Gal]

planning to improve myself in these regions...

1/ i wasted a chance in SWIMMING, attended classes in TLDM at the age of 6 or 7...more than 1/2 a yr, i remember learning frog kicks...then suddenly developed water phobia, i'd refuse to enter water & all...disappointed my parents and instructor :(
dunno which "water ghost" did tat to me...in yrs to come, phobia subsided, i'd play around in water...but swimming skills lost lor :(

am planning to learn...hopefully plan materializes *keepin fingers crossed*

2/ being a Msian...i wish i knew Chinese too!!
esp when it comes to clinics & Chinese pts in hosp...would be an added boon.
last yr...did learn from my batchmates, some kind enuff to translate.
Most used phrase wud be "yao mo tong?"...must start picking up again lar, esp as now im the onli non-chinese in my grp of 10 students.

[LiLiaN]

wow, lav, korek such an old thread out ah..
anyway, never too late to learn swimming and language...

[Lava Gal]

talking bout swimming in cucuan's thread...reminded me of this:p
so since its still open...hehehe

[KoChun]

Okay, too many old threads in the forum lately. Too much dust.

Thread closed.