how many children to have?

[daBoss]

i guess if i have the time and money, i'd like to have 6 children :) but to be practical, i think i can only afford 2 or 3. we're considering a 3rd kid - definitely not this year - may in 2 years time.

how many kids do you think a standard family should have in this day and age?

[Alkapocino]

i guess if i have the time and money, i'd like to have 6 children :) but to be practical, i think i can only afford 2 or 3. we're considering a 3rd kid - definitely not this year - may in 2 years time.

how many kids do you think a standard family should have in this day and age?
Ideally I want to have half a dozen too. Practically 2 or 3 the most. :(

[LiLiaN]

4 - 2 of each? just throwing figures here...
afterall, i'm not a parent so don't know what it's like.. ;)

[daBoss]

i think 4 is a bit heavy lah - both in terms of expenses and time...

after thinking about it, i think 2 boys + 1 girl very good combination...

[Alkapocino]

i think 4 is a bit heavy lah - both in terms of expenses and time...

after thinking about it, i think 2 boys + 1 girl very good combination...
You have a boy and a baby girl already. So, should your next baby is a girl, try again for a boy okay? :laugh:

[KoChun]

I would like to have 3-4, if I can afford. Still long way to go for me, no need to worry so much now. Right ah?

[Dino]

Well....i am a bachelor...no comment!!!! :p
But i will say in this day and age it all depends on if you want to send your kids overseas for education or not. Local Uni....well...not that easy to enter laaa....not saying your children is not smart....but we play probabilty laaa...

For US....the general guidelins these days is about USD40-50k per year per child for a 4 year degree.

UK....i am guessing about 10-15k UK pounds per year.....so thats still quite a chunk but definately cheaper than US.....

Australia and N.Zealand...should be about the same for UK(I think)

Local Uni's....errr.....dem difficult to get it.....not all people can get there....

Of course u can argue that my kid can get scholarship but there is only so much of that around....

Bottomline....all depends on what you want for your children.

And with that reasoning...i am voting 0 kids, too expensive and all that is not including a whole dem lot of hidden cost!! :p

[shiruikage]

i'd say 3 kids. total of 5 in da family, a nice round figure. :)

[KoChun]

i'd say 3 kids. total of 5 in da family, a nice round figure. :)
Haha, just enough to to squeeze into one car. No need to buy MPV, right?

[shiruikage]

Haha, just enough to to squeeze into one car. No need to buy MPV, right?
exactly! and they can still fit into Mitsubishi Lancer Evo IX!!! Purrrrrrrfect!

[Sila]

i'm partial to 2 myself - i had a good time with hisham, 1 boy 1 girl. vin & i think 2 is affordable, possibly 3 if finances are good. but i don't want to deal with the middle child syndrome lah. oldest + youngest, ngam ngam habis cerita. if cannot be 1 boy 1 girl, i prefer it to be 2 boys. dunno what to do with girls lah - will raise them like boys nanti!! :laugh:

[shiruikage]

i'm partial to 2 myself - i had a good time with hisham, 1 boy 1 girl. vin & i think 2 is affordable, possibly 3 if finances are good. but i don't want to deal with the middle child syndrome lah. oldest + youngest, ngam ngam habis cerita. if cannot be 1 boy 1 girl, i prefer it to be 2 boys. dunno what to do with girls lah - will raise them like boys nanti!! :laugh:
lol, the coolest soccer mum! bend it like beckam supermum!

[Sila]

lol, the coolest soccer mum! bend it like beckam supermum!
:D what to do - i always ikut hisham, so was a tomboy all my life. vin has 3 brothers. so the 2 of us dunno anything about girls, really. although i must say, little girls clothes are SO cute... :D boys not too much variety lah. shirt and trousers or shorts. girls got dresses and skirts and ribbons and all kinds of stuff as well as the usual shirt and trousers...

[shiruikage]

:D what to do - i always ikut hisham, so was a tomboy all my life. vin has 3 brothers. so the 2 of us dunno anything about girls, really. although i must say, little girls clothes are SO cute... :D boys not too much variety lah. shirt and trousers or shorts. girls got dresses and skirts and ribbons and all kinds of stuff as well as the usual shirt and trousers...
u know what they say, sugar and spice and everything nice. while the boys are tractors and [CENCORED! :squeeze: ] and everything drinking DOMs...hehehe.

[Sila]

u know what they say, sugar and spice and everything nice. while the boys are tractors and [CENCORED! :squeeze: ] and everything drinking DOMs...hehehe.
hmmm what was censored ni ha? ;)

[buff]

i guess if i have the time and money, i'd like to have 6 children :) but to be practical, i think i can only afford 2 or 3. we're considering a 3rd kid - definitely not this year - may in 2 years time.

how many kids do you think a standard family should have in this day and age?

dei, have mercy on the wifey lah

[shiruikage]

hmmm what was censored ni ha? ;)
wat starts with c and rhymes with DOMs? DOM, as in hard liquor.

[buff]

i'm partial to 2 myself - i had a good time with hisham, 1 boy 1 girl. vin & i think 2 is affordable, possibly 3 if finances are good. but i don't want to deal with the middle child syndrome lah. oldest + youngest, ngam ngam habis cerita. if cannot be 1 boy 1 girl, i prefer it to be 2 boys. dunno what to do with girls lah - will raise them like boys nanti!! :laugh:

can dress the girls up in your favourite barbie outfit... :p

[shiruikage]

maybe sila heard the following commercial:
"we always go for the tall, dark and handsome types, but there comes a time in life when we all go for the short and bald type. ..."
ending quote: life changes with a baby.

[siewhaw]

I think 3 should be a practical number nowadays. At least one boy in the family. Hihi....I'm hoping for twins. None in my generation so far. The last one was my dad's generation....2 pairs of twins.

Any tips on how to get twins? :p

[Sila]

can dress the girls up in your favourite barbie outfit... :p
i had 1 barbie growing up, and always the poor barbie kept getting bullied by the stuffed animals lah.. they sorok her clothes, twist her head backwards, made fun of her unrealistic proportions, and the fact that she had no fur like the animals.. :D seriously - then hisham would bully poor barbie with his transformer toys. then i said, damn, transformers much cooler than barbie. all you can do with barbie is change her clothes! transformers can transform into something else completely!! :D

okla okla i admit. i got a barbie to join the girls, but i seldom played with her. rather play with hisham's toys...

[Sila]

I think 3 should be a practical number nowadays. At least one boy in the family. Hihi....I'm hoping for twins. None in my generation so far. The last one was my dad's generation....2 pairs of twins.

Any tips on how to get twins? :p
curi from the hospital?? :smile-2:

[shiruikage]

curi from the hospital?? :smile-2:
jahat! :laugh:
seriously tho, try pregnancy inducers (dangerous),hormone injections (also dangerous) or just plain in-vitro fertalisation (boring). the last one almost always gets a twin, triplets or quaduplets.

[monay]

i think if i had started early, no morning sickness, got maid(s) n means, a dozen sounds great. Been reading this book, real life story of a couple who decided to hav 12 n did, their children grew up n wrote it... amazing....titles:cheaper by the dozen n follow up sequel :belles on their toes (had me rolling in laughter)
BUT, 4 sounds more practical n an even luvly number...
IN REALITY, i guess i'll stop at 2. the morning sickness really killed that thot...
really admire those who hav more than 2 though.....

[euj]

for me anything will do. really want to have some kids. just haven't had the opportunity yet. i guess 2 or 3 would be just nice, but definitely not just 1...

[monay]

agree with u, definitely not just 1! i grew up as an only child until 18 n i was always looking for playmates...

[euj]

yeah, i was single child for 8 years till i managed to convince my parents to have another kid. it's scary knowing that you're the only child. feel all alone in the universe...

[Sarah]

hm.. i would like to have 4 kids if I'm financially able (and also depending on the age i have my 1st baby) but to be practical, might just stop at 2... sigh...sad...

[daBoss]

looks like everyone says ideal is 4-6 but only planning either 2 or 3...

[Sila]

looks like everyone says ideal is 4-6 but only planning either 2 or 3...
oh not me - i refuse to have 4-6... i oredi told vin, if he's expecting 4-6, 2-4 of these babies should be coming out of him and not me!!! :laugh: 2, possibly 3 is what i would think is ideal...

[daBoss]

i oredi told vin, if he's expecting 4-6, 2-4 of these babies should be coming out of him and not me...
that's a great deal!!! :) what did he say? "ok, i'll do just that honey"...

[Sila]

that's a great deal!!! :) what did he say? "ok, i'll do just that honey"...
heeheeeheeee... no one can say i'm not honest, right? ;)

[amelia7]

Me thot you also wanted 12...one football team and one reserve?

i think if i had started early, no morning sickness, got maid(s) n means, a dozen sounds great. Been reading this book, real life story of a couple who decided to hav 12 n did, their children grew up n wrote it... amazing....titles:cheaper by the dozen n follow up sequel :belles on their toes (had me rolling in laughter)
BUT, 4 sounds more practical n an even luvly number...
IN REALITY, i guess i'll stop at 2. the morning sickness really killed that thot...
really admire those who hav more than 2 though.....

[amelia7]

yeah! And sometimes when your 'playmates' come they have to stay...you would lock the door so that they cannot balik. Right??? :D

agree with u, definitely not just 1! i grew up as an only child until 18 n i was always looking for playmates...

[Voon Chan]

I really want to have 2 but my wife would only agree to 1. I can only settle for 1

[jerrychoo2004]

i would like to have 5...but hehehe same as u guys lor financial problem
so most probably will settle for 2 first......hmmmm i don have yet wife yet......HELP!!!!!!!!

[monay]

yeah! And sometimes when your 'playmates' come they have to stay...you would lock the door so that they cannot balik. Right??? :D
ssshhh.. not so loud, rahsia semua pecah....

[amelia7]

never mind, still can change your mind...for years we were like that...then we changed our minds. There is still hope yet!
I really want to have 2 but my wife would only agree to 1. I can only settle for 1

[amelia7]

i think many know lah....i think nai king and nai hooi were the most regular 'victims'...

ssshhh.. not so loud, rahsia semua pecah....

[PreciousPearl]

must plan ahead mah.....kids r expensive biznez these days.
but i take one look at cavebaby & think it's all worth it - all the morning sickness, 36 hr labour, c-section etc etc.
and then now have to be chauffeur, maidservant, payer of many fees, buyer of many Barbies and stuffed toys......it's luverly innit?
for the record, i'm stopping at one! :laugh:
(Sila & other no-kids-yets, don't let me put u off, kids are a real joy, honest guv)

[clos]

2 is enuf for me...headache!

[Voon Chan]

2 is enuf for me...headache!kamkuey fever , you headache

[clos]

kamkuey fever , you headache

wat da ya mean??? :noworry:

[Voon Chan]

wat da ya mean??? :noworry:he post fever, you posted headache. That is all

[song cm]

2 is enuf for me...headache!

haha...i wanted 4....now, i really feel dat 2 is more than enaf.....but, I won't mind no 3 if i can have a baby girl....

[Voon Chan]

haha...i wanted 4....now, i really feel dat 2 is more than enaf.....but, I won't mind no 3 if i can have a baby girl....just do it

[song cm]

just do it
hey...easier said than done......some much commitment.....

[monay]

must plan ahead mah.....kids r expensive biznez these days.
but i take one look at cavebaby & think it's all worth it - all the morning sickness, 36 hr labour, c-section etc etc.

second time around, the labour would be much easier....n use epidural.... i was so stooopid to pass on that the first time... :o

[daBoss]

dalady didn't want epidural both times... good oso... save some money... :)

[monay]

wow....i did not want anybody poking around back in my spinal cord too, but i am glad i did the second time, the anesthetist was really good n quick...

[Sila]

i think i have to say (having never gone through childbirth but only heard about it) that i am going to say "give me the damn drugs!!!" :D

[PreciousPearl]

actually i was orait, quite focused and determined until cavebaby refused to budge....then the midwife called the doctor and they gave me the gas. after that i was all over the place. finally had spinal block & c-section. defnitly NOT fun, but excelllent quality of life with cavebaby more than makes up for it!
holding my baby for the first time ever and giving her milk is what i remember, not the orful stuff.

[athena]

i think i have to say (having never gone through childbirth but only heard about it) that i am going to say "give me the damn drugs!!!" :D
sila darling, i think i'll probably be like you.....just whip up a cocktail for me!

[siewjang]

I think nowadays ppl will stop at two if they have a boy and a girl. (That's me! :) )

[song cm]

I think nowadays ppl will stop at two if they have a boy and a girl. (That's me! :) )

haha...so, the third one is a bonus isit?? :D

[jerrychoo2004]

nope...the third is oooppppssss....honey i forgot to put the condom on.... :laugh:

[song cm]

sila darling, i think i'll probably be like you.....just whip up a cocktail for me!

dat is one expensive cocktail indeed.....RM600 per session.... :D

[athena]

dat is one expensive cocktail indeed.....RM600 per session.... :D
haha....like that, why don't the guys take over child birth? haha....

but still, my mom ( she has plenty of Gynae experience, nurse mah) tells me, should opt not to take the cocktail!

[Voon Chan]

nope...the third is oooppppssss....honey i forgot to put the condom on.... :laugh:is your gf expecting now?:laugh:

[siewjang]

haha...so, the third one is a bonus isit?? :D
Yeah, big bonus and it doesn't matter whether it's a girl or a boy anymore.

[h2o]

i think if i had started early, no morning sickness, got maid(s) n means, a dozen sounds great. Been reading this book, real life story of a couple who decided to hav 12 n did, their children grew up n wrote it... amazing....titles:cheaper by the dozen n follow up sequel :belles on their toes (had me rolling in laughter)
BUT, 4 sounds more practical n an even luvly number...
IN REALITY, i guess i'll stop at 2. the morning sickness really killed that thot...
really admire those who hav more than 2 though.....
more like 24-hr full-on nausea till the u r wheeled out of the labour ward!!!!! :p

[monay]

more like 24-hr full-on nausea till the u r wheeled out of the labour ward!!!!! :p
yeah, why do they call it morning sickness? it sure was a full day one for me.... :(

[Voon Chan]

yeah, why do they call it morning sickness? it sure was a full day one for me.... :(Yours must be all-day sickness